Please take my poll...

if you really want to... then have them! I'm not sure how much expensive they are, but it's your day!!!

(But me personally, since my FH is a cop, bag pipes just make me think of depressing moments & funerals so i wouldn't have them).

Can I ask for a clarifier?

Are you thinking of a bagpiper because of cultural reasons? family tradition? or just because you like the idea? (not to mention the bare legs and kilt . . . woohoo )

thanks. . . I'll reserve my vote until you respond . . .

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Posted by jakcat

Can I ask for a clarifier?

Are you thinking of a bagpiper because of cultural reasons? family tradition? or just because you like the idea? (not to mention the bare legs and kilt . . . woohoo )

thanks. . . I'll reserve my vote until you respond . . .

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My family is irish & I wanted to add a touch of the irish to my wedding.

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Posted by aliwnec10

if you really want to... then have them! I'm not sure how much expensive they are, but it's your day!!!

(But me personally, since my FH is a cop, bag pipes just make me think of depressing moments & funerals so i wouldn't have them).

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My Aunt said the same thing - it reminds her of funerals. That is why I am so confused

the bag pipers are a nice touch. are they going to break the bank for you? If not, get them!!!

You only get married once.

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Posted by KellyBride

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Posted by jakcat

Can I ask for a clarifier?

Are you thinking of a bagpiper because of cultural reasons? family tradition? or just because you like the idea? (not to mention the bare legs and kilt . . . woohoo )

thanks. . . I'll reserve my vote until you respond . . .

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My family is irish & I wanted to add a touch of the irish to my wedding.

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you should do this if you want especially since you are irish.

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Posted by KellyBride

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Posted by jakcat

Can I ask for a clarifier?

Are you thinking of a bagpiper because of cultural reasons? family tradition? or just because you like the idea? (not to mention the bare legs and kilt . . . woohoo )

thanks. . . I'll reserve my vote until you respond . . .

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My family is irish & I wanted to add a touch of the irish to my wedding.

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Okay, just wanted to be sure it wasn't just coming out of left field. . . like you're both middle eastern or vietnamese and you just thought they might be cool if that were the case I would have to say no because it would just seem a little odd. . . but since you are Irish, I think that it would definately add to the ambiance of the day and while it may seem funereal to some, I think to others it would be a beautiful addition to a beautiful day. SO, if you can afford it (I don't know the cost) I say go for it! Good Luck

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Posted by kittythestray

I love them & are having them. We have absolutely no cultural ties, we just want them. My mom is paying for it because she loves them, too. I probably wouldn't do it if I had to pay for it myself. I never associate them with funerals. Brides have their bridesmaids in all black, and I'm sure some people think of funerals with that, but I think it's VERY elegant.

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well it's a totally different thing when your FH is a cop or a fireman because you end up going to tons of funerals and they're always played, so it sort of becomes a dreaded sound so to speak. But if your FH is not a cop/fireman than its hard to understand. I don't quite understand your statement about the BM dresses, but to each their own.

*If you want to incorporate the irish background in your wedding... than i say go for it! do what makes you happy! i think it would be a nice addition for your wedding!

Oh DEFINITELY!!!!
Love them.
I am Irish, and everyuone in my family is in the FDNY.
I have been to sooo many funerals, and soooo many weddings. Heard bagpipes at both.
The music is totally different. As long as they dont play Amazing Grace, it wont seem like a funeral.

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Posted by Naunie

As long as they dont play Amazing Grace, it wont seem like a funeral.

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Oh thats a good point! I didn't even think of that!

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Posted by aliwnec10

I don't quite understand your statement about the BM dresses, but to each their own.

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I remember I was at a friend's wedding where she had black BM dresses and the groom's grandmother said 'Why did she pick BLACK, it's not a funeral.' I think sometimes older people get really hung up on what the 'tradition' was when they were young. Of course, if that were the case I'd have to wear RED because I have had *gasp* pre-marital relations!! I see your point about your FH. I didn't realize they had bag piper's at the funerals of officers.

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Posted by kittythestray

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Posted by aliwnec10

I don't quite understand your statement about the BM dresses, but to each their own.

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I remember I was at a friend's wedding where she had black BM dresses and the groom's grandmother said 'Why did she pick BLACK, it's not a funeral.' I think sometimes older people get really hung up on what the 'tradition' was when they were young. Of course, if that were the case I'd have to wear RED because I have had *gasp* pre-marital relations!! I see your point about your FH. I didn't realize they had bag piper's at the funerals of officers.

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Oh okay i understand now. I'm sure having the BM's wear black nowadays is very new, especially to older generations. Good point!

Both FH and I are Irish and both agree that bagpipers are right for funerals, I associate bagpipes w/sadness so I wouldn't have them at my wedding. IMO

P.S. I hope I haven't insulted anyone who is having bagpipes at their wedding, this is just mine and FH's personal view point.

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Posted by aliwnec10

(But me personally, since my FH is a cop, bag pipes just make me think of depressing moments & funerals so i wouldn't have them).

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I was going to say the same thing...

but I think when it IS associated with a wedding, it's a happier, special feel. I know someone on here (I forgot who) brought in bagpipers DURING the reception to perform and for everyone to dance to. Is that an option for you?