PLZ HELP Is a thursday wedding bad idea? Guest list too long help!
CaseyCase
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So I had wanted a Sunday wedding and figured on about 120 people. However I made a rough guest list and ended up with 175 people!!!!! My mom hasn't even looked it over yet and I know there will be more to add and these are all people I feel I must invite, none of them are casual acquaintances at all. I couldn't sleep after I discovered this.
My moms advice to this was that I should consider having it on a Thursday. She reasons that it will 1 - be less expensive per person 2 - deter some of the people because that # is way higher than we would like, and she defends it by saying the people who REALLY want to be there will make it. At first I thought it was a decent idea but the more I think about it the more idk. I don't want to deter anyone or make it a hardship for people to come who really do want to come. Is a thursday wedding tacky? I already decided on no kids besides the flower girls and I really don't want to eliminate +guests. However, I don't want to end up with 150 people on a Sunday either especially because most of the RH's I like are on the smaller side. I am considering halls on the water on the South Shore such as Chateau la mer, Riviera, Venetian Yacht Club, Captain Bills, Snapper Inn,etc. Any thoughts, advice, or opinions I would be extremely grateful for!!!
jesstangney
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Riviera can handle over 150 people, their minimum for a sat evening is 120 - I've seen it with 175 and it still had more room....
I don't like the idea of Thursday weddings, even if you are hoping to reduce the number of guests, you end up having A LOT of people that you would want there unable to come. I think the only way that I would go to a Thursday wedding is if it was my bro, sis, or best best BEST friend.... and I would likely be a b1tch about it (no offense) it's just that it involves taking off from work at least that Friday, probably at least a half a day that Thursday too... and your Bridal party will be in a bad position too.... I am sorry to girls that are doing Thursday weddings, to each his own (her own) but I am very much against them.... you can check out Friday Evening weddings or doing it during an off season, like november thru march!
CantWaitMrsH
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Ill be honest ... I am sure family and close friends will come, but I do think many would pass if on a Thursday. That is a very difficult day for people to attend a wedding.
Why not do a Friday or a Sunday? Both days tend to be less expensive then a Saturday. Or you can do it on the 'off season'?
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i think it would be absolutely fine to have it on a thursday! when we were looking at reception halls i was told thurs is the new friday =) i wanted to do Thurs but i had a conflict.. if it saves money i say go for it
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Posted by Soapgirl4ever
i think it would be absolutely fine to have it on a thursday! when we were looking at reception halls i was told thurs is the new friday =) i wanted to do Thurs but i had a conflict.. if it saves money i say go for it
I have def not heard that... but like I said to each their own! I've been to only one Friday night wedding and the only reason I even went to the ceremony was because it was for my best friend, both me & fh had to take off.... I would suggest Sat day, or Sun OR off season... Riviera is GORGEOUS during the winter, FH and I were toying with postponing the wedding just so we could do a winter wonderland themed wedding there... but then we decided we'd rather the summer. Stewart Manor CC has an AMAZING (and I mean AMAZING) deal for the winter - includes flowers, dj, limo, and a whole bunch else for like $60 pp!!!
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I think it is fine to have a Thursday wedding. I agree with your mother she makes some valid points. A Thursday might not be for everyone but you have to do what is right for you and your FH circumstances. There are quite a few girls on here that are having or who have had Thursday weddings. Best of luck with your decision.
LaBellaVita622
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We have been booked on a Thursday for 2 years now and I am hearing more and more of it. We were told the same thing about 'Thursday being the new Friday'. My bosses are Jewish and they were the ones who convinced me because it is very popular in their religion. My gf at work said her son went to wedding on a Monday night in July this past summer. The people who want to be there will be. We did not want Sunday wedding or a daytime wedding for and I love June so the off season months just wouldn't have been what we wanted. I can honestly say it was the smartest thing we did. We got some discounts on vendors also. FH and I work weekends so we have to take off when a wedding is on the weekend so that's not the most convenient for us, but we do it when we have to of course to support our friends and family. All of our guests have been NOTHING but supportive and can't wait for it!...it's those that aren't invited that have the comments..you and FH do what is best for YOU.
Tromsugar2b
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I know that as a bride you are picky andd want your own wayy, but maybe you want to check out some more RH's, cheaper RH's, so that you can have everyone there, if all these people are ppl you feel you HAVE to invite, than i feel like thats kinda harsh hoping that many wont come, you probably want them to be there, and thats more gifts for you too! lol.........but yea i think i would search around to do a friday or a sunday for cheaper, or possibly changing the date to a cheaper month, it really varies you'd be surprised!
LoveyDovey
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thursdays are totally fine!
i know 2 people who have done this
we were super close to booking a thursday but we got the pricing we wanted and were able to do it on a friday...but literally we were minutes away from signing a thursday contract
I think its ridiculous for you to feel like you are burdening people! bottom line is people who care about you will come to your wedding no matter when it is...your wedding could be on christmas and they would still make it!
also, consider having it on a thursday that is before a holiday weekend...like the thursday before labor day( that is what we we almost booked) people tend to take off on friday for a long weekend. if thursdays are inconvenient then sundays are just as incovenient people have to go to work on monday- are you inconveniencing them by making them tired???
are fridays incovenient too, bc people have to leave work early? i mean the list can go on and on!
its 5 hours out of your life...people who love you will come ANY day of the week...
do what you can afford!
and remember a 175 guestlist does not mean 175 will come
and p.s. check out Lombardi's on the Bay(i noticed you liked CLM and VYC)- Ana will work with you on price, they were so so so so helpful and amazing to work with. you might not have to settle for a thursday. the room holds 160 i believe..should be perfect for you!
this is your day, you are paying for it and anyone who wants to b*tch and moan can do just that and stay home! unless they are footing the bill they should not say a word!
jesstangney
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Posted by LoveyDovey if thursdays are inconvenient then sundays are just as incovenient people have to go to work on monday- are you inconveniencing them by making them tired???
are fridays incovenient too, bc people have to leave work early? i mean the list can go on and on!
I actually agree that Thursdays, Sundays & Fridays are inconvenient... but thats MY opinion. I would never do that. I've gone to Sunday daytime wedding for my cousin, which involved taking off the Monday (I was living upstate at the time). I also went to a Sunday NIGHT wedding which was ridic! It was a ton of fun but it was the 2nd monday I was working at a new job and didn't get home until 2 in the morning... it WAS inconvenient....
Like a lot of girls here said, it's YOUR wedding, and you have to do what is right for you & fh, if that means a Thursday wedding then go for it.... I just do not agree that it's a great day to have a wedding, or any party for that matter.... lOL I'm an old lady and don't even go out with the crew when they do the thursday night bar thing!
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I think Thursday is fine it that is what you want but you do have to realize there is a chance that some people may just not be able to make There is some inconvenience to a Thursday but then again there is an inconvenience a summer sat night wedding to I know people who changed their vacations to come.
celticbride
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I am getting married on a Thursday but only because the Friday is a Bank Holiday this year since NY Day falls on a Saturday so people will be off work anyway.
Other that that i must say i don't really agree with having Thursday weddings as people need nearly 2 days off. But it is your day.
jesstangney
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Posted by spdy540
I think Thursday is fine it that is what you want but you do have to realize there is a chance that some people may just not be able to make There is some inconvenience to a Thursday but then again there is an inconvenience a summer sat night wedding to I know people who changed their vacations to come.
LOL< that's what save the dates are for..... We have SOOO many family that are being invited from over seas - we are sending out the std's about 10 months in advance just so that they know.... We do not expect many of the family from Hong Kong to come in, but we know that many might.
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Posted by celticbride
I am getting married on a Thursday but only because the Friday is a Bank Holiday this year since NY Day falls on a Saturday so people will be off work anyway.
Other that that i must say i don't really agree with having Thursday weddings as people need nearly 2 days off. But it is your day.
That is the perfect way to do a Thursday wedding.... I think that will be a great night and a great way for you to start the new year!!! Good Luck!
ed: did you still get the great Thursday night discount seeing as it's the night before a holiday?
MrsCastanedain09
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I held my wedding on a Friday and wish I had just spent the extra $$ for Saturday. It was my only regret.
People showed up, great turn out but it was inconvenient. With that said, I am not a fan of Thursday weddings.
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Thursday is fine to have a wedding. Guests will have plenty of time to give notice for work or whatever else they have going on.
justnicethings
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If I got invited to a Thursday wedding, I'd likely not attend. Fridays are awesome, though.
AwaitingAugust
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i think thursday weddings are fine BUT your guests will probably not come to the ceremony (unless the ceremony is at night) and many will leave early because they don't want to be too tired for work the following day. If you're ok wtih that, then go for it.
Otherwise, stick with friday or sunday (sunday afternoons are cheaper than nights and your guests may appreciate getting home early-ish).
good luck
CaseyCase
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Hmm I am very torn because everything is cheaper on a thursday, the photographer, limos, flowers, entertainers, so I can have EVERYTHING I want at a great price and I can invite everyone I want, no need to cut down the guest list at all because even if everyone comes its still less than if 85% were to come on a sat or Sunday night. But I hate the thought of putting people through hardship, especially my bridal party and worry what people might really be thinking or saying about it behind my back. :(
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We are having a Thursday night rehersal dinner (for a couple different reasons) and a Saturday night wedding. Honestly, we have a large bridal party and everyone will be there but I actually did feel a bit badly....no one complained but people had to take off from work (either half day Thurs or Friday or Thurs and Friday) and find babysitters, etc. If your point is to dramatically cut down your guest list than I suppose it is a good choice because I think it will do exactly that. Unless it was a family member or a long weekend I am pretty sure I wouldn't swing a Thursday wedding....
