PLZ HELP Is a thursday wedding bad idea? Guest list too long help!
Original post by CaseyCase
So I had wanted a Sunday wedding and figured on about 120 people. However I made a rough guest list and ended up with 175 people!!!!! My mom hasn't even looked it over yet and I know there will be more to add and these are all people I feel I must invite, none of them are casual acquaintances at all. I couldn't sleep after I discovered this.
My moms advice to this was that I should consider having it on a Thursday. She reasons that it will 1 - be less expensive per person 2 - deter some of the people because that # is way higher than we would like, and she defends it by saying the people who REALLY want to be there will make it. At first I thought it was a decent idea but the more I think about it the more idk. I don't want to deter anyone or make it a hardship for people to come who really do want to come. Is a thursday wedding tacky? I already decided on no kids besides the flower girls and I really don't want to eliminate +guests. However, I don't want to end up with 150 people on a Sunday either especially because most of the RH's I like are on the smaller side. I am considering halls on the water on the South Shore such as Chateau la mer, Riviera, Venetian Yacht Club, Captain Bills, Snapper Inn,etc. Any thoughts, advice, or opinions I would be extremely grateful for!!!
DaniandKen2010
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Its fine as long as you send save the date's to let people know its on a Thurs.
rmiller2255
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What about a Sunday holiday weekend?
I know most places charge a Saturday price but Old Field Club doesn't!! That's why we booked with them, it's cheaper on a Sunday and most people don't have work on Monday. It's a smaller than most reception rooms but they can comfortably fit 150, the minimum for a Sunday is only 110. It's on the water, quaint and beautiful. FM me if you want more info.
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I am getting married on a Thursday but only because the Friday is a Bank Holiday this year since NY Day falls on a Saturday so people will be off work anyway.
Other that that i must say i don't really agree with having Thursday weddings as people need nearly 2 days off. But it is your day.
That is the perfect way to do a Thursday wedding.... I think that will be a great night and a great way for you to start the new year!!! Good Luck!
ed: did you still get the great Thursday night discount seeing as it's the night before a holiday?
We got a great deal and we are so happy. It is not your typical wedding hall. It is a steak house that has 3 levels. 1 of which is a function room. They hold all kinds of formal events. We have been to a few things there in the last few years and we love it and the food is amazing. The best part it is just off Time Square and we have 80 OOT guests from Ireland that will be here for the week to celebrate with us.
I can't wait.
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It's acceptable, but not ideal. I agree that it will definitely discourage some people from attending or discourage them from staying the whole time. The tough part is people may have to take off not one but two days depending on the time. If we weren't close, I probably wouldn't be able to attend or I'd have to at least arrive late or leave early depending on what days I could take off.
I'd rec'd looking into pricing for Sunday/Friday night before booking a Thursday.
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I am getting married on a Thursday but only because the Friday is a Bank Holiday this year since NY Day falls on a Saturday so people will be off work anyway.
Other that that i must say i don't really agree with having Thursday weddings as people need nearly 2 days off. But it is your day.
That is the perfect way to do a Thursday wedding.... I think that will be a great night and a great way for you to start the new year!!! Good Luck!
ed: did you still get the great Thursday night discount seeing as it's the night before a holiday?
We got a great deal and we are so happy. It is not your typical wedding hall. It is a steak house that has 3 levels. 1 of which is a function room. They hold all kinds of formal events. We have been to a few things there in the last few years and we love it and the food is amazing. The best part it is just off Time Square and we have 80 OOT guests from Ireland that will be here for the week to celebrate with us.
I can't wait.
OMG that sounds like so much fun... and now I'm drooling over the idea of steak... yuuuuuuuuummmmmmmyyyy! You will have soooo much fun! oh man, i'm so excited for you lol!
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I've been to a couple Thursday night weddings, and have left early each time because of work/school the next day. I think that is the only downside, that people may come late/leave early.
Also, do you have a lot of out of town guests? They would likely need to take 2 full days off as opposed to 1 (if it was a Friday night) or none (if it was a Saturday).
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I think Thursdays are fine and I was told by the RH that brides are opting for Thursdays now as well especially bc it's $35-40 less expensive than a Friday or Saturday! With that said, I chose a Thurday and I haven't had a problem with anyone so far especially being that we had originally planned on getting married in Costa Rica
I have been to weekday weddings and it's the same thing as going to a Sunday wedding. It's up to the guests if they are willing to take the next day off or not but you have to think positive, you're giving them an excuse to take a three day weekend!!
Weddings are supposed to be a celebration of the union of the couple, I wouldn't let the day of the week deter me from attending a wedding that I wanted to go to besides, love is love any day of the week
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You do what you have to do, but in my opinion i would try for a Friday / Sunday or a day wedding on Saturday or Sunday. check it out . Day weddings may be very close in price to a Thursday!
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I did the same thign with my guest list - except I booked first! Now I have to keep my list down because the room is too small!
I gave people +1 depending who they are. All my work friends are ladies Im not giving them a +1. They most likely want to hang out just the ladies anyway. My single friends - no +1. I don't need to feed their flavor of the week.
Have you gotten alot of prices already? I was surprised at how affordable my summer wedding was on a Saturday night. (FM me for the price pp if you want).
I personally would not do a thursday wedding. I know I most likely wouldn't go unless it was a very close family member. You say you dont want to not invite people but if your making it hard for them to go then it's defeating the purpose.
I'd look into the off season (winter wonderland weddings are BEAUTIFUL! I get jealous sometimes when I see them). Or Sunday day time wedding. Or just have a longer engagement?
At the end of the day - its your wedding and no one elses.
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I am getting married on a Sunday NIGHT. For all the people who think it is inconvenient, don't come. To be honest, the people who mean the most will be there and the other people will either come or not. I, personally, don't care if it is inconvenient. Going to a wedding far away from me is inconvenient but I have traveled to go to weddings out of state and upstate to be there for people who mean a lot to me. I wouldn't worry about inconveniencing guests. They won't come if they really aren't able to.
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I've been to 1 Thursday night wedding....to be honest most people left early, there was only immediate family left at the end and I stayed b/c I felt bad.
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i got married on the Thursday before a Monday holiday. tons of ppl took off Friday for the long weekend and they said they were happy to have the 'excuse' to do so. There were a good handful of ppl who left early. Many of the ppl who left early were doing so to start their vacation out east. I tried starting it early but I didnt want to start it too early- i did 6:30-11:30.
Don't book on a Thursday hoping that people will decline. I had waaaay more people accept than I expected (which was awesome). I think it was because of the holiday weekend, im not sure. I personally have a thing about weekend weddings in the summer, which is funny cuz its the opposite of what everyone else thinks. No matter what date, day of the week you choose, someone is going to have something to say about it. Pick which works best for you and dont worry about everyone else.
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Thank you all so much! Your input has calmed down and made me realize its what I want that counts. I'm thinking that I like the thursday idea :) perhaps the thursday before labor day or Sept 20 th which IS a thursday AND my birthday lol Ty <3
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Would your rehearsal dinner be on Wednesday? that's why we are doing Saturday instead of Friday - too many out of towners.
I would probably decline a Thursday wedding.
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I had a Thursday wedding. We got an amazing price on our RH and all of our vendors were willing to negotiate because of our date. Everyone who mattered to us came. The only downside was that people did leave earlier than the probably would have on a Friday or Saturday night. However, my party went from 7:30- 12:30 so it start it earlier that might not be a problem because people didn't start leaving until 11:30 or 11:45. Also, in regards to days off, most people just left work early Thursday and went in a little bit later on Friday.
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I went to a thursday wedding in June. It was great and she had lots of guests. The only thing that bothered me is we werent able to stay for the whole wedding. DH had only worked at his job a few months and in order to get off for our wedding/honeymoon he couldnt take off anymore days, so we had to leave right after they cut the cake. But even if it had been a friday wedding the same thing probably would have happened. I get up pretty early so its a very long day
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Do IT!!!! We got married on a Thursday and had no problems at all (except DH Italian parents who gave us a hard time at first but tough we did it anyway).. Thursday is the new Friday and so many people had booked them by the time our wedding rolled around. Best advice we got at the start of our wedding planning was 'don't base your wedding around a certain day of the week or time bc in the end no one remembers. You will have the same party no matter when it is.'
Many of our guests were self-employed or are teachers so they would have off anyway. Those who weren't were asked if they would rather a Sunday night or a Thursday and they all said Thursday bc they can still have their weekend or muddle thru one day as opposed to a whole week if it were Sunday.
If it works for you and your guest list do it. We didn't save that much more money with vendors but we did get some good deals. Out of the 209 people on our final count, 208 showed up. Everyone stayed til the end and you would never have known it was a Thursday night. We had an awesome time and everyone is still talking about it.
We actually went to a wedding on a Sunday a few weeks after ours and everyone left early (like an hour and a half early) and people were saying they had more fun at ours. Sundays are great but it all depends on your crowd and what you can afford. For us, Thursday was the best bet bc we got our summer wedding for a spring price and those who really wanted to be there will be. Good luck!
Fm me if you have any questions or need vendors bc everyone we worked with was so accomodating especially Westbury Manor.
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i personally wouldnt do it because I know many people wouldnt be able to come. Then again I went to a friends wedding on a wednesday night.
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I really like the idea of doing it on a thursday but the inlaws seem very much against it but really haven't had a good reason why. I was thinking maybe the thursday before labor day would make them happier? =o(
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I really like the idea of doing it on a thursday but the inlaws seem very much against it but really haven't had a good reason why. I was thinking maybe the thursday before labor day would make them happier? =o(
are they helping pay for the wedding? while that might make a difference in the decision making, u need to do what YOU and your FH want to do
