PLZ HELP Is a thursday wedding bad idea? Guest list too long help!
Original post by CaseyCase
So I had wanted a Sunday wedding and figured on about 120 people. However I made a rough guest list and ended up with 175 people!!!!! My mom hasn't even looked it over yet and I know there will be more to add and these are all people I feel I must invite, none of them are casual acquaintances at all. I couldn't sleep after I discovered this.
My moms advice to this was that I should consider having it on a Thursday. She reasons that it will 1 - be less expensive per person 2 - deter some of the people because that # is way higher than we would like, and she defends it by saying the people who REALLY want to be there will make it. At first I thought it was a decent idea but the more I think about it the more idk. I don't want to deter anyone or make it a hardship for people to come who really do want to come. Is a thursday wedding tacky? I already decided on no kids besides the flower girls and I really don't want to eliminate +guests. However, I don't want to end up with 150 people on a Sunday either especially because most of the RH's I like are on the smaller side. I am considering halls on the water on the South Shore such as Chateau la mer, Riviera, Venetian Yacht Club, Captain Bills, Snapper Inn,etc. Any thoughts, advice, or opinions I would be extremely grateful for!!!
dpanzarino
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I agree. People who are close to the bride and groom will attend, but it will be a hardship for others. Some people just don't have the luxury of taking off from work. Fridays can be very difficult for people as it is, and asking for a Thursday is really much more difficult. Obviously, the bride and groom can do what they want, but if you want 120 people to show up to your wedding, I would have it another night. I doubt I would attend a wedding on a Thursday evening. I am a teacher and would not be able to manage screaming children after a wedding hangover!
Tink1118
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i'll be honest, i've been to a family thursday wedding and it wasn't the best idea. it was on a holiday weekend, so I didn't have to worry much past the Friday, I was able to catch up on sleep the rest of the weekend. But it still made me cringe for a while.
I would advise against it. Good luck in whatever you decide.
Debbie2011
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hi there,
this topic has definitely brought out some strong opinions in many of us. while it's good to use the boards to gauge how people in general feel, you might want to consider informally asking those who you would like to attend your wedding.
i recently booked my wedding for a sunday night (6:30-midnight), and i initially had reservations for the reasons many have already listed. but i have to tell you, my family & friends have made me feel so good about my decision by telling me they'll be there no matter what and for me not to even think twice about it (it probably helps that a bunch of my guests don't work during the summer).
regardless, there will be some guests who will need to leave early. doesn't really make a difference to me how long they stay - i just care that they can be there for our ceremony and to enjoy celebrating with us as much as they can.
as far as board members saying that as a sunday night bride that i am 'inconveniencing' people... in all honesty, i just don't think that's fair. a wedding is a joyous occasion, and those who want to share in the joy with us will gladly do so. while some *may* consider it an inconvenience, i'm sorry they feel that way and will understand if they cannot come. but the choice is theirs.
keep us posted on what you decide to do!
Panamasweet
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I think thursday is fine. Try a thursday before a holiday. I think no matter what day of the week it is those who love you will make arrangements to be there no matter what. Just make sure you give them enough notice. I would sent my STD out early
FutureWifey
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My FH and I chose a Thursday wedding because we want not only a wedding.. but a house too! So, we did what was best for us and our situation. It's a Thursday night though.. at 7. Also.. it's in the summer, so a lot of people will most likely just take some vacation days and hang out on the island or go to the city. Some people may not like Thursday weddings, but you can't please everyone!
