Poll: Spin-off to stripper vent
just thought i'd get a little sampling going!
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FH is not one to frequent strip clubs...but i dont think I would have a problem if he went ocassionally
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Posted by MJDoc12
just thought i'd get a little sampling going!
My reply:
Heck no ..He can't go!!
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he really doesn't like strippers- he had a bad experince at one in Canada in HS- so he got over it young
but he does have friends who are on a first name basis with every stripper on LI - what can you do?
if you say 'you can't go'- then you become 'THAT' wife or FI-
if he LOVED strippers and went to strip clubs all the time- I would have considered that before marrying him
if he has to go b/c it's a bach party- then what's the big deal- I don't encourage it- but I wouldn't want to embrass him by fighting with him or making a huge deal out of it
ETS- we had a stripper at a hotel for my BF bach party- so I did it- how can I say no to him
but he does have friends who are on a first name basis with every stripper on LI - what can you do?
if you say 'you can't go'- then you become 'THAT' wife or FI-
if he LOVED strippers and went to strip clubs all the time- I would have considered that before marrying him
if he has to go b/c it's a bach party- then what's the big deal- I don't encourage it- but I wouldn't want to embrass him by fighting with him or making a huge deal out of it
ETS- we had a stripper at a hotel for my BF bach party- so I did it- how can I say no to him
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My FH doesn't really like strip clubs... so if he ends up in one it will be because one of his friends needs to go... so I trust him.... but I may have a different opinion if he openly loved them!!! ![]()
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He rarely goes but I don't care. Strip clubs are harmless.
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My answer is no. I feel very strongly about it ad he knows this, so he didn't go for his party and said that he'd also sit out the portions of any of his friends' bachelor parties if they went to a strip club. I'm laid back about a lot of things and I'll say 'whatever' but this isn't one of them. I made this clear to Fh way before we even got engaged. Fortunately, he doesn't like them anyway and thinks strip clubs are a waste of money, but I couldn't be with someone who wouldn't respect my feelings on this. JMO.
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I really hate it..but I'm also smart enough to pick my battles...this I would lose and look like a total witch for fighting over any way. Besides, for 'allowing it' I get to go to FL anytime I want between now and the wedding for a fun-filled girls' weekend!!!!
so, i am against it, but they'll do it anyway...might as well be open and honest.
so, i am against it, but they'll do it anyway...might as well be open and honest.
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My DH feels like he did the whole strip club thing before he met me.
But sometimes when his friend's wife goes out of town, he and his friend go. I have no problems with that, I mean, honestly, a stripper is not a prostitute (at least at the places where DH and his friend go) and therefore, they don't really bother me too much.
But sometimes when his friend's wife goes out of town, he and his friend go. I have no problems with that, I mean, honestly, a stripper is not a prostitute (at least at the places where DH and his friend go) and therefore, they don't really bother me too much.
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Posted by MrsWmson2be
My answer is no. I feel very strongly about it ad he knows this, so he didn't go for his party and said that he'd also sit out the portions of any of his friends' bachelor parties if they went to a strip club. I'm laid back about a lot of things and I'll say 'whatever' but this isn't one of them. I made this clear to Fh way before we even got engaged. Fortunately, he doesn't like them anyway and thinks strip clubs are a waste of money, but I couldn't be with someone who wouldn't respect my feelings on this. JMO.
I agree. And I have no problem being 'that wife' when it somes to this topic. I cannot be with someoem I beleive would disrespect me. Not judging anyone else, its just that for me it would be a great disrespect , especially since I made it clear how I felt when we first started dating, and he had no issues with how I felt then, so we're cool
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Posted by JazzyT
FH is not one to frequent strip clubs...but i dont think I would have a problem if he went ocassionally
Same here
I have been to them and to me it's entertaining more then harmful
Half the time the guys are drinking and not even paying attention
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FH rarely goes. Whenever he does it's for a bachelor party or a friend's b-day or something. I trust him and know him well enough that it doesn't bother me!
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Posted by Mrs_C_in_'07
FH rarely goes. Whenever he does it's for a bachelor party or a friend's b-day or something. I trust him and know him well enough that it doesn't bother me!
Same here. If he does go, it is because it is someone's bachelor party. He is not the type of guy that goes on his own.
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Some might say it’s not a big deal and that girls should pick there battle. Well I think that everyone has different battles that are important to them personally.
I read once that the biggest fight and cause of marriages to break up is Money. And FH & I have friends who fight constantly about money, but have never had an argument about strippers and in the 3 ½ years FH & I have been together we have NEVER had a fight about money, we are very free with our money and spend it like its going out style, but if FH went to a strip club you can bet we would have a hell of an argument.
What I am trying to say is that what is important to one couple may be insignificant to others. Each relationship is different, what is MOST important is that the 2 people involved are in agreement on any given topic. Or at least can come to a compromise.
I read once that the biggest fight and cause of marriages to break up is Money. And FH & I have friends who fight constantly about money, but have never had an argument about strippers and in the 3 ½ years FH & I have been together we have NEVER had a fight about money, we are very free with our money and spend it like its going out style, but if FH went to a strip club you can bet we would have a hell of an argument.
What I am trying to say is that what is important to one couple may be insignificant to others. Each relationship is different, what is MOST important is that the 2 people involved are in agreement on any given topic. Or at least can come to a compromise.
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Posted by Sunrise813
Some might say it’s not a big deal and that girls should pick there battle. Well I think that everyone has different battles that are important to them personally.
I read once that the biggest fight and cause of marriages to break up is Money. And ha FH & I have friends who fight constantly about money, but have never had an argument about strippers and in the 3 ½ years FH & I have been together we have NEVER had a fight about money, we are very free with our money and spend it like its going out style, but if FH went to a strip club you can bet we would have a hell of an argument.
What I am trying to say is that what is important to one couple may be insignificant to others. Each relationship is different, what is MOST important is that the 2 people involved are in agreement on any given topic. Or at least can come to a compromise.
This is 100% how I feel. FH incurred lots of credit card debt (@40K) some of which was charged before he met me. I already told him I'll help him pay it all off, even if he charged stuff foolishly. I also paid for most of our wedding. Sure, I wish he hadn't spent money like it was water back in the day, but I wouldn't consider not marrying him for it. He is also a different religion than me, and that wouldn't make me not marry him either. Those things to me aren't huge. However, him going to strip clubs is. It shouldn't matter whether other people would consider it petty, what should matter is how important it is to that particular bride. Different things bother (or don't bother) different people and to different degrees. It's important that the two people communicate effectively so that they know what would hurt their SO and make it a point not to do it (provided it's within the person's control.)
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I really have no problem with it because he absolutely HATES strip clubs. I'm one of the lucky girls I guess. I also trust him too so I know that he would never do anything. He always says he feels bad for the girls who have to strip in order to make money and for that reason alone he says it does not do anything for him.
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FH isn't into strippers. I don't care if he goes but he never does. He can definitely have them at his bachelor party or if his friends have bachelor parties.
However, my ex loved strippers and watching porn. I think he is just gross. That is why he is my ex. haha
However, my ex loved strippers and watching porn. I think he is just gross. That is why he is my ex. haha
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I trust him.
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I completely trust him, but he got that whole stripper thing over with way before we met so i am thankful for that!!!
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I trust him completely, and he isn't into strip clubs much anyway.
However, if this was maybe 6 years ago I would be concerned. I worked as a waitress in a strip club, and the things that went on in the VIP room would make your stomach turn. So I understand some of the women being apprehensive about these things.
However, if this was maybe 6 years ago I would be concerned. I worked as a waitress in a strip club, and the things that went on in the VIP room would make your stomach turn. So I understand some of the women being apprehensive about these things.
