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I could understand if one person has a LOT of money. You're just being safe. I know you have to believe that it's going to work, but if I had a lot of money, I would want to protect myself. But we both have no money, so it doesn't really matter.

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LOL
It wouldnt matter.

This isnt taboo for us. He works with a Financial Advisor I work in Insurance.. it's a very real fact of life.

Problem is neither would benefit.
I make more than him in Wages and always will
He makes more than me in long term investments and always will.

If we called it quits and left with what we have, then we'd hurt, but it would hurt evenly. If one took half of the other, than the other could/would fight for the other half of what was left. Im sure no court alive would argue both of us on such good points. It would all wash in the end and cost us legal costs.

So .. although we spoke about it and still keep separate bank accounts (I have one still under my maiden name0 we did not sign a prenup.

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I voted that I would sign and not be hurt ....

But that is only if I got some say in the conditions, i wouldn't just sign my life away. Not very romantic I agree but a fact of life.

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Posted by dm24angel

Please...If he asked me I'd laugh and say why afraid I'd take the playstation? That's about all he has.......b

but seriously if he won the lottery or something, ummm, I'd be upset yes

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that is too funny! well, since i am the one with the savings, which is dwindling with the wedding, i would laugh, too! but this is a good one. i think i would be upset b/c i am not in a relationship for money and even if he had it, just the way i am with clothing, cars, jewelry, stuff...i don't need anything and even if he could give me everything i wouldn't take it b/c it's not my thing. if he could afford to take me out to the best restaurants every night and give me a bmw, etc...i am such a homebody and i am practical in so many ways, that i'd be like 'i don't need it...let's cook together' you know?

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i'd give him a but kicking!

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money isn't the big issue with us (esp. since neither of us has a whole lot!)

We'd probably have a big fight over who got the cat .. I'd never want to let her go!!

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while I would be offended....I can understand the basis....but we're in it for life and we intend to share all aspects of our life together.

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Posted by FeliciaDA

We'd probably have a big fight over who got the cat .. I'd never want to let her go!!

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Oh my gosh, we would probably have to go to court over a custody battle over the dog if we divorced. We're both very attached to him!

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He's only got his truck right now.... he knows I love his truck... of course I love him more than his truck... but that could all change. J/K.

I've seen a lot of marriages from hell that should have had one. I guess I would feel funny about it if it pertained to my marriage though.

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Posted by FeliciaDA

money isn't the big issue with us (esp. since neither of us has a whole lot!)

We'd probably have a big fight over who got the cat .. I'd never want to let her go!!

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I already told FH that if anything happens they are MY cats!!! I brought them into the relationship and they would leave with me!!!!

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I purchased a condo prior to my engagement and then we used the profit from the condo sale to purchase our home. Scott and I have an agreement that if we were ever to divorce I would get the down payment for our home back, before splitting anything. I am NOT sorry that I asked him for that, nor I did I start off our marriage with negative feelings. I saw my mother divorce and my dad and get zippo. I saw her struggle to pay a phone bill because there was so little every month. I will never put my children through that. I protected myself and my (future) child(ren). It was that simple.

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I was talking to my former boss about this. She and her husband are lawyers and every few years they 're-negotiate' their pre-nup. One of the points she made was that a pre-nup is not just about what you have now. It's about your earning potential.

If you and DH make little money now, but you have more education, or training, and you get divorced, your DH could - and probably would - be entitled to support form you! Because you have more 'earning potential'. OR, he could be given a higher percentage of the assets, and not 50-50.

So, in some ways I think a pre-nup is avery respectful thing, very fair. It's good to talk about the what'if's when you are in love and not acting out of anger.

Having said all that, I still have not signed a pre-nup, or even brought it up my FH. I just mean that I can see their value, even if you think you have nothing.

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If he had a lot more money than me....then I wouldn't mind signing it. I would of course review the documents and have my lawyers look at it, but I would understand.

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Honestly. This would annoy the sh*t out of me. I wouldnt sign one. Im not marrying him for his money im marrying him because I love him.

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My fiance is a divorce lawyer for extremely rich individuals (multi-millionaires and billionaires) and celebrities.

A pre-nup is a fact of life. It is not necessarily about how much you have now, but about how much you will earn in the future. Just because a man asks you to sign one, doesn't mean that you will get screwed. In fact, many people's pre-nups are extremely generous.

I think it is really foolish to assume that just b/c you talk of a pre-nup that you are planning for a divorce in the future. The reality is that the divorce rate is 50%. None of us can predict the future. So to assume that you won't be one of those who are divorced is insane.

In addition, if you are earning a degree during a marriage, it becomes a marital asset if you get divorced. Some degrees are worth a ton of money.

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I tend to be a realist so if he really wanted one, I would sign it. Of course, I'd make sure it would protect me too - it works both ways. I think I've got more financially and materially to lose anyway, and I don't want one. I am protected in other ways without it.