Re: Popcorn
I think its an interesting topic, albeit it caused popcorn and clearly appeared offensive...but the basic premise, if I understand the link and the deleted messages is that the disparity in education levels of the Bride and Groom is not common and also a reason for concern with the latest marriages that are gracing the NY Times/Newsday Wedding announcements.
I find it interesting because I have a # of married friends who are married to spouses of varied education levels and the results are mixed. I don't think higher education necessarily means a higher income, but it defintely means that the higher educated person has ACCESS to a more refined sense of culture or lifestyle that would not be accessible to those who lack the income or academic credentials to frolic in that type of environment. That type of 'inequality' can..over time...result in feelings of inequality inside the Wife or Husband that is expressed resentfully over the years...
I def saw this when my parents experienced a break in their relationship when my mom decided to finish college and my dad never bothered to get a HS degree. To this day, my mother is resentful that my dad can't intelligently talk about anything on CNN or NPR because he just doesn't understand the arguments, the politics or any of the perspectives of high level people in our society. Over time, you either consider your partner someone you can hold an intelligent conversation with, or you seek that stimulation elsewhere..(and vice versa).
I saw this article which also made the same point:
'Disparity in academic qualifications between couples is yet another major reason for divorce between nationals and expatriates, said the officials.
'Unequal education level plays a part in building up a sense of stubbornness in one of the couples because he or she harbours an inferiority complex,' explained the officials.
Source:
http://living.oneindia.in/insync/divorce-expatriates-emirates-211107.html
See also:
http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/cgi-bin/fulltext/119400377/PDFSTART
where the study analyzes inter-racial couples and states, 'Individual-level socioeconomic
status in the form of education or income at
the time of marriage is consistently and negatively
associated with the likelihood of marital disruption
(Bumpass, Martin, & Sweet, 1991; Larson &
Holman, 1994; White, 1990).
Remember the wedding announcement/video notes 2 distinctions: 1) the couple is interracial (she is African American, he is Caucasian) and 2) the socio-economic disparity which presentsa challenge (she being a Stanford grad and daughter of a Princeton college professor, he a son of blue collar worker parents and an NYIT grad)...
Now I dont mean to start any![]()
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..I am just posting as a way to develop the dialogue here on Education/Income disparities in a marriage and recent trends concerning same.
I find it interesting because I have a # of married friends who are married to spouses of varied education levels and the results are mixed. I don't think higher education necessarily means a higher income, but it defintely means that the higher educated person has ACCESS to a more refined sense of culture or lifestyle that would not be accessible to those who lack the income or academic credentials to frolic in that type of environment. That type of 'inequality' can..over time...result in feelings of inequality inside the Wife or Husband that is expressed resentfully over the years...
I def saw this when my parents experienced a break in their relationship when my mom decided to finish college and my dad never bothered to get a HS degree. To this day, my mother is resentful that my dad can't intelligently talk about anything on CNN or NPR because he just doesn't understand the arguments, the politics or any of the perspectives of high level people in our society. Over time, you either consider your partner someone you can hold an intelligent conversation with, or you seek that stimulation elsewhere..(and vice versa).
I saw this article which also made the same point:
'Disparity in academic qualifications between couples is yet another major reason for divorce between nationals and expatriates, said the officials.
'Unequal education level plays a part in building up a sense of stubbornness in one of the couples because he or she harbours an inferiority complex,' explained the officials.
Source:
http://living.oneindia.in/insync/divorce-expatriates-emirates-211107.html
See also:
http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/cgi-bin/fulltext/119400377/PDFSTART
where the study analyzes inter-racial couples and states, 'Individual-level socioeconomic
status in the form of education or income at
the time of marriage is consistently and negatively
associated with the likelihood of marital disruption
(Bumpass, Martin, & Sweet, 1991; Larson &
Holman, 1994; White, 1990).
Remember the wedding announcement/video notes 2 distinctions: 1) the couple is interracial (she is African American, he is Caucasian) and 2) the socio-economic disparity which presentsa challenge (she being a Stanford grad and daughter of a Princeton college professor, he a son of blue collar worker parents and an NYIT grad)...
Now I dont mean to start any
