Pre Nup

Sarahgetsmarried Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:20 PM

Pre Nup

Hi everyone. I have been lurking for about 2 weeks and finally decided to join. I have to be careful because work frowns on this kind of surfing and blocks a lot of stuff.

So my question is has anyone signed or been approaced to sign a pre-nup by their finace?

Or have you asked your fiance to sign one?

I might be in this position and was wondering how other women have dealt with this.

Thanks!

doreen82 Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:42 PM

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We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

gina409 Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:44 PM

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we didnt..im sure we coud split up our collection of shot glasses and mets souvenier cups

welcome to the site and congrats

wish i had better advice for you

FutureMrsSoltan Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:45 PM

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Posted by doreen82

We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

ITA !!

10102009Bride Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:46 PM

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We did discuss it...
Decided not to do anything about it.

julesrbf Posted: Jul 13, 2009 12:56 PM

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Posted by gina409

we didnt..im sure we coud split up our collection of shot glasses and mets souvenier cups

welcome to the site and congrats

wish i had better advice for you

Oh god, us too ... 'I'll keep my Mike Pelfrey jersey, you keep yours.'

Lsorrent Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:00 PM

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We've discussed it. We agreed that if the time ever comes that we feel we need a divorce, we'll go through a mediator to divvy everything up.

AngnShaun Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:03 PM

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Posted by doreen82

We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

same here... besides the fact that neither of us have jack and probably never will! LOL!

marinai7 Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:10 PM

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Posted by doreen82

We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

I second that!!!

leeserd Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:14 PM

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I'm a matrimonial attorney, so I guess that I see pre-nups differently from most people. I basically see it as an insurance policy. You insure your home, your jewelry, your car, even your life, so why not insure your marriage if one or more of you has individual assets? Young couples come into my office hand and hand, smiling and do this all the time with no problems. If you don't plan on ever getting divorced then there should be no issue because you will probably never need it and if the couple simply grows apart and wants to divorce then there is nothing to fight over because it is all spelled out. It makes it much easier for everyone and cuts down on the nastiness.

Angel06 Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:28 PM

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http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=618333&Highlight=pre+nup

here is a link to a post already created on pre nups i hope it helps.

StaceyWill Posted: Jul 13, 2009 01:28 PM

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by doreen82

We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

same here... besides the fact that neither of us have jack and probably never will! LOL!

Us too!!!!

italgal Posted: Jul 13, 2009 02:19 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsSoltan

Posted by doreen82

We havent discussed this... its not a concern for us. We feel whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours... haha

ITA !![

ITA!!! Also 50/50QUOTE]

SuzanneK Posted: Jul 13, 2009 02:20 PM

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We haven't discussed it. We feel whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine.

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 13, 2009 02:50 PM

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I remember a few 08 brides dealing with this! We personally didn't do it though.

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 13, 2009 02:51 PM

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Posted by leeserd

I'm a matrimonial attorney, so I guess that I see pre-nups differently from most people. I basically see it as an insurance policy. You insure your home, your jewelry, your car, even your life, so why not insure your marriage if one or more of you has individual assets? Young couples come into my office hand and hand, smiling and do this all the time with no problems. If you don't plan on ever getting divorced then there should be no issue because you will probably never need it and if the couple simply grows apart and wants to divorce then there is nothing to fight over because it is all spelled out. It makes it much easier for everyone and cuts down on the nastiness.

I highly doubt that people that are getting married are considering getting a divorce!

leeserd Posted: Jul 13, 2009 03:21 PM

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Posted by Mici n KC

Posted by leeserd

I'm a matrimonial attorney, so I guess that I see pre-nups differently from most people. I basically see it as an insurance policy. You insure your home, your jewelry, your car, even your life, so why not insure your marriage if one or more of you has individual assets? Young couples come into my office hand and hand, smiling and do this all the time with no problems. If you don't plan on ever getting divorced then there should be no issue because you will probably never need it and if the couple simply grows apart and wants to divorce then there is nothing to fight over because it is all spelled out. It makes it much easier for everyone and cuts down on the nastiness.

I highly doubt that people that are getting married are considering getting a divorce!

You would be surprised. Alot of people today do not take marriage as seriously as they should and have an attitude kind of like 'well, I'll roll the dice and see how it works out and if not, we'll just get divorced' They see Britney Spears get what seems to be an instant divorce and think that it will be like that for them too if they need it. In reality, divorce usually takes about a year because of all the fighting.

KatieG2010 Posted: Jul 13, 2009 03:34 PM

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Some people are so in love with the idea of being married, the big ring and planning a wedding that they dont stop and think about what will happen when the reception is over. Sure most marriages work out and the couple live happily ever after but a lot of marriages that fail. Sometimes when i read forum posts I wonder to myself how many of us will actually have successful marriages and how many will be in divorce court. My parents were divorced after 20 years of marriage so you really never know. Therefore, I think that it may be a smart idea to get a prenup as insurance in case the marriage fails you don't lose valuable assets. As far as FH and I go, I will be signing something regarding the share he has in his family business to protect the rest of his family in case our relationship or their future relationships go sour. Other then that, whatever is mine is his and his is mine.....

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 13, 2009 03:35 PM

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Posted by leeserd

Posted by Mici n KC

Posted by leeserd

I'm a matrimonial attorney, so I guess that I see pre-nups differently from most people. I basically see it as an insurance policy. You insure your home, your jewelry, your car, even your life, so why not insure your marriage if one or more of you has individual assets? Young couples come into my office hand and hand, smiling and do this all the time with no problems. If you don't plan on ever getting divorced then there should be no issue because you will probably never need it and if the couple simply grows apart and wants to divorce then there is nothing to fight over because it is all spelled out. It makes it much easier for everyone and cuts down on the nastiness.

I highly doubt that people that are getting married are considering getting a divorce!

You would be surprised. Alot of people today do not take marriage as seriously as they should and have an attitude kind of like 'well, I'll roll the dice and see how it works out and if not, we'll just get divorced' They see Britney Spears get what seems to be an instant divorce and think that it will be like that for them too if they need it. In reality, divorce usually takes about a year because of all the fighting.

I hear what you're saying, but these people are idiots. But for anyone that is going into a marriage that has a lot of money or property they should consider it.