Pre-nups

It never crosses our minds... so obviously we're not doing one...

any thing I was worth before hand has just been blown on our house and wedding so we really have no reason for one anyways

never even talked about it. were not doing one. we have the whatever is mine is now yours and visa versa kinda of thing going on

edit...to fiish my sentence!!

That is a tough one, depends on what it says in it. If you do choose to go ahead with one make sure you get your own lawyer so that you are protected too . HTH

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Posted by bubberflys

It never crosses our minds... so obviously we're not doing one...

any thing I was worth before hand has just been blown on our house and wedding so we really have no reason for one anyways

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Thats the thing... FH has a lot more than I do - money and property - so I guess he wants to protect that. I also think his dad is pushing it.

we talked about it and then asked my mom (an attorney). she said 'neither of you have a pot to pi$$ in, so you dont need one'
gotta love the moms
anyway, if you or your FH owns property or a business, it is a good idea to get one. maybe after some research, it wont seem so bad after all. do u mind if i ask why you are hesitant to get one?

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Posted by canmigs

I have no problem with them...I actually think they are a great idea. I'm sure I am in the minority with this one though.

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i'm with you on this one. I am an estate planner so I draft them all the time.

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Posted by cateydee

we talked about it and then asked my mom (an attorney). she said 'neither of you have a pot to pi$$ in, so you dont need one'
gotta love the moms
anyway, if you or your FH owns property or a business, it is a good idea to get one. maybe after some research, it wont seem so bad after all. do u mind if i ask why you are hesitant to get one?

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I think I just keep imagining ten years and three kids later and FH coming home and saying he is in love with some 18 year old and telling me to move out. He says thats crazy and would never happen but my sister went through a similar situation and I dont wanna end up like her. I dont wanna be that clueless woman.

If in the end, you do know your marriage will last, (which obviously you do otherwise you wouldn't be getting married) then you will never need to act on the terms of the document anyway.

I can understand it being tense and not really wanting to sign one. And I agree with a PP that you should have your own lawyer look it over before you sign.

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Posted by RAK220

If in the end, you do know your marriage will last, (which obviously you do otherwise you wouldn't be getting married) then you will never need to act on the terms of the document anyway.

I can understand it being tense and not really wanting to sign one. And I agree with a PP that you should have your own lawyer look it over before you sign.

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you have to have your own attorney in order for the prenup to be valid.

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Posted by Windy

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Posted by cateydee

we talked about it and then asked my mom (an attorney). she said 'neither of you have a pot to pi$$ in, so you dont need one'
gotta love the moms
anyway, if you or your FH owns property or a business, it is a good idea to get one. maybe after some research, it wont seem so bad after all. do u mind if i ask why you are hesitant to get one?

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I think I just keep imagining ten years and three kids later and FH coming home and saying he is in love with some 18 year old and telling me to move out. He says thats crazy and would never happen but my sister went through a similar situation and I dont wanna end up like her. I dont wanna be that clueless woman.

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cant that be stipulated in the prenup? i dont know anything about them, but i imagine you can put whatever you want in them. like if he ends up with an 18 year old, you get half of that property owned before you married or whatever. its definitley a tricky issue but you might be able to use it to your advantage as well.

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

We aren't getting one, actually it never even crossed our minds. We see it as whats mine is yours. I could totally see why you would be upset about it though. but maybe he is just getting more pressure from his parents for it.

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Yes he is getting pressure from his dad because somethings are in both of their names.

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Posted by cateydee

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Posted by Windy

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Posted by cateydee

we talked about it and then asked my mom (an attorney). she said 'neither of you have a pot to pi$$ in, so you dont need one'
gotta love the moms
anyway, if you or your FH owns property or a business, it is a good idea to get one. maybe after some research, it wont seem so bad after all. do u mind if i ask why you are hesitant to get one?

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I think I just keep imagining ten years and three kids later and FH coming home and saying he is in love with some 18 year old and telling me to move out. He says thats crazy and would never happen but my sister went through a similar situation and I dont wanna end up like her. I dont wanna be that clueless woman.

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cant that be stipulated in the prenup? i dont know anything about them, but i imagine you can put whatever you want in them. like if he ends up with an 18 year old, you get half of that property owned before you married or whatever. its definitley a tricky issue but you might be able to use it to your advantage as well.

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We discussed it today and FH agreed that something could be added to protect me against a situation like that but I still worry.

FH and I talked about it not because either of us has anything (he has more than i do, but so do most people at this point), but he brought up the point that money issues do tend to break people up at a certain point. I know that was a major factor in my parents' divorce (even though only ONE will admit that). He thinks that maybe it's easier if money is not a concern and it's already decided how it will be split up IF a couple is to break up. Maybe it will take some of the pressure or the tension off of the break-up and will just be about the relationship... So not necessarily to protect assets, but to protect the relationship afterwards (my parents are definitely not friends and maybe would have been if money were not such a major factor in and during the divorce (and my wedding!))

but I don't think we're doing one....

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Posted by Windy

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

We aren't getting one, actually it never even crossed our minds. We see it as whats mine is yours. I could totally see why you would be upset about it though. but maybe he is just getting more pressure from his parents for it.

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Yes he is getting pressure from his dad because somethings are in both of their names.

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I can understand why he would want one if this is the case. While FH may know the marriage will last forever, his father isnt in the relationship. I would sit down and come up with an agreement that makes you both comfortable.