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kellybean Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:42 PM

problems with friends since you got engaged

I havr found that I have a few friends who just seem to want to make me miserable.....and then there are two of them who apparently have nothing to do but knock me and the wedding.....when Im not there........I dont understand why they cant be happy for me ..........and its not like I had to stop going out etc....I have two kids so Im not exactly a party animal,,,ex.....I was asked if we are doing a VH and I said yes.....' why would you do that? no one eats it ...my mother and I think its a waste of $$.....Im sorry but did I ask what you thought??????????? or lying and telling people she was in my bridal party and I was crying that my family is horrible ( never happend and makes my family look bad) I want to scream arent your friends supposed to be happy fo ryou????

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:43 PM

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Sounds like there jealous of you..ignore them they aren't worth the aggravation!

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:48 PM

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Kelly you are so NOT alone here. A lot of girls had the same vent. I have one BM in particular that complains about everything I talk about that relates to the wedding. She picks at my ideas and then laughs and calls me corny. Sometimes weddings can bring out the worst in people. I just learned to not share ideas with this girl, she is going to have to do what I say (not to sound bridezilla like but I asked for he opinion and that didn't work out). I'm sorry

Jesses Girl Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:50 PM

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my place on a sat nite makes ur do it..

i want it anyway but still..
people look forward to the vienesse bc seriously..they all think..

its a wedding im allowed to eat like this..and they do!

all the fat asses at my wedding (me included) will enjoy it

F them and their opinions...urs is the only one that counts.

Tori9299 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:50 PM

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My closest friends are no-where near the wedding mark they don't even have a BF. So for me it's so hard none of them like to have to much wedding talk.

kellybean Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:55 PM

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I even got told that its dumb to have my kids there ...that they shouldnt be involved it dosent concern them.....again her and her mom think its dumb.....um Im not jost getting a husband out of the deal they are getting a step parent DUH........Fh asked them before he asked me if it was ok to marry mommy lol...........I feel like people just stink.....these girls arent even in my wedding but they ask I answer they got nasty

Espo22 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 05:57 PM

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It's not that they can't be happy for you, its just that they themselves are not happy and misery loves company. It really has nothing to do with you, so don't let it bring you down.

A person who is truly happy isn't always so negative and just hateful towards others especially if that person never did anything to them. Unless someone does something to me personally then im not gonna sit there and be mean to them and just hateful. Years ago when I was unhappy yeah that is what i did.

Toucan311 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 07:12 PM

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My MOH is super excited about the wedding and sends me ideas, pictures, etc, but my other friend could care less. I think if I saw her tomorrow she wouldn't say a WORD to me about the wedding at all!

liangel901 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 07:17 PM

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i think people react differently. they are probably either jealous or not happy in their own lives and are trying to make you feel the same way.

some people have a hard time when the people around them are happier than them. i say, ignore the comments and plan it as you want. its your day anyway, right?

poisonivy918 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:01 PM

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friends can get like that. one of my bms told me she was tired of being asked about which makeup artist to pick. I only asked her like 3x! aren't they supposed to help with that? lol. I mean my mom lives down south, along with my grandma. I'm an only child. who else can I ask if not my girls?

bemyyoko Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:08 PM

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your friends suck. i think you and i could win worst friends of the century awards for how bad our friends suck.

Your friends are jealous, and crazy.

You need to purge those toxic people from your life.

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:10 PM

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Posted by kellybean

I even got told that its dumb to have my kids there ...that they shouldnt be involved it dosent concern them.....again her and her mom think its dumb.....um Im not jost getting a husband out of the deal they are getting a step parent DUH........Fh asked them before he asked me if it was ok to marry mommy lol...........I feel like people just stink.....these girls arent even in my wedding but they ask I answer they got nasty

dumb to have ur kids there??? ***!! I'd be kicking peoples heads off their shoulders for saying that. THAT is BS!

There must deff be jealousy there and if they are that kinda person then you just go about your wedding your way anyway because thats the way to get back at them for acting childish and rude during this important time in your life.

CNC10408 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:11 PM

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I have learned over time that most of us have very few 'friends.' A friend I consider the person that has been there through it all ..The friends I have in my life I have known for ever. We have had our ups and downs, time apart etc, but true friends are always going to be supportive of you and your choices in life. True friends will be honest with you when they are not in agreement with your choices or If they have something negative to say to you about your wedding, life etc, I can truly say that i can go months/years not talking to one of them because life happens, but pick up the phone talk to them and have a conversation as though we just spoke yesterday

I would prefer that my friend be honest with me about something they are not happy about, be it my FH, wedding etc, but to talk negatively about me behind my back i find unacceptable A true friend would be happy for you even if things aren't going right in their life. A true friend would be be straight with you, not talk about you when you turn around......I don't know the specifics about the situation, I can only talk from personal experience. Good luck!

angl2001 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:18 PM

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they suck let them say whatever they want! Apparenty this person has no life and likes nothng more than to make other people miserable! let go throw eggs at her house!

Toucan311 Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:19 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

your friends suck. i think you and i could win worst friends of the century awards for how bad our friends suck.

Your friends are jealous, and crazy.

You need to purge those toxic people from your life.

I'm going to get some Russian mail order friends.

luna bride x Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:21 PM

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oh my god!!!! join the club!!! it's freakin absurd! people are so immature sometimes.

Mizzdimple Posted: Aug 13, 2007 08:22 PM

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I agree with the 'Misery loves company'.
Ive heard from many that this is the time you know who your friends are. Girls are the worst.!

MCA1180 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 03:30 AM

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sounds like they're jealous... the funny thing is they're the ones asking you specific questions about your wedding then put down your answers and your choices.... it's not like you're volunteering the information... that's 5th grade jealousy to the utmost degree... they can't be happy for you because they're not happy for/with themselves and it makes them feel better putting you down...

I would just avoid answering their questions or giving them too much detail so you can avoid the drama of hearing how stupid your choices are... it's your wedding, they have no say!

And yeah that's so true, I've noticed with so many people that weddings really do change people!!!

And I won't even get into the part about your sons not being at your wedding!!! I can't imagine anyone saying something so blatantly foolish to a mother!!! on the order of who's most important on your guest list, your sons should be at the very top!!! i'd be so insulted for my son's sake!!! perhaps you should consider trimming your guest list minus this biotch and their joke of a mother... (that's just me though lol).... and who in the hell made them the authority on weddings??? lol... just out of curiosity, is this reject even married?

it sounds like this fool isn't going to be happy for you no matter what you do/say...

ArmyOfBabies Posted: Aug 14, 2007 03:34 AM

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Posted by kellybean

I havr found that I have a few friends who just seem to want to make me miserable.....and then there are two of them who apparently have nothing to do but knock me and the wedding.....when Im not there........I dont understand why they cant be happy for me ..........and its not like I had to stop going out etc....I have two kids so Im not exactly a party animal,,,ex.....I was asked if we are doing a VH and I said yes.....' why would you do that? no one eats it ...my mother and I think its a waste of $$.....Im sorry but did I ask what you thought??????????? or lying and telling people she was in my bridal party and I was crying that my family is horrible ( never happend and makes my family look bad) I want to scream arent your friends supposed to be happy fo ryou????

Boooooo! This is why you have shiny new friends right here!!!! WHOO HOO!!! See ya tomorrow!!!