proper ettiquete on adressing invitation

How would I address and invitation to an unmarried couple living together with children???

would it be

Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Hancock & Family
123 im so confused lane
Wedding Planning, NY 12345

or
Ms. Jane Doe, Mr. John Hancock & Family
123 im so confused lane
Wedding Planning, NY 12345


or

Ms. Jane Doe & Family
123 im so confused lane
Wedding Planning, NY 12345

lets keep it mind im super close to both and they have been together for 11 yrs

I would do the first one..... I think

Sorry im not too much help but that one looks the best.

Are you inviting the children because if so then i say
Mr. John Doe
Mrs. Jane Smith & Family

Unless of course its the female you are friends with then the first name on the first line will be hers. The first name goes seperately on the first line.

the & sign twice is incorrect.

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Posted by VickiR510

Are you inviting the children because if so then i say
Mr. John Doe
Mrs. Jane Smith & Family

Unless of course its the female you are friends with then the first name on the first line will be hers. The first name goes seperately on the first line.

the & sign twice is incorrect.

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How can '&' sign twice be wrong.... if they were married it would read

Mr. & Mrs. John Hancock & family

So i guess that must be incorrect as well?

I personally think the first way is correct

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Posted by FinallyEngaged

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Posted by VickiR510

Are you inviting the children because if so then i say
Mr. John Doe
Mrs. Jane Smith & Family

Unless of course its the female you are friends with then the first name on the first line will be hers. The first name goes seperately on the first line.

the & sign twice is incorrect.

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How can '&' sign twice be wrong.... if they were married it would read

Mr. & Mrs. John Hancock & family

So i guess that must be incorrect as well?

I personally think the first way is correct

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If they were married it would be ok but they are not thats why its incorrect!
It should be addressed as such:

Mr. John Doe
Mrs. Jane Smith & Family

that is proper.

I think on the outer envelope it should read:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe

on the inner envelope, I think it's supposed to list everyone:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Kid 1
Kid 2

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Posted by Ella and Ben

I think on the outer envelope it should read:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe

on the inner envelope, I think it's supposed to list everyone:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Kid 1
Kid 2

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YOU ARE CORRECT! NOT MARRIED GETS LISTED AS ABOVE WITH NO 'AND' AND THE KIDS ARE BELOW

ooooo I JUST got out of a etiquette meeting at work LOL So I know the correct answer to this!

The two adult guests should be on 2 lines in ALPHA order. The second name should be indented 3 spaces but you don't have to. I personally like 1 or 2 spaces.... 3 just seems like to much.

Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith

If you are doing an inner envelope is should read like this.

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Kid 1
Kid 2

If the children are over the age of 16 then they get their own invitation.

p.s. Sometimes I cant believe I get paid for this!

2010 bride here:

i would do the outter envelope:

Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Hancock
123 im so confused lane
Wedding Planning, NY 12345

and the inner envelope:

Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Hancock & Family

honestly i think you should pick the way that will be the least offensive. because i have learned that us brides spend hours reading & searching ettiquete books but the bottom line is to that most people out there don't know if what u do is proper ettiquete or not

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Posted by christine2010

2010 bride here:

i would do the outter envelope:

Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Hancock
123 im so confused lane
Wedding Planning, NY 12345

and the inner envelope:

Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Hancock & Family

honestly i think you should pick the way that will be the least offensive. because i have learned that us brides spend hours reading & searching ettiquete books but the bottom line is to that most people out there don't know if what u do is proper ettiquete or not

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i completley agree with picking the least offensive thing..though there are etiquette rules people get offended when you follow them so I will probably do what will be the least offensive as well!

hmmmm we didnt have that situation but we did have unmarried couples living together in which case we put:

Mr. Robert Guy
Ms. Melissa Girl
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and when we had kids we listed them by name

Mr. & Mrs. Robert Guy
Emily, Andrew and Ethan

i like #1 best, or ask your sis how she prefers?

Everything I have read said you only use and if they are married


Unmarried living together -- always have the person closest to you written first

Ms. Jane Smith
Mr. Robert Jones
100 Main Street


Married with different last names

Mr. Robert Jones
and Ms. Jane smith
100 Main Street

Married Couples

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jones

Children under 18 should be addressed on the inner envelope

Ms. Jane Smith
Mr. Robert Jones
Jill and John

or

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jones
Jill and John

No where have I seen the '&' abbreviation. the word 'and' should always be written out.

At least this is what I have found through my hours of googling.

thanks girls so much you allllllll rock!!!

i honestly think we spend way to much times trying not to offend ppl lmao

thanks so much

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

ooooo I JUST got out of a etiquette meeting at work LOL So I know the correct answer to this!

The two adult guests should be on 2 lines in ALPHA order. The second name should be indented 3 spaces but you don't have to. I personally like 1 or 2 spaces.... 3 just seems like to much.

Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith

If you are doing an inner envelope is should read like this.

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Kid 1
Kid 2

If the children are over the age of 16 then they get their own invitation.

p.s. Sometimes I cant believe I get paid for this!

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So barb, When children are invited you dont address the outer envelope as
Mr
Mrs & Family?
just the inner envelope should say childrens names. GOOD TO KNOW. Even though im not having children at my wedding. But fo future invites! THANKS!

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Posted by VickiR510

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

ooooo I JUST got out of a etiquette meeting at work LOL So I know the correct answer to this!

The two adult guests should be on 2 lines in ALPHA order. The second name should be indented 3 spaces but you don't have to. I personally like 1 or 2 spaces.... 3 just seems like to much.

Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith

If you are doing an inner envelope is should read like this.

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Kid 1
Kid 2

If the children are over the age of 16 then they get their own invitation.

p.s. Sometimes I cant believe I get paid for this!

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So barb, When children are invited you dont address the outer envelope as
Mr
Mrs & Family?
just the inner envelope should say childrens names. GOOD TO KNOW. Even though im not having children at my wedding. But fo future invites! THANKS!

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Yup. Really you can do it however you want. There are soooooooo many stupid etiquette books out there and if you read them they all eventually contradict themselves.
At my job we are working on a standard that we will use on all event invitations....its a long time in the making!

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Posted by CherryBlossombride

Eh!! do what you feel is as least offensive as possible. Personally if they have been together for that long and have children together then I consider them married. Marriage=committment and they sound pretty committed to me. Unless this offends the woman I would address it Mr & Mrs so and so and family.

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I think it is offensive not to use the women's real name...If they are married and she goes by her maiden name professionally then that is a sense of status for her. If they are not married she may not want people to assume they are married.

I find it very offensive if someone refers to me as guest when inviting my fiance or would call me by someone elses last name. I think it means they didn't take the trouble to ask.