Pros and cons of living together

I think the pros do outweight the cons as well, but I don't live with FH. It is annoying but IMO it's worth it for me.
One major con, I feel, is that after the wedding there is nothing to look forward to. Life will be exactly the same as it was before. Also, we are trying to save up money so we can place a larger down payment on a house and we (at least I am) are living rent free right now so that is helping us financially a ton.

I agree with all the ladies above, I believe the pros totally outweigh the cons. IMO:

Pros- coming home to him every night
-sharing everything together
-not having to drive anywhere to see him

Cons- leaving his socks and underwear all over the place, the typical guy stuff

We've been offically living together since March, he had his own place before that for around 3 years. It's def an adjustment at first, you'd be surprised at what you learn about people when you live together, especially someone you think you know so well like your fh!

Pros outweigh the cons (I can't think of any). I know 'they' say a couple should live together before they get engaged to test it out and I couldn't agree with that more. I lived with my ex of 3 years for 6 only months before I realized we could not get married.

This time around with FH, I knew it was right.

Religious and financial issues always come first when making these decisions though so you should always do what's best for you--the traditional way of waiting until you are married does seem like the more exciting way!

I LOVEEEE living with FH. There are really no cons (for me).

The pros are:

-Waking up and going to sleep with FH

-Knowing that you are coming home to him

-We are used to each other's habits and really have no problems (1 less thing to worry about when you get married)

The pros are endless to me.

I never thought I would move in with anyone before I got married b/c my dad and family are so strict, but I am sooo happy I did.

I would personally recommend it. I don't think living with FH will make getting married less 'newlywed' like.

For FH and I, we're staying traditional. I've said it from an early age that I would not live with someone until I was married...which, for me, seems super conservative. So we're not moving in together until we're married, however a couple weeks ago he moved into the apartment that we'll be sharing together.
Also, he and I both maintain our own apartments. I think if I was still living at home, maybe I'd feel more compelled to move out with him. But the fact that we've both lived on our own for 5+ years, albeit separately, has kind of allowed us to learn the ins and outs, as well as the headaches, of not living at home with our parents. Does that make sense? It was a real shellshock when I moved out of my parents' house - and worse when they moved to Florida a few weeks later - but I learned so much through the years. At this point, I'm so ready to share my life with him that it's hard to keep to my promise to myself of not moving in with him yet!
Every couple I know, except for one, who has gotten married in the past few years had lived together prior to the wedding and all of them - except for that one couple who didn't live together - said that it wasn't as exciting. It was just like...okay, well we're back at the home we've shared. Whereas that other couple is still savoring the newlywed status, and they've been married for over a year. So that kind of helps to keep me from caving in and just packing up to live with him too.

As for statistics, ehhh....I don't pay attention to 'em. To each his/her own.

My FH and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and we just moved in together about a year ago. For us it felt right to move in together before getting married, even though my family was not happy about it.

It has been exactly a year and I am glad that we did because it has been a rollercoaster ride, even after being together so long, It was definately different. I would not have wanted to go through that in our first year of marriage. However, every relationship is different and there will always be challenges. If you only have 8 months until your wedding, it might be worth just waiting.... its up to you.

I looove living with FH, we've lived together for almost 3 years now officially. Before that, we were in each other's beds every night in college & during summers, I'd stay at his parents house aaaalll the time even tho I had my own apt... my landlord wouldn't let him sleep over...seriously, W T F?!?

Anyways, the pros are getting to see him every day and sleeping next to him each night. We both work very hard and I love that we get to come home to one another. Obvi, splitting the bills 2 ways rather than 1 is a plus too! I don't mind that we won't get to set up the house as 'husband and wife'....we set our previous apt. and now our house as 'boyfriend and girlfriend' and that was good enough for me

The cons are...as Barb said, his farting. It really is out of control! It took him a good 2 years before he let one rip in front of me...now it's nooooon freakin stop

Sad thing is, the farting can only get worse once married so that really can be counted as a con.

I am so happy we moved in before. We went through a huge adjustment period I thought we were going to break up! (Clearly we worked out our issues before getting engaged. )

Everyone that is saying there are no or little cons are making me sooo excited to move in with FH! I never went away to school or lived by myself. I am a bit nervous to leave the only environment I know lol weird, i know!

My parents are not for living together before marriage - which is fine. I respect their wishes because they have always done everything for me.

We are purchasing a co-op within the next few months - he'll reside there fully until I 'officially' move in.

I cannot wait now!! Thanks

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Posted by rdubs

Sad thing is, the farting can only get worse once married so that really can be counted as a con.

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Oh god I hope it doesnt get worse

we dont live together yet so i can only offer you the pros of not living together:

****MONEY MONEY and some more MONEYYYY!!!! especially since he lives at home your fh will be able to save more money

**** call me old fashioned, but spending our first night together, married, in our new home, is going to be so special, i think it kinda takes the fun out a little if youre already living together

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Posted by grkbarbie

the pros... your best friend is now your roomate. it doesnt get better than that!! its NOT easy at 1st..but i recommend u lve with him before you get married


the cons... his farting.

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This is actually my fear. I won't let FH fart in front of me so I have this weird feeling that once we're married he'll start ripping them all the time.