we all love our fhs very much.......if we didnt we wouldnt be marrying them, right? but as much as we love them im sure there are things about them we just cant STAND!!! which brings me to my question......
since being engaged is there anything about fh that makes you think OMG i dont know how im going to put up with this for the rest of my life?
the man has a temper. which i cant stand!!!! i will give him this. it has gotten better over the years but when he starts acting like this i hate it. ive even broken up with him over it. just last month i had to tell him that i rather call off the wedding and move out then deal with this. it really doesnt happen much but when it does it really makes me think about the future especially since the guy wants to have a kid
Clover23
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oh heck yes. 1) his financial irresponsiblity - has gotten better but he's still completely dense when it comes to understanding money! 2) temper, temper! rarely comes out but man... stay away! 3) um this one is sort of funny let's say he's not as into 'it' as his FW... sometimes it is REALLY frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I guess being together for 9 years before you get engaged kind of helps get rid of (or learn to tolerate) all of those annoying quirks, lol. I haven't really noticed anything since we got engaged, since for the past few years (since we moved in together) I kind of always figured we'd get married.
I'd have to say the one thing though, that I'm not sure how I'll deal with (but will learn to) is his arguing style. He just walks away, ignores me, and disappears. And I DESPISE that. I prefer to fight it out and get it over with. He will disappear for hours at a time
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FH has ZERO time management skills. He'll say 15 minutes, it'll be an hour. He'll say later or tomorrow, it'll be a week later. I ask him what time he'll be home because I'm making dinner, he'll say 8, it'll be 9-10. It's very very obnoxious and i hate it. They say it's 'Greek time,' but it's 'Stephen' time without a doubt.
He also ignores/'doesn't see' my texts and i get so mad because: 1- he'll text me and EXPECT an answer back or he gets pissy. 2-he answers everyone else and their effing mother when they text him.
I could keep going, but I'm already getting angry!
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He fights dirty. When we argue he will take a time out and give me time to stew over what is bothering me. Then just as I am ready to explode he comes in all nice and wants to talk calmly. I then try to talk calmly which he feels is passive aggressive. UUUGGGHHHH so frustrating. Thank god we dont fight often.
StaceyWill
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Ugh yes!! He has like zero tolerance for people. If you do something to him, he has a very hard time forgiving and tends to cut you off. So, I'm afraid that I'm going to do something that's gonna make him cut me off!! I say very hurtful things when I'm angry and I have to work on it, cause he NEVER forgets!! He's also crazy sensitive and takes a looooooong time to get over an argument and I find that difficult to deal with, expecially since I forget about it in a minute.
AngnShaun
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i cant think of anything since we got engaged... there are lots of things from before then but nothing new
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Not since we got engaged if anything he's gotten more loving towards me. The one thing that he does that bothers me is the fact that he never thinks that anything is his fault.
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his temper. when he gets mad or frustrated, he starts cursing. everything all of a sudden becomes either stupid, effed up or god knows what. I am not a composed person myself so that really ignites me. I wish he would just learn how to be mad w/o that ugliness coming out of his mouth.
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O M G
Why does FH feel the need lately to talk with your hands? I don't give a CRAP that you are Italian and you tell me thats how you speak. He never really used to do it and lately its like all hands everywhere....
also, I knew he paced but lately, maybe the stress of work and wedding, he paces EVERY and ANYWHEREEEEE!! He just goes upppppppp and down the hallway, his room, my room, the backyard, ANYWHERE!!
OH and he is ALWAYS early to EVERYTHING. 'Babe I'll pick you up at 3'......1:45 the doorbell rings and when I am not ready since he is over an hour early, he comlains.....wth?
oh and one more, when he gets mad, he just wants to sweep it under the rug and pretend like nothing happened and go to bed all happy....I on the other hand, like to point out if hes wrong or messed up and just ignores me?
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Yes there are a few things:
1) When he does something i don't like, and i confront him on it, he always, always tries to play victim and turn the situation around to make me look like im the bad guy. I hate when he does that
2) He is NOT responsible when it comes to saving money at all!! We have been battling over this recently. Hoping things will change.
Thats it, otherwise we cool
jcreilly
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The only thing that is making me nervous about living with FH is He likes to annoy me on purpose to make me scream, and I am afraid he will do it everyday -lol its worse when he is with my brother they love to drive me crazy! So I'm kinda used to it I go from living with my brother to him they both play stupid jokes, just brother does it to my sister more then me ! Just when we get our own house Fh keeps telling me all the thing he has planned for me and I know my brother will be over a lot helping him!
JAAMS
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I love FH, but he doesn't like to try and solve problems. He likes to complain about them.
We had a HUGE fiasco about this last night.
MrsHazel2B
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Well, since you asked:
FH really hates shopping! And I mean HATE!! He thinks that when you walk into a store, the merchandise should just sorta find you in the exact color, size, shape, etc. Then, should basically stand in line for you and pay. If I say 'Oh, I forgot we need...,' he goes nuts!! Yet, he refuses to stay home when I shop...hmmm!!
Oh, one more thing I really hate, since nearly all of you girls brought it up, he definitely fights dirty! When I'm really p'd off, he gets all quiet, knowing I want to fight! Then, he'll freakin apologize and give me the puppy face so I can feel like a beeyotch!! That drives me crazy!
Relish21
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Ummm yea.... some members of his fam. & his inabillity to save any MONEY!!!!!!!!
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Posted by Lsorrent
I guess being together for 9 years before you get engaged kind of helps get rid of (or learn to tolerate) all of those annoying quirks, lol. I haven't really noticed anything since we got engaged, since for the past few years (since we moved in together) I kind of always figured we'd get married.
I'd have to say the one thing though, that I'm not sure how I'll deal with (but will learn to) is his arguing style. He just walks away, ignores me, and disappears. And I DESPISE that. I prefer to fight it out and get it over with. He will disappear for hours at a time
i have to completely agree. being together so long has really helped me to tolerate things other people can't. however, i hate the was he argues. when we fight (once in a blue moon) he goes into i'm not speaking, i'm not listening mood. i have to wait until he is good & ready to discuss it. i am opposite i want to discuss it right then & there.
stinenandy2010
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he's a drama queen...like if he gets a paper cut, i have to hear about it for a week!
Jna2010
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omg yes!! his snoring!! i better learn how to fall asleep fast otherwise im doomed lol
jcreilly
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Oh Fh can fall asleep with the lights and Tv on which drives me nuts, I have to get him out of that habit!
luvly73
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omg every day of my life... 1. snoring 2. bad temper 3. stubbornness 4. specific eating habits I could go on, but it might make me change my mind about this whole wedding thing!
