*QOTD 1/12/14*

Hey ladies!

Thank you Rose for being the very first BOTW! So here it goes..

Name changing.

Which brides are definitely taking your fiances last name, hyphenating it or keeping your maiden name?

For some, this question is simple to answer. For me, well..

My last name is extremely uncommon. In fact, the only people who have my name are my family. It's actually pretty amazing. On the other hand, It's sad that so few carry the name that sooner rather than later our name will be history. My father has 2 sisters both of which were married & had 3 boys each. My dad had 3 girls & I am 'the baby.' I was supposed to be 'the boy.' I am the last to carry on our name in the United States. We do have some family in Italy that can carry on the name but so far only girls.

I know that my children, our children, will have my FH's name which is extremely extremely common & that's okay. I don't dislike the name, but my last name has almost become a limb to me. I've carried, spelled & pronounced it for the last 29 years so for me I find it very hard to part with. Its my identity, my heritage& part of which makes me unique.

I am not sure what I will do just yet but I do know I just can't part with it completely. It represents too much to me to drop it especially knowing our name will eventually be gone..

What will you ladies do? And what are your feeling of changing or not changing.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

BTW that was my 500th post! T-shirt time! Lol

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

first that's so cool that you first question as botw was 500th post!! see it was ment to be!! congrats!!

I love your story about your family history. mine is a unique Italian bane to however we have plenty to carry it out. and my fsther, aunts abd inches abd grandparents r from here I think even my great grandparents I think great great grandparents were from Italy
but it's such a fun last name I've told fh JOKING that I wanted to keep it, he was so upset and hurt well partly bc I said his was boring compared to mine lol but I will be changing mine. I think in your case hyphenating it is a good way to do both.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

Legally I will be changing my last name. Professionally for work I am going to hyphenate my name because everyone knows me with the last name I have now, and that's what my email address is too. A family member that just got married kept her last name and took her husbands last name, and he made her maiden name his middle name(sounds complicated I know haha)..this way when they have kids they will all have the same name. She didn't want to give up her maiden name.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I will be changing my last name (not hyphenating). Both of our last names are very uncommonon - his a little more. I'm just very traditional in that sense. :)

Re: *QOTD 1/12/14*

---

Posted by Jack84

BTW that was my 500th post! T-shirt time! Lol

---

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I think legally I will be keeping my maiden name.. Not sure why though. Just don't have the desire to do all the paperwork that goes along with it? I've mentioned it to the FH and he doesn't seem to care.. I guess we will see what happens when it gets closer..

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I am also going to be changing mine legally but most likely hyphenating for work purposes. I have always wanted to use my last name (or a variation of it) as a first name for my future son, but it wouldn't sound right with my FH's last name and the variation has become way too common.

Congrats on your 500th post!

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I am kind of in the same boat. My dad doesn't have anyone on his side of the family left, he was adopted and there is no one else with our last name and he has 4 girls, I'm the first to get married. My last name is a lot easier to pronounce especially working with kids, but hyphenating it would make it way too confusing as a teacher. I really am torn and don't know what to do yet...I feel like this has been my identity my whole life and I don't know how I feel about it changing.

Re: *QOTD 1/12/14*

---

Posted by Jack84

BTW that was my 500th post! T-shirt time! Lol

---

congrats!

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

Similar situation to my Italian friends on here. No boys with my last name so unfortunately our name will not get carried on, unless my sister has kids and they keep her name but that's neither here nor there :) New name to be is super common but I'm okay with changing it, although my step-daughter to be jokingly says she wants to take my last name (her mother would have heart failure as she isn't my biggest fan)... Congrats Jack84 on BOTW, your 500th post and a great question to start us off...

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

2016'er crashing! I have a similar story to yours where there is not a single person in my family carrying on my last name. Not here in America, not in Ireland. It's not exactly rare but it's just sad that the name will no longer be in existence in another 50 years. My family has bred only girls except for those who have different last names.
That said, when I brought up this fact I swear my FI looked like he would cry. I love the tradition of taking your husbands last name and that is what I will do. Maybe one of my sisters will keep it or have a boy out of wedlock that keeps our name =P

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

Congrats on the 500th post!

FH would def but upset and offended if i didn't take his last name. I am actually in the opposite situation as most of you ladies. I have a pretty common scottish-irish last name and I will be changing my name to a very uncommon italian last name...and idk if it's b/c I am not use to it but it doesn't really 'flow' like my name does now...

I am very proud of my heritage so I will miss my last name, but I am also very traditional so I will be taking his last name.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

Congrats on your 500th post... and looking forward to your questions this week.

I am definitely taking FH last name and going with tradition. My last name is German and comes with a lot of nicknames over the years so needless to say I am looking forward to the name change.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I am definitely going to take FH's last name, he wants me to and to me I have no preference.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I'm surprised so many brides have a similar situation! Makes me feel better about not wanting to change it. Shellabella, I completely agree with not wanting to do the paperwork lol. If my name was common I would definitely take the traditional route & change it.
Librarianjoyce, I have heard of this & tried to convince FH & he didn't go for it lol.
I have also heard of couple combining their last names to create a whole new name! To each their own as they say!

Re: *QOTD 1/12/14*

I am going to change my last name. I am a little bit on the traditional side and believe I should. Plus my last name is a very popular last name so it would be nice to have something different and unique like my FH's name.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I will be changing my name. It is really scary though to think that I won't have my last name anymore. I did think about hyphening my name, but my FH took offense to it lol. I have a younger brother, so he will be carrying my family name with him. If I was in your situation, I think I would have a hard time figuring out what to do as well. Its hard to let go.

*QOTD 1/12/14* - Long Island Weddings

I am hyphenating my name.. mainly for professional reasons. I think I would probably go by my FH's last name in my personal life though. I know other women who have done this. FH doesn't mind either way :)