Question: How is your relationship with you FILs? How is FH relationship with his FILs?
I am very happy to say that I get along great with FH family. Esp his mom. They all welcomed me into the family with open arms as soon as we started dating and couldnt be happier that we are getting married. FH relationship with my family has been great also. My dad finally has a guy around to talk technology and sports with lol. My dad has 2 girls plus 3 step daughters and 1 of those step daughters has 2 girls of her ownn so hes always surrounded by females. So I know he is happy to welcome a guy into the family lol.
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Good Question Jassy!
My relationship with FILs is great except for the fact that I can FEEEEEL that FMIL feels like I'm stealing her son away.. He never calls! LOL If she ever brings it up, I'm throwing him under the bus! Other than that, I've always been super accepted into his family and get along with everyone! They are so fun!
My family loves Gustavo!! My dad got a soccer fan (my brother is not THAT into it) and a drinker! My mom is happy to see me with a guy that is not a loser and loves me! They were very accepting of us moving in together which is not like them and I can tell they really love him.. and I love it!
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Posted by jassy119
Good morning ladies,
Hope everyone enjoyed their wknds!
Question: How is your relationship with you FILs? How is FH relationship with his FILs?
I am very happy to say that I get along great with FH family. Esp his mom. They all welcomed me into the family with open arms as soon as we started dating and couldnt be happier that we are getting married. FH relationship with my family has been great also. My dad finally has a guy around to talk technology and sports with lol. My dad has 2 girls plus 3 step daughters and 1 of those step daughters has 2 girls of her ownn so hes always surrounded by females. So I know he is happy to welcome a guy into the family lol.
I am also very lucky. I have a great relationship with my FILs. They love me and we get along perfectly. My family also love FH. I swear my grandfather loves him more than me. lol
My sister isn't so lucky and I cringe when I hear stories about her Monster in Law. It does help that FH isn't a mama's boy. He is very close to his family, but he stands his ground. And FMIL has 2 sons, so I'm like the daughter she never had.
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I love FH's family, they are so great! They accepted me with open arms and they are just so much fun. I have become really close with both his sisters who I love!! FH and my family also get along great! I'm really happy that both families can get along.
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Good Question,
I have a great relationship with them considering I live downstairs from them.
But she is too much into everyones business and always needs to be a step up on everyone. Other than that we have a good relationship. They Love me
He has a great relationship with my parents as well.
MommaMia
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Love this question Jassy!!
I do not have any aunt, uncles or first cousins. So family was something that i really wanted my fh to have. Justin is an only child but he was raised w his aunts and uncles who are like his siblings, in addition to his first cousins who are also like siblings to him. (this is his paternal family)
FH has an amazing family. His fathers side (his father is deceased) which is in NY, NJ and FL, are wonderful. They have accepted Bella and me with open arms. They are actually coming w me to Klienfelds next weekend. I am really lucky. Bella now has cousins and aunts and uncles. He was lucky to have them growing up b/c he is an only child.
His mother lives in Wisconsin and although she is far, she is wonderfully supportive of our relationship and i cherish our visits. She too has accepted bella with open arms and this xmas sent the sweetest gift... it was a box w knitting needles and a how to book and wrote a little note stating she is learning and she woudl like bella to learn as well and when they visit in June she wants to make something w bella.
I am truly blessed.
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I am so blessed to have the FIL I have! FH parents love me and treat me like there owns daughter. They treat their two other daughter in laws like like that, I guess we're all the daughters they've never had lol.
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I get along great with my FH's family, his parents are divorced but I get along really well with both sides, and everyone is extremely close which I love. He has four aunts/uncles on both sides, so its a big family with a lot of kids and I love that because I don't have a huge huge family.
My family ADORES him, they love him i think more than me at some points haha jk! But yeah he gets alone so well with everyone and that's really important to me.
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My fil's are incredible. They truly are like my other parents, they will do anything to help. My fh has a different relationship with my parents, even tho they all love each other very much , it is more formal
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My FIL's are great. They welcomed me into the family right away. FH has alot of aunts and uncles and they have always been so sweet. When we got engaged I mentioned how now I'm officially part of the family and they said that I have always been part of the family . FH gets along great with my dad. My dad actually rents the upstairs apartment in our house so FH always goes up there to watch tv with him. FH gets along with my mom when she's not stressing me out.
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Glad to hear so many of has have good relationships with our FILs and FH as well. Def makes things easier cuz I am sure we've all heard the horror strories or have seen shows like Evetyone Loves Raymond.
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Im lucky too...i have a great FMLI and father and bro....they are great to me and treat me like i was the daughter they never had ....and his mother said to call her mom already LOL....but she been great helping and she want with me for my wedding dress and she was very happy to be there and it was funny at one point my mom and FMIL were trying on veils ...it was funny!!! and our families all get along very well too...its great!!!!!
And as far as his bro it seems like we are brother and sister ....LOL...we pick on each other like crazy...but he is great as well
For my FH my parents get along with him and LOVE him very much...he really likes them as well...but my father and mother are divorced so i live with my mom and my father lives out east so its really hard to see him ..but i try to see him as much as i can ...its really hard ..sucks
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sorry to be the Debbie Downer...
My family LOVES him!!! He has a great relationship with everyone and in my parents eyes, he can do no wrong. If I complain or make one comment about the kid, my parents jump down my throat!!!
As for the other way around, I'm working on it I just have to keep reminding myself that FMIL & FFIL are, simply put, different than my fam and as much as that its sucks/hurts I just have to accept it. The ONLY stressor I have had in planning is when they couldnt be bothered trying to figure out the # of guests to invite and their lack of care about our wedding as a whole. I think they finally are starting to get it that FH and I bought a house TOGETHER bc in the beginning it was 'matt's kitchen', 'matt's bedroom', 'matt's backyard', etc. And I finally had my first holiday in 6 years where his ex wasn't thrown in my face when it had nothing to do with anything...PROGRESS!!!! My parents used to laugh at the things I came back and said, like all the backhanded compliments from them. But now that they see and hear things in person, my parents get upset for me, which sucks. I was told ton 'shut up' at thanksgiving, which put MY dad in an awkward position since HE has never even spoken to me like that! It is what it is, though! Just trying to figure out how FH became so fabulous...
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My Mom & Dad aren't around, but my extended family loves FH. Thankfully my relationship with my FIL's is good, but I hear that changes once you get married.... I really hope that's not true!
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Posted by Irishbride16
Im lucky too...i have a great FMLI and father and bro....they are great to me and treat me like i was the daughter they never had ....and his mother said to call her mom already LOL....but she been great helping and she want with me for my wedding dress and she was very happy to be there and it was funny at one point my mom and FMIL were trying on veils ...it was funny!!! and our families all get along very well too...its great!!!!!
And as far as his bro it seems like we are brother and sister ....LOL...we pick on each other like crazy...but he is great as well
For my FH my parents get along with him and LOVE him very much...he really likes them as well...but my father and mother are divorced so i live with my mom and my father lives out east so its really hard to see him ..but i try to see him as much as i can ...its really hard ..sucks
OMG I totally forgot about his younger brother.. seriously! The little brother I never wanted! LMAO He's funny though, we get along but he loves to get on my nerves!
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Posted by jassy119
Question: How is your relationship with you FILs? How is FH relationship with his FILs?
I'm very lucky to have a nice relationship with both my FH's Mom and Dad. They are divorced and only his Mom is remarried so the relationships are very different. But they have both been very nice to me and are thrilled to call me their daughter-in-law.
We live closer to my Parents so FH and I see them a lot more then we do his. They definitely treat him like their son already (even get on his nerves like his own parents do LOL). My parents have really welcomed him into the family and would do anything for him... since he makes me so happy!
Of course there are issues with parentals, but all in all I feel very lucky.
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I have a good relationship with my FIL. They invite for all family functions and to stay in their cabin upstate. FMIL and I speak on the phone if we haven't seen each other in a while. My family loves FH. My mother says she is very proud to be gaining a SIL like him. My dad loves him because he's a great guy AND likes all the same sports teams. They have gone to a few Jets games together.
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I get along with FH family and FH get along with my family. We been really lucky to have great relationships with both of them. FMIL and I also work in the same school so sometimes I think I see her more then FH does.
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Posted by KristyANDMatt224
sorry to be the Debbie Downer...
My family LOVES him!!! He has a great relationship with everyone and in my parents eyes, he can do no wrong. If I complain or make one comment about the kid, my parents jump down my throat!!!
As for the other way around, I'm working on it I just have to keep reminding myself that FMIL & FFIL are, simply put, different than my fam and as much as that its sucks/hurts I just have to accept it. The ONLY stressor I have had in planning is when they couldnt be bothered trying to figure out the # of guests to invite and their lack of care about our wedding as a whole. I think they finally are starting to get it that FH and I bought a house TOGETHER bc in the beginning it was 'matt's kitchen', 'matt's bedroom', 'matt's backyard', etc. And I finally had my first holiday in 6 years where his ex wasn't thrown in my face when it had nothing to do with anything...PROGRESS!!!! My parents used to laugh at the things I came back and said, like all the backhanded compliments from them. But now that they see and hear things in person, my parents get upset for me, which sucks. I was told ton 'shut up' at thanksgiving, which put MY dad in an awkward position since HE has never even spoken to me like that! It is what it is, though! Just trying to figure out how FH became so fabulous...
Hold up they told you to shut up??? You are heaven sent Cause i would really have issues with that. How could the disrespect you like that. Now i understand why you are like that,
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Posted by KristyANDMatt224
sorry to be the Debbie Downer...
My family LOVES him!!! He has a great relationship with everyone and in my parents eyes, he can do no wrong. If I complain or make one comment about the kid, my parents jump down my throat!!!
As for the other way around, I'm working on it I just have to keep reminding myself that FMIL & FFIL are, simply put, different than my fam and as much as that its sucks/hurts I just have to accept it. The ONLY stressor I have had in planning is when they couldnt be bothered trying to figure out the # of guests to invite and their lack of care about our wedding as a whole. I think they finally are starting to get it that FH and I bought a house TOGETHER bc in the beginning it was 'matt's kitchen', 'matt's bedroom', 'matt's backyard', etc. And I finally had my first holiday in 6 years where his ex wasn't thrown in my face when it had nothing to do with anything...PROGRESS!!!! My parents used to laugh at the things I came back and said, like all the backhanded compliments from them. But now that they see and hear things in person, my parents get upset for me, which sucks. I was told ton 'shut up' at thanksgiving, which put MY dad in an awkward position since HE has never even spoken to me like that! It is what it is, though! Just trying to figure out how FH became so fabulous...
