****QOTD 12/16****

Thanks again, ReadyToBeAMrs for making me BOTW!

For my first question I have to ask about the little ones in your wedding...Ring Bearer and/or Flower Girls! Do you have one? How old are they? How will they get down the aisle? Aside from these special kids, are you allowing children at your wedding?

This is on my mind because my sister is currently 36 weeks pregnant with my future ring bearer! He will be 6 months old, so of course I don't expect him to do anything but look cute and steal the show. I have asked his dad, my brother in law, to be my 'Baby bearer' as I lovingly refer to him. He will be FH's 5th groomsman, but he does not have a bridesmaid, only his son. So he will carry the baby when he walks my mom down the aisle, drop him off with her, and pick him up on his way back down the aisle. I am so excited for my nephew to arrive and so thankful he will get to be a part of my wedding!

As far as the rest of the wedding, I have said no children. It is simply because there would be way too many and I can't see spending thousands for a couple of picked over plates of chicken fingers. If the kids were super close to me I would think twice, but they are all mostly cousins children.

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We are having two flower girls. FH's Daughter and My Matron Of Honors Daughter. FH daughter is 5 and MOH daughter is 3.. FH will be standing at the end of the aisle so he will coax his daighter down and MOH's Husband will do the same for his daughter. If they still wont go their mothers will have to step in and get em down there..LOL.. These will be the only two children at our wedding and even they need to leave reception by 8 so we do not have to worry about innappropriate songs being played all night

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My godson will be almost 4 years old on the wedding day and I discussed having him as a ring bearer with his mom and dad. After going back and forth with the pros and cons, it was decided that Jack won't be a part of the wedding. The wedding doesn't even begin until 8pm and the reception runs so late, he's likely to get cranky. Not to mention, mom and dad could use a night out to par-tay.
No flower girl, either. But, I will be having my FH niece (who is 10) be my Jr Bridesmaid.
With regards to kids at the wedding, I have always been a fan of adults-only weddings. FH has two nephews (13 and 16) and one niece (my Jr BM, whose 10). Other than those 3, there are no other under-21 guests. Some friends have asked if they can bring their kiddos and we have given firm, but sweet no's. The few people who asked us we're all very understanding of our wishes and didn't make a big deal about it. I don't know - it may sound mean to some people, but I just don't thing a toddler belongs at a wedding reception that kicks off at 9:30pm. Not to mention, I just went to a VERY nice wedding at Oheka Castle where there were a handful of babies at the ceremony. A couple of them fussed the entire time and you couldn't even hear the bride and groom recite their vows. I totally get it if some couples want to include all loved ones - regardless of age - but its just not for me

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We actually aren't having flower girls or ring bearers. However we are having kids as log as they r school aged 5/6 and up
The reason is that most everyone is traveling so we c at ask them to leave their children for like 3 days

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we are having kid drama, so unfortunately we dont even know whats going on with the kids.

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My godson/nephew will be 2 when he walks down the aisle as my ring bearer. My sister thinks he might need keys with him as he walks, but I know that his dad will be at the front of the church while his mom (my MOH) will be at the back with me. Hopefully we'll get him to run from mom to dad in a cute and ridiculous way. If not, he can walk with my sister!

As far as kids at the wedding, we haven't made a decision yet. There are SO many... and some of them would be fine, but some of them would be running around, or face in an ipad the whole night. So its gotta be all or nothing... haven't made a decision and having a hard time with it. :/

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We decided against having a flower girl or ring bearer since all of our family/ friends kids are either too old or way too little. It seemed easier to have less people involved since we already have a giant bridal party: 8BM + 7GM.

As far as kids at the weddings, I'm assuming most people with babies aren't going to want to bring them cause it's a lot of work and the rest of the kids in our families are teenagers so we don't mind having them attend. We will leave it up to the parents if they want to bring their kids/little ones.

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We have no flower girl or ring bearer. We actually have no small kids in the family besides my cousin's baby who won't even be able to walk down the aisle because she is too young. We were thinking of having our dog zeus be our ring bearer, but he is a little misbehaved and I don't want a scene at the church lol

We are having no children at our wedding. The cut off is like 15 or 16 years old. We don't have that many young children in our family anyway

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My ring bearer is my FSIL's son. He turns 5 this coming February. He was born the month we began officially dating! I always think of our relationship in terms of how old he gets haha.

There are three flower girls. My aunt's (who is also a bridesmaid) children, who will be 3 and 2 at the time of the wedding are my cousins and the other flower girl is FSIL's daughter, who will be a month and a half shy of 3 at the time of the wedding.

They are all going to kill me with their cuteness, I can't wait! I like that they're all old enough to walk themselves down, haha. Well, FSIL might have to walk down with her kid and her husband, my FH's BIL who is also a groomsman. She's very attached to her mommy. We'll see how she does during the rehearsal.

I have two uncles who both have young children 10 and under. I have such a big age gap between me and my little first cousins because my dad had me and my siblings at a young age, hence why I have so many kids around at this time of my life! (I'm 28). The uncles' children we decided not to put in because one: they don't live in NY, two: I didn't want it to become a zoo of children, three: I don't want to put that burden of traveling, gifts and then buying the FG/RB outfits for the kids. Those children will be invited though.

Other than that, I don't think there will be any other children if we can help it.

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I am having my god daughter as my flower girl, she will be 2 1/2. She loves her dress and is excited but obviously she doesn't really understand that there will be a ton of people watching her. Her mother will be at the front of the aisle so hopefully she makes it down. My nephew who is 9 is the ring bearer, I'm just hoping he smiles as he walks down the aisle. I am not having any children besides my nephew at my wedding, to meet I prefer adults only.

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This topic is one that actually was a bit stressful for FH and I. My sister has two boys and my brother has one but they're all too old to be a RB so I was going to have them as Jr. GM. FH's cousin has a daughter that he's always had a sentimental attachment to, so she was going to be in it as a JR. Bridesmaid.

I have a little cousin who is now 5 that I've basically been with every step of the way since he was a month old because I used to watch him 4x a week and he was going to be the RB. FH best friend's daughter was going to be the FG.

A few months ago I was writing out lists and I just got to the point where I thought that for our situation, it got to be ridiculous so I said no kids in the wedding at all and FH agreed with me. We want to have my nephew's and his cousin's daughter at the wedding and they will be the only children.

****QOTD 12/16**** - Long Island Weddings

Our Flower Girl is my God-daughter (also my cousin's baby) and she’ll be 2 1/2 at our wedding. Unfortunately, we don't have a Ring Bearer only because there were no boys in either family at the right age. We don’t know what we're doing yet with kids being invited to the wedding. But we don't have many young children in our families, so I think it'll be fine to have them there.

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I have three nieces all are my flower girls. They are 2, 4, and 6.
My ring bearer is my youngest first cousin Justin who will be 10 but he's very small. My oldest niece is actually the same size as him.
I have younger cousins who I will not exclude plus I think kids are adorable at weddings so they Will be there

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This has been a tough thing for me. FH and I have a 6 year old daughter (will be 7 at the time of the wedding) so obviously we can't say NO kids. lol. I have 5 nieces and nephews, FH has MUUUUCCHHHH younger siblings (he's 33, his brother is 7!) and one of my cousins has a 10 year old son.

SO, what we decided was, our daughters age will be the cut off. Anyone younger than her isn't invited. It creates a bit of a situation with my brother, he has a 12 year old daughter and a 2 year old daughter, so one is invited and the other isn't. But, its easier to get a baby sitter for one than two and they live on LI, so it's not like they're travelling from OOT. Everyone else is just going to have to understand that A- it's a late wedding, ceremony starts at 7, reception doesn't start until 830, that's most kids' bedtimes. And B- we don't have it in the budget. We just don't. I would assume that most people would be glad for a night out, but some people get weird about it. Luckily, invite time is a ways off for me, so I have some time to casually spread the word of no little ones so people aren't shocked.

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We do not have a ring bearer. We have two flower girls. They are FSIL's daughters. They will be 4 & 2 at the wedding. I am hoping they will just walk down together. If not FBIL is FHs best man (and their dad) I will have him get them I guess. Haven't really thought about it.

The only other children at the wedding will be FH's cousin's children who will be 5 & 4 I believe. I'm glad they will be coming so that they can have each other to play with. My JBM will be 11 at the wedding and one of our GM will be 15. We don't have any other children in the family.

****QOTD 12/16**** - Long Island Weddings

we don't have any ring bearers or flower girls, and no kids are invited to the wedding... adults only :)

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Posted by cets1290

we don't have any ring bearers or flower girls, and no kids are invited to the wedding... adults only :)

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that's exactly what we are doing.... I want our wedding like a night at the club lol.

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We have two ring bearers, who will be 1.5 and 7 at the time and are FH's nephews and three flower girls; two are FH's nieces aged 3 and 7 and one is my neighbor and BFF who is also 7. The little ones are one of my favorite parts of my wedding! Picking their outfits and gifts has been so much fun!

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****QOTD 12/16****

Oh and no other kids but our flower girls/ring bearers will be at the wedding.