QOTD 2-18-14

For today's question, lets talk about living arrangements.

Do you and FH live together, did you live together before your engagement? If you lived together earlier on, do you think it made a difference in your relationship? If you don't live together and are waiting until marriage, what influenced your decision?

FH and I live together, and we lived together for probably about 2 years before we got engaged. I definitely think it was a good idea, we had both lived on our own for quite some time before we even met. I was very set in my ways, maybe even a little OCD lol, living together helped work through that. Now that we are engaged, I feel like there is nothing that could happen that would be tragic or a deal breaker. He knew I was a cleaning lunatic, how many pairs of shoes and purses I had, and still asked me to marry him!

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FH and I got engaged January '13 and I moved into his house Aug '13. I knew i wanted to live together before we got married since I knew it would be a huge transition living in jersey instead of LI near my family. I'm happy we waited till we were engaged, that was really my only 'rule'. I wanted to wait for that commitment before I moved. I think it's funny, even though we spent tons and tons of weekends together, it was a real game changer when we moved in. I joked with my married friends that no one warned me how weird it would be to live together

I knew all his weird habits (he's a total clean freak) but just the waking up every day together and going to sleep every night. It was a strange but good adjustment. I still find myself having nights where i freak out and want to run back home to LI but I really do love living with him. So much better than our previous long distance set up

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We've lived together since 2006 (been together since 2002). In a lot of ways we're already like an old married couple, lol. It took a while for us to find our 'roles' in the house, who cleans, who cooks, who takes out the garbage, stuff like that. The household responsibilities (we have a daughter too) are split up about 60/40 with 40 being me, no joke. lol. I know every day how lucky I am to have him!

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FH and I have lived together for almost 4 years. We both felt it was important to see how compatible we really were before moving forward with our relationship. I definitely think it made a difference in our relationship. We got to know things about each other that I wouldn't want to wait until marriage to know (nothing bad, but still its good to be in the know!) Also, not too long after we moved in together I had an emergency medical situation and FH was the one who took me to the hospital, stayed overnight with me and nursed me back to health. It solidified our bond and really impressed upon me how wonderful and caring he is.

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We don't live together yet. I come from a very old school Irish Catholic Family and lthough they would have let me make my own decisions, my parents have always done everything for me and I didn't see any harm in living home until I got married.

We started looking for places right after we got engaged because we weren't sure if we were going to buy or rent. We didn't find anything that we LOVED when we looked to purchase and I honestly wasn't ready to buy so we started looking for a rental and fell in love with an apartment in Forest Hills. It's HUGE and pre-war so the architecture is amazing. It's all furnished and we're still putting in little finishing touches (we still don't have any cookware or kitchen stuff because I haven't had a shower yet) but FH will move in as soon as he can and I'll move in after the wedding.

I'm actually kind of glad we waited because it gives us something new and exciting to look forward to once the wedding is over!

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I was completely against living with FH unless we were engaged, and then he kinda snuck his way into my apartment prior to our engagement. He got a job in Queens, and the commute from Farmingdale was too much for him so he started staying with me during the week, just in the beginning to get used to the new job. He would stay during the week and go home on the weekends. We called his apartment our weekend getaway.

I think now officially living together (and not in my studio part-time) is much harder than I thought it was going to be. His behaviors in my apartment were completely different then they are in our apartment and I'm still adjusting. If we had more space, maybe it would be easier, but the apartment we wanted fell through, and we took a tiny one bedroom (that's the exact same size as my studio was) so we are still very cramped.

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Posted by haw4

I was completely against living with FH unless we were engaged, and then he kinda snuck his way into my apartment prior to our engagement. He got a job in Queens, and the commute from Farmingdale was too much for him so he started staying with me during the week, just in the beginning to get used to the new job. He would stay during the week and go home on the weekends. We called his apartment our weekend getaway.

I think now officially living together (and not in my studio part-time) is much harder than I thought it was going to be. His behaviors in my apartment were completely different then they are in our apartment and I'm still adjusting. If we had more space, maybe it would be easier, but the apartment we wanted fell through, and we took a tiny one bedroom (that's the exact same size as my studio was) so we are still very cramped.

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Very similar to how we ended up living together! I had the apartment in Queens and he had his house in Centereach, but started working uptown and would stay by me a few days a week for ease of commute. We are in the process of selling his house, fingers crossed he gets the closing date ASAP! It is not easy combing 2 households into a one bedroom...we had to get a storage unit for a lot of things, and his motorcycle is wintering at my parents house

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we both still live separately but we bought a house and are hoping to close on it soon. We have some work to do to the house though, so I don't think we will be moving in until just before the wedding. We were supposed to close months ago, and planned to be moved in already, but there was an issue with the house so we kind of had to change our plan a bit. I am really looking forward to moving in though

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Congrats on the house cets1290! Good luck with the closing and with getting the work done on your house. When I bought my apartment, I lived with my parents for almost 9 months while work was being done!

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This is a great question and totally relevant to my life right now and I am so glad to read what you ladies are writing I feel like I'm not the only one.

My FH and I have been together since we were 17.....so despite a small breakup that's 14 years.....I thought we knew everything about each other, had been through everything together, I was wrong. This past July we closed on a home and got engaged within 2 weeks of each other. After some construction we moved in together at the end of August. I feel like living together has been a HUGE adjustment. We have both been on our own for a while and have different ways of doing things, different routines. Its all little things but still very different and we are still adjusting.

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FH and I lived together for two years before getting engaged; personally I think it helped us grow together. We worked out any issues before which is nice.

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Posted by jenniepny

Congrats on the house cets1290! Good luck with the closing and with getting the work done on your house. When I bought my apartment, I lived with my parents for almost 9 months while work was being done!

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thanks!! We are waiting for the town of hempstead to give us the CO (certificate of occupancy- need to get permits for an extenstion that was completed years ago ) for the kitchen on the house- they said it will be early Spring, which is the wedding... so we may have to live at my parent's house for like a month. Hopefully we close earlier though :(

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Posted by jenniepny

For today's question, lets talk about living arrangements.

Do you and FH live together, did you live together before your engagement? If you lived together earlier on, do you think it made a difference in your relationship? If you don't live together and are waiting until marriage, what influenced your decision?

FH and I live together, and we lived together for probably about 2 years before we got engaged. I definitely think it was a good idea, we had both lived on our own for quite some time before we even met. I was very set in my ways, maybe even a little OCD lol, living together helped work through that. Now that we are engaged, I feel like there is nothing that could happen that would be tragic or a deal breaker. He knew I was a cleaning lunatic, how many pairs of shoes and purses I had, and still asked me to marry him!

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We lived together for one tear before we got renegade.

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FW and I lived together for a little over a year before we were engaged. That's what I've always wanted...I'm set in my ways, I needed to know that I could live with my future partner and vice versa.

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I moved in with FH a few months after he proposed..so alittle over 2 years now.The adjustment has been great and we are sharing a studio but even with lack of space we get along great and rarely fight..I just cant wait to get a bigger place after we say i do

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Neither one of us have ever lived on our own... besides college. This should be an adventure lol