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My fiance and I have been together for a very long time (14 years) so all we have heard for years is 'When are you getting married'. Now that we finally are engaged I was happy for it to stop. Which it did for a little while..BUT...now that the wedding is soon approaching I am now constantly being asked 'When are you guys going to have a baby? Are you going to start right away?' and sometimes it drives me crazy!!

I am 31 so it is def something that I don't plan on waiting a very long time to do but it's also a HUGE decision. The wedding and our new home has been a lot of stress and a big adjustment so when I say to people that I may want to wait until we are married for a year I feel like I am being pressured to start sooner.

So is anyone else having this happen to them? What are your plans for babies after the wedding?

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People have nothing to talk about and sometimes need excitement in their lives... so by asking you a million questions they get all of the hype they need without realizing that it can be annoying/too much pressure. With that being said, you do whatever you want to do in whatever time you want to do it! Personally, I am turning 30 this year.. I'm not in a rush to start trying (no honeymoon baby) but I think that we will start within the year or at most 2 after we get married. I am just letting things happen one day at a time! Right now my focus is on the wedding, then we'll figure out the rest :)

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People ask of this all of the time. The only person who hadn't brought it up was my parents and just recently my mom told me that I won't be able to make it to my cousins destination wedding in 2016 because I'll be pregnant. What?!? Haha we def want to wait a year. Although we would love to have one right away! We want at least 3 so we have to get that ball rolling lol

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we are thinking we will start trying in 2-2 1/2 years. I'll be almost 27 when we get married so i'd just like to have my first around 30.

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I think people just want to share in other people's excitement so asking those questions, however annoying they are, is their way of doing that. We have gotten the babies question a few times and I just tell people we don't really know. I mean, no matter how much you try you can't necessarily plan it anyways. So we'll see!

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I used to say I wanted to wait a year but I'm going to be 32 when I get married so we are starting right away. I want to have more than one and don't want to be anywhere near 40 and having kids.

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My moms already asking me to have a baby and we aren't even married yet LOL I'll be 29 and FH will be 30 when we get married, so we plan on waiting a year.

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No one is asking me this, really. I did get that question maybe twice from friends. I'm 28 but my parents are young so needless to say, they are NOT in a rush for grandkids. And FH's parents are already grandparents. I actually do want kids right away. FH doesn't so we came to a compromise as to when we will start, lol.

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We already have one and I actually don't want anymore. But, FH AND our daughter want me to have another, so I might be peer pressured into it, lol. jkjkjk, We've already come to a compromise.

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these kinds of questions always crack me up. The way I look at it, everyone loves good news so naturally everyone wants to know when the next bit of good news (a baby) will be. FH and I both have birthdays at the end of august so a month after our wedding I'll be turning 30 and he'll be turning 31. I don't think we're in any crazy rush but I think we'd both be happy if we got pregnant within a year of getting married. Who knows what will happen!? But we're definitely excited to start that next chapter of our lives

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I plan on waiting about 4-5 years.. but it really depends on when I get tenure! lol I'm not about to get pregnant without job security in a school first... the day I get that little pin that says I have tenure then we will talk about it. I've heard too many horror stories of teachers getting pregnant without tenure and schools finding a way to let them go.. The last thing I want to happen is to find out i'm pregnant then find out i'm unemployed!

I do want to save a little bit though too.. my FH and I just bought a home and we have some work to do to it.. so we'd like to take the next few years to focus on renovating the home and making it comfortable. And we want to travel a bit

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This question popped up during our engagement party which was the day AFTER we got engaged haha. We're in no rush to have kids maybe in 2 years or so. After many years in school we just started our careers and ideally would love to travel. Also since we don't live together yet, we're selfish and don't want to share each other with anyone else lol

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FH and I are in no rush to have kids. After the honeymoon I am getting off of BC (I've been on it for about 10 years and it stresses me I've been on it so long) but we'll take other precautions. Both FH and I will be 26 when we get married and I would love to have our first baby by 30.

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OMG this is so annoying.. I get this all the time, especially from FH side of the family but I think its because he will be the first to have grandkids, my family has a bunch. His mother been pushing us to get married (been together for 6 and engaged for 2) and now that were planning it she keeps telling me I'll have a honeymoon baby... I'll be turning 29 a few months after getting married, I think I want to start after our 1 year anniversary.

People are never satisfied... lol

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Nobody has asked us this thankfully, but we plan to start trying right away. I have some medical issues and will likely need medical intervention to get pregnant, so we don't want to put it off knowing it may take a while.

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oh you youngens!! try being 36 getting married!

we hear the baby question, too, but ive been answering tricky questions for a long time now so ive got it covered.

when your SO is 9 years younger than you, you've heard it all.

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Posted by Dani10

oh you youngens!! try being 36 getting married!

we hear the baby question, too, but ive been answering tricky questions for a long time now so ive got it covered.

when your SO is 9 years younger than you, you've heard it all.

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Love it lolol....but I hope you have a honeymoon baby

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LOL! love you

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Posted by jenniepny

Nobody has asked us this thankfully, but we plan to start trying right away. I have some medical issues and will likely need medical intervention to get pregnant, so we don't want to put it off knowing it may take a while.

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I agree I wouldn't wait either. That's another thing I feel I don't want to wait to long because I know people start trying and find out they have issues and it takes longer.

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No one has really asked us, but a lot of my friends are married and starting to plan for babies, so it definitely gets me thinking. 2 of my friends told me they want to start trying around the time of my wedding... tmi, haha. I would like to wait about 2 years before we start having kids. I want to travel and save a bit before we start having kids.