I went out with an old friend last night and I thought of the QOTD...
How different is your bridal party from when you first got engaged? Do you expect it to change any further?
This old friend is an ex-girlfriend of one of FH's very good friends (possibly his BM, but he hasn't decided yet). When I first got engaged, they were still together and I absolutely wanted her in the BP and I told her this. Now, even though I still want her in it, I don't know if it's a good idea. They've both moved on and FH's friend is dating another good friend of mine who is also in my BP. Might get sticky...
Also, when I first got engaged, I had these 2 other girls in my BP and now things have fizzled between me and them. I scratched them off my list a few months ago and I'm so happy about it!
MarjorieFrank
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Mine has changed big-time. I was DEF having 2 more girls than I am now.
jme78
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I really didn't want to have any attendants, but FH insisted he needed his brothers, so I asked 2 of my cousins and 2 of my friends - all have been close to me for many years and I would trust them with anything.
MrsC2010
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mine hasnt changed in terms of #s...
the only difference is that one gm will be married by the time our wedding comes.
T E R I
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Ours hasn't changed at all, we only asked family members to be in the BP, so we didn't have to worry about friendship problems
GR2010
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Well I have two very close guy friends, from the time i was in Kindergarten and I wasn't going to add the because I had 6BMs and my 2 brothers as GMs and FH only had 4 guys he wanted in the BP... but I decided that I didn't care if the BP was uneven, they are important to me and have been my clostest friends for so long that I wanted them to be a part of my day.
Since then I have kind of lost touch with a girl I was friends with. We were friends through work and when she quit she kind of fell off the face of the planet... I've tried emailing her to keep in touch but all in all she hasn't really made an effort so she's no longer a part of the party.
There is one person I want to ask but I am friends with her through my sister and I don't know if that would be weird... We all hang out a lot together, probably more so than I see some of my other friends but I have only known her for about a year now. I asked FH and he thinks I should wait to ask her since we're not ordering the dresses until January anyway and see how things go. So we'll see....
kris_gets_hitched
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One small change - FH and I wanted a very small BP. I have one MOH and BM...he has a BM and GM. FH wanted his cousin's daughter as a FG; that's the only change. We haven't asked her yet - we're actually leaving it up to her parents as to whether they want to do this, since they have a newborn son and it might be a LOT to take on.
But that's it. I don't like coordinating large groups of people due to the drama that will inevitably occur.
DaniandKen2010
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Mine hasn't changed except I still am not sure who is going to be my flower girl...its supossed to be FH's neice but bc of drama we are not sure..and FH went from having only 1 GM to 4 and most are my family.
mariedsgn
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Our BP has not changed at all
StellaStar13
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I made a HUGE mistake and asked my wedding party right away. FH wanted to wait till we picked a date but I thought you need to let ppl know ASAP or those who considered themselves ppl that would be asked wouldn't get upset. Boy was I wrong!!!!!
I lost one BM, by her choice. It is a very sad situation for me b/c our 14 year friendship also dissolved. I also asked one of my friends who is married to one of the GM's and she basically said no. I was shocked and upset but understand that her life is hectic and she would see it as an added stress in her life (although it kinda s ucks that someone would feel that way).
So FH has a BM & 5 GMs' and I currently have 1 MOH and 3 BMs. There is an old friend who I reconnected w/about 1 1/2 ago. I really wanna ask her (we have become VERY close) but am kinda scared. I know, I'm being silly but I really dont think I can take another rejection!!!!
Spring143
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When we got engaged just thought that we would have moh and bm. now i think we may change n have a bridal party. we shall see.
iquel
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No change at all. My BP consist of family members and friends so I haven't had any drastic change since we got engaged. Of course we have bumped heads but not to the point that I would say your out. Or they feel they don't want to be apart of the wedding. I hope their are no drastic changes and if their are any I hope they are good ones
