(( QOTD - Tuesday 07/19/11 ))

JRT5412 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 07:37 AM

(( QOTD - Tuesday 07/19/11 ))

So last night FH and I were discussing our childhood and how our parents raised us. Which led me to this question:

So you know how they say that when your looking for your future husband or future wife, you usually look for something that is a reflection of your Dad/Mother.

Q: Is your FH a reflection of your dad? or is he the total opposite and why? Are you a reflection of your FMIL? or are you the total opposite??

A: My FH is the total opposite of my Dad. I always said I wanted my FH to be different from my father. Not that my dad was a bad person, it's just he was very old school and thought my mother was the one that had to watch over me and my brother all the time, she had cook, clean and cater to him. He felt his only responsibility was to bring the $$ in the household. My dad is also anti-social and doesn't like attending family gatherings and that always made my mom look like a single mother. I love my dad very much and although he is still in the picture, there are times I felt like he was missing out on a lot of things.

As for me being like my FMIL!!! Oh hell no!!!! I definitely know I am the total opposite in everything. FH was raised my his paternal grandmother and that woman has a heart of gold and loves my FH as if he was her own son. I can see some similarities of me in her. But not his real mother.

barbeik005 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 07:59 AM

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FH is nothing like my Dad. My Dad is like a very simple man who is not easily angered. He is very mathematical and thinks things through very carefully. Don't kid me wrong I love my FH but he has a tad bit of a temper, and doesn't always think about things before they happen.

I'm also nothing like my FMIL. She's a very religious Catholic woman, who also is very calm, and not easily angered. I am very emotional, and my feelings typically can get the best of me, and I'm not very religious.

CaughtMyFish Posted: Jul 19, 2011 08:17 AM

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My FH is nothing like my dad! My dad was pretty uninvolved in my childhood activities. He was a decent father, semi decent provider, but I never had that 'world's best daddy' relationship with him. Finding Fathers Day cards gives me a huge headache every single year. My parents have been married for over 40 yrs but there have been issues many times over the years.

FH is a huge lover of kids (is a teacher) and will probably be the kids' favorite parent, if we should have any. LOL He is patient, kind, fun loving, has literally no temper, and is an all around great person. I really lucked out, seriously.

I think I could be similar to FMIL in the sense that we both are in charge of the home and domestic stuff. FH will clean if prompted, but he certainly is not as anal as I am. His Mom keeps her home spotless, always makes dinner (even if half is store bought), and likes the traditions of holidays. I am the same way, and will likely mimic her in our household. It's not an insult to say I am like her, as I really respect her and think she is a great person.

kjzimpel Posted: Jul 19, 2011 08:38 AM

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You know I haven't really thought of this question until now....

Yes I feel that FH and my father and myself and FMIL are both similar in ways........

SoontobeLT Posted: Jul 19, 2011 08:58 AM

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I'd say my FH and dad are similar, but not 100% the same! They're both incredibly hard working, responsible family men. They both want to be the provider for the family but still aren't terribly old fashioned where they believe the wife should stay home. They're both social and friendly and are exactly the same when it comes to sports. They just don't agree on their teams.

I am NOTHING like my FMIL. Not at all. While she's nice and friendly, she's also a little crazy. She also didn't finish raising her kids and I could never, ever do that to my children.

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Jul 19, 2011 09:27 AM

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While FH and my dad share some of the same interests they're not that alike, FH is actually more like my grandfather.

I don't think I am anything like FMIL

AlexandMike2012 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 09:40 AM

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my FH is very much like my Dad, they get along sooooooo well and hang out with out me. There are so many amazing qualities that they both have, I feel very lucky

Shamrock212 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 09:46 AM

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FH is pretty opposite of my dad- but he does have some traits that my dad has- like I'll see him do something & think omg that's something my dad would do- they have a great relationship- and that is a huge relief.

I am absolutely nothing like my FMIL- she's a bit older, old fashioned and I can't really relate to pretty much anything she says...we do get along though, its not like I dislike her...

EmilyandPeter Posted: Jul 19, 2011 09:56 AM

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FH is very similar to my dad, which I am happy about. I don't think I would have fallen in love with a man the opposite personality from my father. (My sister always jokes that our father ruined her dating life because he is too perfect that no guy lives up to him!! )

I am also very similar to my FMIL which I am also happy about! She is a wonderful woman, she raised four wonderful children, went to work full time, and still kept the house spotless and cooked dinner every night. I see a lot of me in her. FH also says things to me like 'That is something my mother would do'.

I am pleased that we both see our parents in each other because we both have very close relationships with them.

pixietina Posted: Jul 19, 2011 10:54 AM

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FH is nothing like my dad and I hope he never becomes like him otherwise he will leave me for another woman. My dad is headstrong and takes offense to every little thing. FH is more relaxed and just goes with the flow. So they are definitely complete opposites.

On the flip side I am nothing like FH's mother. She is not a very affectionate person and an extreme hoarder. She hates cleaning and cooking. So I am the complete opposite of her except when it comes to cooking.

wishingwell1230 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 11:54 AM

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FH is a lot like my dad in that he is motivated and hard working as well as caring and a genuine person. They both have a bright personality and an infectious smile.

FH is more like my mother in terms of career, though, as they are both physical education majors!

I definitely think (and I feel honored) that FH sees alot of his late mom in me. He tells me it all the time. Mostly when he can't find something and I know what it is right away, he says I have 'mom radar'. But really it's just that he is messy so when I end up picking up after him I know where I put his things.

mara1017 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 12:21 PM

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My FH is not like my dad at all. I love my dad and he is great and I am totally a daddy's girl but he keeps to himself alot. FH is so friendly and open and always wants to be out and about.

Watermelon5 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 01:15 PM

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good q!

FH and my father really aren't alike at all ~ they are pretty much opposites lol! I love my father but he can be sarcastic and can come across as rude; he also has a temper. FH is sooo laid back, loves to laugh/joke, and doesn't let anything get under his skin enough to make him pissy/mad lol.

I actually am a lot like my FMIL lol! we are def both strong females that have opinions (she more than me though ). we are both also pretty traditional and are all about family.

irisheyezrsmilen Posted: Jul 19, 2011 01:19 PM

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as much as i love my fmil there is no way we are alike lol

i guess there are somethings that are similar between my FH and my dad it cute they get along so well.

JRT5412 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 01:34 PM

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I love reading the different responses. I see a lot of similiarities where we feel we are somewhat alot like the FMIL's!! Maybe it is true for men that do look for that motherly reflection in a future wife? I see a huge difference with us woman and finding someone similar to our dads too.

roblisa09 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 02:00 PM

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FH does things that reminds me of when I was a little girl. Like the way he gets me little surprises here and there reminds me of how my dad was with me and how my dad would bring home little surprises home for no apparent reason. As for personality they are not the same.

I haven't met my FMIL since she lives in El Salvador but FH thinks that I do things that remind him of his mom.

Good Question BOTW!!!!!!!

courtneydemarco12 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 06:07 PM

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FH is not like my dad at all because I did not have a dad at all growing up, however he is very much like my grandfather who past away when I was 16. They have a lot in common, both loyal and faithful and. caring and hardworking. They are the same zodiac sign too. I don't think I am my FMIL we look a like but I think that is it. I don't baby FH. We bith care about him a great deal, but I think that is where the simularities stop.

Bride in 2012 Posted: Jul 19, 2011 07:11 PM

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FH and my Dad are a lot alike. My dad is very quiet and laid back which is very similar to FH and they both also enjoy playing on several softball teams lol