A few weeks ago, there was a thread about running into your first deep love. That is inspired the following scenario. Interested to see how you'll respond
You are engaged to DH. Before the wedding, you run into your first true, deep love before DH. In that meeting, he confesses that he made a HUGE mistake and wants a second chance and does a very convincing 'sell' job. Let's assume you were with this person longer than you are with DH.
Now, I will assume that each of you will answer that you would reject your first love. But, that's not my question. The question is, would you consider the offer...
btrflygrl
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I would consider it...maybe even tell 'FH' about it....in fact...I even do the 'What if...' thing after I'm married!!!
leahmarie
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I too would consider it, and also tell FH!!!
FLaCaTaCa
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I am sure that I would give it a second thought. I doubt that I could just walk away from that and be like 'I am getting married...Bye!' I don't know about that. But I do know that even a third, fourth or ninth thought...I'd never leave Pat. My first love is gone and out of the picture for a reason (Actually for many reasons) and I truly wouldn't go back. But, I would have to say that I would consider it. And, I hate the way that sounds, but I guess with these options, I would have to say yeah, I would consider it.
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wow, I guess I am in the minority here.... I would not even give it a second thought....I am so happy with DH & we went through alot to get where we are today.
Who I was & what I had with anyone else before him was a different lifetime...one that I do not need to relive.
I don't mean this to offend anyone else....it is JMHO
btrflygrl
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Oh....I wouldn't consider leaving DH...It would just make me think 'what if' I had gotten to where I am today with someone else.....I was a different person then....and no one could be better than DH for me....
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Posted by HearzBellz
Who I was & what I had with anyone else before him was a different lifetime...one that I do not need to relive.
Ditto
BMD'sPeanut
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by the way...i don't think actually considering an offer and thinking 'what if' are the same thing...or maybe they are...but it doesn't have to mean anything...i have a bajillion different thoughts about a bajillion different things every second of every day...they don't all mean something...
HearzBellz
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Oh....I wouldn't consider leaving DH...It would just make me think 'what if' I had gotten to where I am today with someone else.....I was a different person then....and no one could be better than DH for me....
I didn't mean it that way... I would never imply that any one would leave DH or anything like that....all I am saying is that for me, I love my life right now, and that is not something that I have always been able to say. I cannot even think what if, b/c I know that the answer would never be as good as reality is today.
I think I just made it more confusing
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Would not consider it at all. The guy is a loser and I much better off without the f...!!!
lorsin
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Are you peeking into my life??
Right after I got engaged, a former love called to tell me that he was finally mature enough to have a relationship and when he reflected back on his life I was the one thing that made him happy and he knew I was the one.
The only reason we broke up to begin with was that he moved to Atlanta. I was so heart-broken when things ended, but knew that he was too immature (despite being 8 years older than me) to have a real relationship with.
Shortly after we broke-up FH and I started dating (about 5 years ago).
Needless to say, I told him that I was engaged and in love and it was too late. BUT I didn't sleep for about 3 days thinking about it. In the end, I know FH is the right one for me, but it's really really hard not to consider the what if, even if you know it's the wrong choice.
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I answered I would not give it a second thought ... nor consider it at ALL
without any doubt in my mind, there is NOONE from my past (even my 'first love') that would pique my interest enough to even consider an offer from, nor would I think 'what if..' towards any ex's.. there was no long-term chance with any of them!
I guess I'm in the minority but I really do not have ANY emotional feelings or connection towards anyone in my past.. I don't even harbor bitterness or dislike towards some of my nasty ex's..
I can honestly say it took meeting Dh to realize that I never truly had been 'in love' until I met him.. Sure I THOUGHT I was in love a lot of times, but given how wonderfully I get along with DH and how truly happy and content I am now, I know what I had with those people wasn't even in the same ballpark as what I have w/DH now.
I am meant to be with whom I'm with. And even running into an ex whom I had a 'good' relationship with wouldn't give me pause to think otherwise!
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wow, I guess I am in the minority here.... I would not even give it a second thought....I am so happy with DH & we went through alot to get where we are today.
Who I was & what I had with anyone else before him was a different lifetime...one that I do not need to relive.
I don't mean this to offend anyone else....it is JMHO
I completly agree. I can't even consider anyonr from the past ' a true, deep love' b/c while they were 1 & 2 year relationships & I thought they were so serious, they weren't like this.
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It would definitely make me think 'what if.' My first love and I still have a very strong bond and honestly, an attraction towards each other. It has literally been 10 years since we dated, so who knows what things would be like between us as adults dating. We're from the same town, so we're still friends and will always look out for each other and want the best for each other. Although it would get the wheels in my mind spinning, I certainly wouldn't leave my FH.
Nope... not a thought. I was soooo in love but now I realize that wasnt the whole package I was looking for. Now I am complete.
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It would definitely make me think 'what if.' ... Although it would get the wheels in my mind spinning, I certainly wouldn't leave my FH.
Same here. I went through a lot with my first love and it would make me think 'what if'. But in the end I would remember all the reasons we're better off not together and all the reasons that FH makes me so incredibly happy.
Scoop
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no...he doesn't even come close to the man my husband is.
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Mine actually got in touch with me right after I was engaged. It was nice to touch base with him. He put some thoughts in my heads what if's if you will, and that he wanted to be with me. Then I remembered something. He is MARRIED and he is still MARRIED. So then the what if's turned into ONCE A SNAKE ALWAYS A SNAKE!
Xelindrya
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Yep I'd consider it
I'd be a hypocrite if I said otherwise. *shrug* no shame in thinking about it as far as I know, but I am happy where I am in my own little reality.
