How many of your fiance's are actively participating in the planning of the wedding? What are they doing/have they done so far?
nylisa
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We made all the decisions on everything for the wedding together.
MegLehner
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My FH went to the Bourne with my mom and I before we booked it. He went to pick out cake. We met the officiant together. we did some registry stuff together & he planned the HM.
AJsMommy122
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We made all the decisions on everything for the wedding together.
Same here. In the beginning he really wasnt crazy about wedding planning but we still did everything and made all decisions together. Once the wedding was only a year away he started REALLY getting into it and not complaining about going to vendors and putting in more input and suggestions.
steph4777
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He attended all of the vendor meetings. But has not gotten too involved with the details. Before I do something, I ask his opinion but most of the time he doesn't have much to say.
D&J
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We planned everything together... some times he didnt want to go, but he did anyway..
I told him the wedding planning is going to be 50-50.. i'm not doing it alone. If I have to go to all these vendors, then you have too. It's his responsibilities just as much as mine........it worked
BCTM33
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He attended all of the vendor meetings. But has not gotten too involved with the details. Before I do something, I ask his opinion but most of the time he doesn't have much to say.
Same here!
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My FH has has next to nothing to do with the planing. He did come to the hall after I told him I thought I had found the one. He did come see the band at a showcase before we booked it, but that's about it. He has never seen our photographer, he has no clue what kind of flowers we're having and he didn't even plan the HM. He just isn't into planning AT ALL. And not just the wedding, he's just not a good planner in general. He says that's why he has me, because I'm so much better at it. It gets frustrating when they're not involved, but my FH is kind of old school and feels like all he should have to do is show up. Ah well, I love him anyway.
jacardi
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mine came to the hall with me but thats about it, I guess I expected that with him
Jan05Bride
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He's involved in every aspect of the wedding. I was surprised he was sooo interested in the beginning but it's been nice to make deicisons together knowing that the wedding will be exactly what we both want.
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We made all the decisions on everything for the wedding together.
Same here, although I did most of the background research before hand on LIWeddings and other websites.
patti08
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We do everything together except wedding dress / BM dresses / tuxes.
FeliciaDA
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FH has been very 'into' the wedding planning process. He's went to all the vendors with me (without complaining) and has made EVERY decision with me. He never complains or tells me he doesn't want to do something, etc.
However all the follow-up calls, appointments and little things (like favors, etc) he's left to me .. Since I'm a control freak, I cannot complain .. that's how I like it. I stress out over the details FAR more than he does, and while he does offer to help, he knows I'm better off left doing the little touches by myself
mskimmy98
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The only thing that FH was not involved with is the flowers.
He planned the honeymoon (this was all him)..
Everything else was both of us.
Kriss2c
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He sat in on the meetings with the hall and the florist.
I can't even get a completed guest list out of him.
FLaCaTaCa
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I tried to do all the foot work and searches but when I narrowed it all down, he helped with with everything. All the financial aspects of the wedding must run by him or I am in trouble!
CubanBride
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Well my problem is my fiance is not really doing any work with the wedding. I do all the research. I book all the appointments. He goes with me on the appointments only because I don't have my own car. Any time I ask him questions he just smiles and nods. I am kind of getting tired of it. I don't know what to do.
He's involved in every aspect of the wedding. I was surprised he was sooo interested in the beginning but it's been nice to make deicisons together knowing that the wedding will be exactly what we both want.
That is us exactly too. The flowers he isnt really into, but he will be there so I stay in the budget.
Kriss2c
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Whenever I bring this up to my FH, he always says that he trusts my judgment and he's happy if I am happy. I think he's a bit bored with it all already.
wc0143
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DH actually did a lot of the research for us. But for the most part, he let me make decisions because he wanted me to be happy.
