Question about rehearsal dinners

We are just doing the bridal party, parents.

If you start inviting everyone it gest to be a small wedding.

Thanks girls. I really value your opinions, that is why I brought the question here. My mom and I had a huge discussion about it yesterday and she was like, 'go ask your computer friends, they'll know'.

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Posted by yelley77

Thanks girls. I really value your opinions, that is why I brought the question here. My mom and I had a huge discussion about it yesterday and she was like, 'go ask your computer friends, they'll know'.

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honestly, it is up to you about the OOT guests

we made a judgement call. If your guests know the area, or at least speak english you may not have to include them

we only have one couple coming from italy so it isnt that big of a deal to include them

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Posted by yelley77

Thanks girls. I really value your opinions, that is why I brought the question here. My mom and I had a huge discussion about it yesterday and she was like, 'go ask your computer friends, they'll know'.

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FH says the same thing hehehehe

i wouldnt invite OOT guests...the 'rehersal dinner' is 4 people who actually participated in the wedding rehersal. you can invite OOTners, but i wouldnt feel obligated 2...check out this article Click Here

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Thanks girls. I really value your opinions, that is why I brought the question here. My mom and I had a huge discussion about it yesterday and she was like, 'go ask your computer friends, they'll know'.

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honestly, it is up to you about the OOT guests

we made a judgement call. If your guests know the area, or at least speak english you may not have to include them

we only have one couple coming from italy so it isnt that big of a deal to include them

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That is the thing, every single OOT guest coming has lived here before. If they didn't know the area, or didn't have anything else to do, I would understand. But all of them will be renting cars when they come in, as they usually do when they come to visit, and see other family members, etc

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Posted by kslmbuggie

i wouldnt invite OOT guests...the 'rehersal dinner' is 4 people who actually participated in the wedding rehersal. you can invite OOTners, but i wouldnt feel obligated 2...check out this article Click Here

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Thanks. I know I am not obligated, I jsut wanted to feel out what everyone else was doing. The people we are having a hard time with are people who invited my mom to their childs RD when my mom went OOT for their wedding. But, my mom didn't know anyone there.

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Posted by Espo22

Well i'll probably invite OOT guests bc we dont have alot of oot guests and all our OOT guests are Fh's close family such as his moms sister and her whole family and since shes planning the RD im sure shes going to invite them. Plus for example a couple from florida whose wedding we went to and they invited us to their RD, which is also family to FH lol so same thing. However, some of our OOT guests will probably not even be here during the RD, i think alot of them are coming the night before or maybe some even coming in that morning. So if the RD is not the night before which i hope it isn't, then they wont even be around for it

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I am going to call the JT today and see if we can do it earlier in the week, rather than the night before and that would avoid the whole problem because if we do it on Tuesday or Wednesday, no one will even be in from OOT yet. That would be ideal b/c then noone will be offended. And again, it's not about the money, it's just about having a small, intimate gathering.

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Thanks girls. I really value your opinions, that is why I brought the question here. My mom and I had a huge discussion about it yesterday and she was like, 'go ask your computer friends, they'll know'.

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honestly, it is up to you about the OOT guests

we made a judgement call. If your guests know the area, or at least speak english you may not have to include them

we only have one couple coming from italy so it isnt that big of a deal to include them

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That is the thing, every single OOT guest coming has lived here before. If they didn't know the area, or didn't have anything else to do, I would understand. But all of them will be renting cars when they come in, as they usually do when they come to visit, and see other family members, etc

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yup so that sounds exactly like FH's OOT guests - so i wouldnt invite them

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

Well i'll probably invite OOT guests bc we dont have alot of oot guests and all our OOT guests are Fh's close family such as his moms sister and her whole family and since shes planning the RD im sure shes going to invite them. Plus for example a couple from florida whose wedding we went to and they invited us to their RD, which is also family to FH lol so same thing. However, some of our OOT guests will probably not even be here during the RD, i think alot of them are coming the night before or maybe some even coming in that morning. So if the RD is not the night before which i hope it isn't, then they wont even be around for it

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I am going to call the JT today and see if we can do it earlier in the week, rather than the night before and that would avoid the whole problem because if we do it on Tuesday or Wednesday, no one will even be in from OOT yet. That would be ideal b/c then noone will be offended. And again, it's not about the money, it's just about having a small, intimate gathering.

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yeah I definitely suggest doing that, this way you dont even have to worry about it

Thanks girls!!!!

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we are only doing close fam(parents), bridal party(which includes our siblings) and their significant others. i feel like if we started inviting oot guests and everything it would turn into a mini wedding.. and i think the RD should be after the rehearsal with the people who had to rehearse.. but thats just my opinion- to each her own!!

supposedly youre supposed to invite OOTers but......

HELL NO! i'm not inviting them to mine. its all going to be very small and intimate.
sorry people!

if the OOT guest are staying at your house or FH house then i would say invite them...if it is a hand full of OOT guest then invite them if they are staying in a hotel and you do not have to entertain them then leave them out and if there are SOOO many OOT guests then leave them out...

RD should be close family Bridal party their guest...flowergirl/pillowboy and their parents...

but it is really whoever you want at the RD weddings are about what you want these days anything goes....