Question about wedding planning process

Hi brides! I am working on a project for work and I actually wanted to get your valuable insights. Everybody talks about wedding planning being tedious and stressful which can be true at times, but when it comes down to it, would you say you enjoyed or are enjoying the planning?
Will you be sad when it is over?
Would you want to do it all over again (not talking about getting married a second time)?

Thank you for all your help!!

Question about wedding planning process

I will be completely honest. At the stage I'm at I wish I would've eloped. I'm busy at work, we are trying to find a house and wedding planning just gets in the way haha. At this point I'm just excited to wear my pretty dress. I will say I asked my friend who was recently married this exact same question you asked. She told me its worth it a million times over and she would do the whole thing again. So I took her word and hope the day of is as great as they say it will be.

Question about wedding planning process

So far the most stressful part was finding a venue because everything depended on that. I wanted to do so much right away, but it felt like we couldn't do anything else, especially since we were really open about our date, and not knowing the season meant i couldn't work on dresses, colors, or decorations either.

Now I am really enjoying it because all of the big pieces are in place, and I'm excited to start some of the crafty projects. There is definitely still some stress but now it's mostly positive :)

Side note - we bought our house a year ago and I cannot imagine having to go through that process (not to mention the post-buying rip out and build) during wedding planning. We were going to gut the kitchen this year but now that we are engaged have pushed it to after the wedding because it would be way too stressful!

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Loving the wedding planning! However, I am definitely a planner, so I'm having a good time. I have already commented to my MOH and bridesmaids that I will miss it when everything is done.

It can definitely get stressful though, especially if there are too many cooks in the kitchen. I'm lucky though, my fiance is very laid back and my mom came with me to look at dresses and flowers only. My future MIL is not involved by her choice.

Take things one or two at a time and concentrate on the most important things first...the venue, band/DJ, photographer, your dress. Everything else can be put on the back burner (however, BM dresses take 3-4 months, or at least the ones my girls are getting).

I love these boards...they have really helped me, and if you just need to vent, everyone here is in the same boat, so we can all empathize!

Good luck!

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Thank you very much for the responses. Any other feedback/insights from others?

Question about wedding planning process

There were parts of it that were fun, but for me, for the most part, it was just another thing in my already busy life. It all got done, and it was all worth it, but if i had it to do over, I'd do a lot of things differently.

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I loved to hate the process. I really feel that the planning process but a lot of strain on my relationship, and it brought up a lot of issues with my in laws. I now completely understand why people elope. At the end of the process, I cried that I just wanted the wedding to be over because of all of the added stress...I'm happy to say now I'm happy we had a wedding and didn't elope because I had a lot of fun (minus a few dramatic moments).

Edit: I would say now, I notice things that I wish I would have realized then, but it all still turned out to be a wonderful night that went way too fast for all the time I spent on it!

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I'm finding it to be fun, but im having a long engagement and can take my time with things. The only stressful part thus far is family drama, which is out of our hands anyway.

ETA: oh yeah, and money. Money sucks.

Question about wedding planning process

I am a second time bride so I knew what I was getting into. All the details, all the little things that you think guests will notice--they don't! So I'm really just focusing on the things that are important to me and that I enjoy. I am positive that I will not miss planning though, I'm just looking forward to the marriage.

Question about wedding planning process

I am looking forward to marriage, the day I know will be great, but I stress over planning and also the amount of money it costs.

Question about wedding planning process

I plan events and conferences for work so I've always been a planner. I love every part of this even though the toughest part has definitely been unsolicited opinions or ideas. I will 100% miss it and probably feel like I should've become a wedding planner hahahaha

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If I didn't have a full time job and a puppy to take care of and an unlimited budget, I'd be thrilled to do this. I love the planning but the money part kills me. I am spending tens of thousands of dollars on services I feel should not cost so much. A formal dress for me would be around 300 dollars tops, wedding dresses are at least double that, a location to rent out for a party is maybe a couple thousand, wedding venues are ten times that. It's crazy to me, but I want to do it formally and I'm trying to make sure that I get the best value for every dollar I spend.

That being said, I love the wedding industry and want to be a bigger part of it someday with my own business or part of a bigger business.

Question about wedding planning process

I've been loving the planning process so far. I still have a year & 5 months left so ofcourse that might change but being engaged & planning this wedding has been the happiest time of my life as of yet. We have no opinions from family members or drama because we're paying for everything ourselves & planning everything ourselves. We don't discuss things with people or give them too much info unless they are close family & they ask first. No stress so far & we have all major vendors booked already. Im just hoping it stays stress free