Question for 35+ brides re: card/envelope gifts

lauraandrob2009 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:08 PM

Question for 35+ brides re: card/envelope gifts

Hi - I'm 38 and FH is 39 and I've been wondering what to do re: envelopes being handed to us at the wedding.

I know so many of the ladies on here have made or bought card boxes for guests to put envelope gifts in at the reception but that is something that I've honestly never seen done at a wedding before - I think it seems more like a newer/younger tradition. I've always personally handed the card to the couple. My siblings all married over 10 years ago and some had bags to carry - others just kept handing them off to someone responsible to hold onto. My guests are all older than us and I just feel uncomfortable having that - but still want to make sure we're being careful about not losing any.

Any thoughts about this? Should I just be the first to start doing one? Thanks for your input.

KRISTIND Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:10 PM

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im under 35...but its italian tradition to hand them to a 'grandmother' or someone like that

candybride123 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:35 PM

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I would have a box left on the 'gift table' for the people who know about it and then of course you will still take envelopes from anyone that hands it to you. I mean, If someone hands me their envelope I'm not gonna be like, 'um no, you put it in that box over there' haha...

However, if you're walking around with one of those bags it is saying, 'I'm coming for my gift'- so expect EVERYONE to hand it to you then.

Another thing is that I have large favors so I will stack them around the gift table w/ my box so I am hoping at the end people who hand me their envelopes while I give them a favor will be standing near this table, so I can just stick them in the box. I mean, I think I'll just park myself there at the very end.

Almostawife Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:44 PM

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we are both 39 and will not be doing a card box. Most guests want you to know that they are giving you the gift. I am going to designate one of my parents to be in charge of the envelopes.

I will not have any type of bag or anything like that. Many times the bridal suite might have a lock on it and your parents can put it in there. Also, today most people give checks so I'm not going to be that worried.

SusiBtoM Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:48 PM

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Card boxes/cages were a new thing for me.
I did the tradtional card bag, carried it around for a while when guests started handing me envelopes, then left it with my Dad.
I use it now for wedding memorabilia storage.

SusiBtoM Posted: Mar 23, 2009 01:57 PM

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QUOTE]Posted by Almostawife

we are both 39 and will not be doing a card box. Most guests want you to know that they are giving you the gift. I am going to designate one of my parents to be in charge of the envelopes.

I will not have any type of bag or anything like that. Many times the bridal suite might have a lock on it and your parents can put it in there. Also, today most people give checks so I'm not going to be that worried.

Don't be so trusting of the 'locked' bridal suite. Things have a way of going missing. It's a pain to figure out if a check went missing or if someone just skipped out on a gift to you.

Most guests give their envelopes towards the end of the reception, so you really should rethink the not having a bag or box thing. How are you going to carry all of them home ?
I kept the bag under my table, and as guests started coming up to us with envelopes, my attendant grabbed it and handed it to me. I did not parade around the room with it.

geegee827 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 02:07 PM

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My mom and I were just talking about this this weekend! I think at this point, we're leaning towards doing the bag v. the cardbox.

jbean36251 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 04:48 PM

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HAHA! That is exactly what we did. Handed them to my grandmother. She wasn't getting up to dance so she held onto them ina bag for us.

Posted by KRISTIND

im under 35...but its italian tradition to hand them to a 'grandmother' or someone like that

Future Mrs H Posted: Mar 23, 2009 04:49 PM

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I am a 40+ bride and not doing the card box. It is tradition in my family to have the bridal bag and then give to the grandmother. Unfortunately, neither of my grandmas are here so I will be giving them to my mom

alli3131 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 05:14 PM

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I am having a card box.....I dont want to have a family member responsible for them because it would have them tied to the table....Even with a cardbox people will still hand you the cards and then you can put them in the box.

and yes im over 35

Ray8183 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 05:57 PM

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I'm a 40+ bride. I am have a card box but it will be at a small table boxed in near my mom table with my mom and her brothers and sisters. Since they are all over the age of 70s, they will not be dancing. This is their time to talk about the old days and watch the box.

lauraandrob2009 Posted: Mar 23, 2009 07:28 PM

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Thanks so much for all the feedback ladies!!! I appreciate it.

marriedinmontauk Posted: Mar 23, 2009 07:42 PM

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I am a 40 plus....I had card boxes at my 2 receptions....the one for California I diy'ed...it went with our cross country trip. Sadly nobody in Cali knew what the heck it was!

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Ray8183 Posted: Mar 24, 2009 11:47 AM

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Posted by marriedinmontauk

I am a 40 plus....I had card boxes at my 2 receptions....the one for California I diy'ed...it went with our cross country trip. Sadly nobody in Cali knew what the heck it was!