Question for the married ladies

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by jaep129

I am really supprissed in 2008 people brought at gift to a wedding. My FH is from upstate and his family and friends asked where do they gifts go. I told them 'you don't bring a gift just cash or a check. I cant believe people from LI would bring a gift. Now I am worried people will

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WOW you actually TOLD them to give you cash? Thats very ballsy-a gift is a gift-the thought is what really counts

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Well, people from upstate NY are such rubes, how would they know?

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Posted by DavaDay

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by jaep129

I am really supprissed in 2008 people brought at gift to a wedding. My FH is from upstate and his family and friends asked where do they gifts go. I told them 'you don't bring a gift just cash or a check. I cant believe people from LI would bring a gift. Now I am worried people will

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WOW you actually TOLD them to give you cash? Thats very ballsy-a gift is a gift-the thought is what really counts

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Well, people from upstate NY are such rubes, how would they know?

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I'm not really sure who the was directed at here????

But I agree with PegaLega ... its pretty ballsy to direct your guests as to what you will and will not accept as a GIFT.

we didn't get a single wrapped gift. just envelopes

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Posted by DavaDay

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by jaep129

I am really supprissed in 2008 people brought at gift to a wedding. My FH is from upstate and his family and friends asked where do they gifts go. I told them 'you don't bring a gift just cash or a check. I cant believe people from LI would bring a gift. Now I am worried people will

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WOW you actually TOLD them to give you cash? Thats very ballsy-a gift is a gift-the thought is what really counts

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Well, people from upstate NY are such rubes, how would they know?

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I get that they are from another area and things are different there-but to say NO GIFTS only cash is pretty expectant dont you think? And its rude-if someone told ME that as their guest I wouldnt give them anything just to be spiteful. A wedding isnt about what you get or how much you get its about celebrating and being with those around you that you love and care about...not them giving you money

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by DavaDay

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by jaep129

I am really supprissed in 2008 people brought at gift to a wedding. My FH is from upstate and his family and friends asked where do they gifts go. I told them 'you don't bring a gift just cash or a check. I cant believe people from LI would bring a gift. Now I am worried people will

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WOW you actually TOLD them to give you cash? Thats very ballsy-a gift is a gift-the thought is what really counts

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Well, people from upstate NY are such rubes, how would they know?

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I get that they are from another area and things are different there-but to say NO GIFTS only cash is pretty expectant dont you think? And its rude-if someone told ME that as their guest I wouldnt give them anything just to be spiteful. A wedding isnt about what you get or how much you get its about celebrating and being with those around you that you love and care about...not them giving you money

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I 100% agree with you. If I like someone enough to invite them to the most important day of my life, then I'm honored that they're there with me. Period. Any gift is icing on the cake. Whether it's $100, $500, or a toaster, it's more than I had that morning. And to imply that people from Upstate are country hicks because they would dare to give you a gift instead of an envelope (when it's 2008, and we should all be so civilized as to bring cash to a wedding)... that comment just rubbed me the wrong way.

I didn't mean it in a rude way. He family asked and I told them the truth. I have been to many weddings upstate and people had jeans on, polos, sneakers, and one we had to use a porter potty b/c it was a church hall. I am not going to lie to them. I really didn't mean to hurt anyone if I did. Sorry

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Posted by jaep129

I didn't mean it in a rude way. He family asked and I told them the truth. I have been to many weddings upstate and people had jeans on, polos, sneakers, and one we had to use a porter potty b/c it was a church hall. I am not going to lie to them. I really didn't mean to hurt anyone if I did. Sorry

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You didnt hurt my feelings-you just have to be careful how you word things. B/c in your post its seems like you said dont give me a boxed gift, NY isnt the only place people give only cash-but most places boxed gifts are accepted and usually that is what the B&G want-cash gifts are only normal here. My response to that would have been-cash is the norm but anything is ok boxed or not...make sense

we got 2 gifts

but we were OOT at our own wedding so anybody that bought us gifts sent them to the house cause they knew were driving back


i didnt care what i got..it was stuff for us

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Posted by cindyandkevin

We didn't get any wrapped gifts, everyone gave us a card with cash or a check. A gift table wasn't necessary but we did have a table with a card box.

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Ditto!

we got about 6 gifts. They weren't off the registry, just stuff they found. Our gifts ended up being on the same table as the cardbox.

HTH!