Question for those with a deceased parent

I am starting to get my program ready. My FH's mom is deceased and we were both wondering if she should be listed in the Wedding Party section as The Late Elizabeth XXXX, or if it's ok if we have her in 'the in memory' section. We are both clueless!

TIA!
Christine

My friend put:

Mother of the Bride + (actually it was for the grandparents)



and at the bottom it said


+ - with us in spirit


which i though was very nice...

My father just passed last month and on our invitations that we ordered today, we worded it as follows:

Mrs Dads First Name and Last name requests the honour of your presence etc...

I would personally put a deceased parent in the memory section of a program which is how we will honor my father (should we do programs). A person who is deceased cannot be a member of a bridal party. It is sad but it is socially correct.

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Posted by Goldi1021

My father just passed last month and on our invitations that we ordered today, we worded it as follows:

Mrs Dads First Name and Last name requests the honour of your presence etc...

I would personally put a deceased parent in the memory section of a program which is how we will honor my father (should we do programs). A person who is deceased cannot be a member of a bridal party. It is sad but it is socially correct.

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Thanks - thats exactly what I was wondering!

one of my BM's father's passed away in December and she's getting married in September. She put :

Jane and the late John Doe
request the honor of your presence...

Hey Christine! We just put a memoriam section in the back of our programs for my dad and our grandparents. I don't know if you still have it but we had it worded like this:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here,
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin our new lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touches our hearts.

According to Crane's Wedding Blue Book:

'When one of the bride's parents is deceased, her wedding invitations are issued by the survivng parent. His or her name appears alone on the invitational line.'

I think they do it this way because a person who is deceased cannot perform the action of 'inviting'. I had to explain this about half a dozen times to my mother. By using Dad's names following the 'Mrs.' we were giving Dad the honor he deserves.

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Posted by jenniesunshine

Hey Christine! We just put a memoriam section in the back of our programs for my dad and our grandparents. I don't know if you still have it but we had it worded like this:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here,
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin our new lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touches our hearts.

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That is such a lovely worded memorial. Mind if I steal it?

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Posted by Goldi1021

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Posted by jenniesunshine

Hey Christine! We just put a memoriam section in the back of our programs for my dad and our grandparents. I don't know if you still have it but we had it worded like this:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here,
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin our new lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touches our hearts.

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That is such a lovely worded memorial. Mind if I steal it?

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Not at all. I stole it from someone else too!

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Posted by jenniesunshine

Hey Christine! We just put a memoriam section in the back of our programs for my dad and our grandparents. I don't know if you still have it but we had it worded like this:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here,
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin our new lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touches our hearts.

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Of course I still have it! If yours was a full mass, I'd be stealing all of it!!

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Posted by OSCARtheGROOM

How long has it been since she passed?

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1996

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Posted by Goldi1021

According to Crane's Wedding Blue Book:

'When one of the bride's parents is deceased, her wedding invitations are issued by the survivng parent. His or her name appears alone on the invitational line.'

I think they do it this way because a person who is deceased cannot perform the action of 'inviting'. I had to explain this about half a dozen times to my mother. By using Dad's names following the 'Mrs.' we were giving Dad the honor he deserves.

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Thank you - but I am interested in program info! Our invites went out last month

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Posted by Backinneyork
Thank you - but I am interested in program info! Our invites went out last month

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I understand but the theory behind it is the same. Good luck in your planning!

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Posted by Backinneyork

Of course I still have it! If yours was a full mass, I'd be stealing all of it!!

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I didn't know if you took one!! I ended up with 35 extra because 'genius' decided we needed one per person. I pointed out to him yesterday that HE wasted like $100 on those extra programs

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Posted by Backinneyork

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Posted by OSCARtheGROOM

How long has it been since she passed?

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1996

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If his dad nevered remarried then I would put in the son of the Late Mrs. so and so. We put my mother under in memory of.

My FH's Mother passed away almost 11 years ago.
In the invites we said

Kevin Middlename Firstname
Son of Dad's name and Mom's name

In the program it is listed:

Parents of the Groom: Mr. & Mrs. Firstname & Firstname Lastname

We will also be having a memorial candle.

I think the wording is a personal preference, what you're comfortable with. I don't think that 'etiquette' should always dictate - it's mostly subjective anyway.

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Posted by jenniesunshine

Hey Christine! We just put a memoriam section in the back of our programs for my dad and our grandparents. I don't know if you still have it but we had it worded like this:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you, we know you are here,
Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin our new lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touches our hearts.

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This is beautiful... I think I'll use this too for my Mom.