Have you ever felt like you bonded with some people too soon, too fast and felt that they were great friends from the beginning only to find out that you are not that special to them? That they do that with a lot of people.
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My post is being turned into a body part thread...
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the beauty and insanity of NWR...it ALWAYS turns into a body part thread...nothing stays serious or insightful for too long...as it should be
I just like to act innocent (insert nice innocent angel!!)
JessicaM.
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My post is being turned into a body part thread...
NO... what I meant was not about high maintenance friendship. I was talking about people who became your friend very quickly then disappear from the planet because they really were never your friend. They switch to a new friend all the time. They will never hear back from them EVER. You will only find out later... or will just will never hear back from them leaving you wondering what you did wrong. They just stop talking to you.
I never feel like this...mostly b/c I don't look to attach myself to someone. I have my fun while I am having it...if it continues. cool. but every day I could fall in love with a new friend again....I have a short attention span....I have very few long term friendships in my life....
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NO... what I meant was not about high maintenance friendship. I was talking about people who became your friend very quickly then disappear from the planet because they really were never your friend. They switch to a new friend all the time. They will never hear back from them EVER. You will only find out later... or will just will never hear back from them leaving you wondering what you did wrong. They just stop talking to you.
Yeah- I know what you mean, I'm still that friend. It's not like I ignore peopple's ophone calls and blow them off, but I will be super friendly, and quickly drift away. I am a friend whore. But it's not ever that anyone did wrong. Maybe it's more like I'm afraid of friendship commitment? Hmmm.
me too. But it is due mainly to a hatred of the telephone and also an extreme disdain for making plans i nthe future. Damn commitment-phobia.
sr081906
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Posted by JessicaM.
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My post is being turned into a body part thread...
NO... what I meant was not about high maintenance friendship. I was talking about people who became your friend very quickly then disappear from the planet because they really were never your friend. They switch to a new friend all the time. They will never hear back from them EVER. You will only find out later... or will just will never hear back from them leaving you wondering what you did wrong. They just stop talking to you.
I never feel like this...mostly b/c I don't look to attach myself to someone. I have my fun while I am having it...if it continues. cool. but every day I could fall in love with a new friend again....I have a short attention span....I have very few long term friendships in my life....
WOW... I am now talking to the 'other' side of the fence.
Disclaimer: I mean nothing 'personal' just pure interest.
Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Again.. no guilt trip here... just curiousity!
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Posted by SuzBride Damn commitment-phobia.
I know it well, a blessing AND a curse.
Naunie
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Posted by Naunie Yeah- I know what you mean, I'm still that friend. It's not like I ignore peopple's ophone calls and blow them off, but I will be super friendly, and quickly drift away. I am a friend whore. But it's not ever that anyone did wrong. Maybe it's more like I'm afraid of friendship commitment? Hmmm.
Very interesting confession!
I really don't think there's anything wrong with it, though. Maybe people are just looking for different things from friendships. I don't have the time to have a new best buddy, so I keep friendships in the laid back stage. I feel like I just don't have what it takes to commit to BFF-dom.
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Posted by sr081906 Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Not really. But then, seeing that Laurie, Jessica, and Suz are all on my side of the fence- I would say that it's probably a safe bet that the type of people I have as 'love-em and leave-em' friends, are the same way. So that may not at all be an issue.
JanuaryBride06
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I'm still that whore.
That's why I love you.
Naunie
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Posted by JanuaryBride06
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I'm still that whore.
That's why I love you.
I love it whan you twist my words.
JessicaM.
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Posted by JessicaM.
Posted by sr081906
My post is being turned into a body part thread...
NO... what I meant was not about high maintenance friendship. I was talking about people who became your friend very quickly then disappear from the planet because they really were never your friend. They switch to a new friend all the time. They will never hear back from them EVER. You will only find out later... or will just will never hear back from them leaving you wondering what you did wrong. They just stop talking to you.
I never feel like this...mostly b/c I don't look to attach myself to someone. I have my fun while I am having it...if it continues. cool. but every day I could fall in love with a new friend again....I have a short attention span....I have very few long term friendships in my life....
WOW... I am now talking to the 'other' side of the fence.
Disclaimer: I mean nothing 'personal' just pure interest.
Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Again.. no guilt trip here... just curiousity!
no, it's ok. I am insanely curious about people different than myself too.
honestly, sometimes I DO feel a bit guilty...b/c I genuinely like people I befriend, no matter for how long I am 'active' and when I do, I give a call.
generally, I am upfront about my weird way.-I tell people I am horrible at KIT and all that good stuff..I know in certain respects I am a bad friend, BUT if this person were to call me in a crisis, I'd be there in a heartbeat...I don't know if I am making sense...it's not that I no longer LIKE the person...my mind just shifts focus...
I definitely do not do this out of malice...
JessicaM.
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Posted by Naunie
Posted by sr081906 Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Not really. But then, seeing that Laurie, Jessica, and Suz are all on my side of the fence- I would say that it's probably a safe bet that the type of people I have as 'love-em and leave-em' friends, are the same way. So that may not at all be an issue.
I was also going to say this...I tend to gravitate towards like minded people.
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I'm still that whore.
That's why I love you.
I love it whan you twist my words.
Friend whores think alike
sr081906
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Posted by Naunie
Posted by sr081906 Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Not really. But then, seeing that Laurie, Jessica, and Suz are all on my side of the fence- I would say that it's probably a safe bet that the type of people I have as 'love-em and leave-em' friends, are the same way. So that may not at all be an issue.
True but you also said that you choose laid back frienships (I am assuming vs. high maintenance.. I need to see you every weekend kind of deal!) and don't need a new best buddie. So... you don't really 'qualify' for the type of person I am talking about.
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I only keep friendships with boosom .
Is this why I don't have many friends? It's because I'm flat chested, isn't.
Your breacial
sr081906
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Posted by JessicaM.
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Posted by JessicaM.
Posted by sr081906
My post is being turned into a body part thread...
NO... what I meant was not about high maintenance friendship. I was talking about people who became your friend very quickly then disappear from the planet because they really were never your friend. They switch to a new friend all the time. They will never hear back from them EVER. You will only find out later... or will just will never hear back from them leaving you wondering what you did wrong. They just stop talking to you.
I never feel like this...mostly b/c I don't look to attach myself to someone. I have my fun while I am having it...if it continues. cool. but every day I could fall in love with a new friend again....I have a short attention span....I have very few long term friendships in my life....
WOW... I am now talking to the 'other' side of the fence.
Disclaimer: I mean nothing 'personal' just pure interest.
Did you ever think of the people you 'left behind' and that you might have hurt their feeling?
Again.. no guilt trip here... just curiousity!
no, it's ok. I am insanely curious about people different than myself too.
honestly, sometimes I DO feel a bit guilty...b/c I genuinely like people I befriend, no matter for how long I am 'active' and when I do, I give a call.
generally, I am upfront about my weird way.-I tell people I am horrible at KIT and all that good stuff..I know in certain respects I am a bad friend, BUT if this person were to call me in a crisis, I'd be there in a heartbeat...I don't know if I am making sense...it's not that I no longer LIKE the person...my mind just shifts focus...
I definitely do not do this out of malice...
I totally understand. I personally am the worst friend to send cards. It's just terrible. I lack any skills in that category. I mean to do ... it just doesn't happen.
Naunie
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True but you also said that you choose laid back frienships (I am assuming vs. high maintenance.. I need to see you every weekend kind of deal!) and don't need a new best buddie. So... you don't really 'qualify' for the type of person I am talking about.
I don't understand what type of person you're talking about then. I agree with all the things Jessica said. I have a friend, then we don't talk. Then I have a new one. ADD of the friendships.
Oh- I get it- you have a best buddy, hang out all the time, then nothing? I have also been known to do that. I never mean to be a jerk, but I do do that. But I would say, in the past, that that road went both ways, though. I would definitely say something to said friend, though. I am big on asking people to confirm or deny my suspicions.
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I only keep friendships with bosom .
Is this why I don't have many friends? It's because I'm flat chested, isn't.
Your breacial
But you've got the biggest set of blue balls around! I am PreJUGace.
sr081906
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Posted by Naunie
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True but you also said that you choose laid back frienships (I am assuming vs. high maintenance.. I need to see you every weekend kind of deal!) and don't need a new best buddie. So... you don't really 'qualify' for the type of person I am talking about.
I don't understand what type of person you're talking about then. I agree with all the things Jessica said. I have a friend, then we don't talk. Then I have a new one. ADD of the friendships.
Oh- I get it- you have a best buddy, hang out all the time, then nothing? I have also been known to do that. I never mean to be a jerk, but I do do that. But I would say, in the past, that that road went both ways, though. I would definitely say something to said friend, though. I am big on asking people to confirm or deny my suspicions.
YES... that's what I was talking about .... those people.
My thread is getting to deep for me. I have a headache now..
Naunie
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Posted by sr081906 deep head
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oh btw, I find that the people who I have remained friends with over time, did not need me to be bff's with them all the time.
in fact, I have friends that I won't speak to for months, and then I'll call them to go away for the weekend, and their bag is packed 15 minutes later.
I need room to breathe...and I guess I need to miss someone for a while...
