Really?!?

I have a friend who was 'annoyed' that my shower wasn't a surprise. I mean who cares?? I didn't plan any of it, my mom asked where I would like it and I picked some places and actually it ended up being somewhere I've never been that she picked. It was fabulous! Nobody else cared that I knew.
Let me add that was the first thing she said to me when I arrived - not like a 'Hi, congratulations' but 'I can't believe this isn't a surprise'
Now she's giving me a hard time about my bachelorette.
Umm also she's not a bridesmaid!

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oh please! Ridiculous! She's probably sore because she's not a bridesmaid and taking it out on EVERYTHING!

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Ridiculous. I had a friend tell me that it's stupid that I know when/where my shower is too. I'm not involved in anything else and what does it matter anyway? You register for a bunch of crap that you want and people buy it for you. Your gifts aren't a surprise, so why does it matter if I know when the party is? Some people will just criticize and judge you no matter what. Tell her not to come to your bach party if she has an issue with it.

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I am jealous you girls knew/know when your shower is. I only wanted to know the date so I can spend the time to look extra nice. Unfortunately my mom and FH don't agree. The say I am only mad because I don't have control over the shower. I don't want control or any input, just the date.

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Posted by sandr325

I am jealous you girls knew/know when your shower is. I only wanted to know the date so I can spend the time to look extra nice. Unfortunately my mom and FH don't agree. The say I am only mad because I don't have control over the shower. I don't want control or any input, just the date.

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This is all I wanted! I was stressed enough about the wedding I didn't need to also be guess where I was going every weekend and should I put on a dress.

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You guys are funny! We aren't even close enough that she'd be a BM. I think she's insecure and says stupid things. I was extra nice include her in everything but after the wedding I don't care! Actually it won't make a difference because she doesn't boss me around now either. I think it frustrates her that I don't let her.

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Posted by sandr325

I am jealous you girls knew/know when your shower is. I only wanted to know the date so I can spend the time to look extra nice. Unfortunately my mom and FH don't agree. The say I am only mad because I don't have control over the shower. I don't want control or any input, just the date.

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ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I told my mother and MOH that I didn't want input into my shower but I at least wanted to know the date.. I am going through so many medical things right now that I just didn't want to handle a surprise.. They were not happy but agreed in the end...

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Posted by Shanti12

I have a friend who was 'annoyed' that my shower wasn't a surprise. I mean who cares?? I didn't plan any of it, my mom asked where I would like it and I picked some places and actually it ended up being somewhere I've never been that she picked. It was fabulous! Nobody else cared that I knew.
Let me add that was the first thing she said to me when I arrived - not like a 'Hi, congratulations' but 'I can't believe this isn't a surprise'
Now she's giving me a hard time about my bachelorette.
Umm also she's not a bridesmaid!

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Tell her to get over it. If you weren't upset, why should she be??

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Posted by tianamarie

oh please! Ridiculous! She's probably sore because she's not a bridesmaid and taking it out on EVERYTHING!

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I agree!!

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thats crazy, remind her it's not her wedding.

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Posted by Shanti12

I have a friend who was 'annoyed' that my shower wasn't a surprise. I mean who cares?? I didn't plan any of it, my mom asked where I would like it and I picked some places and actually it ended up being somewhere I've never been that she picked. It was fabulous! Nobody else cared that I knew.
Let me add that was the first thing she said to me when I arrived - not like a 'Hi, congratulations' but 'I can't believe this isn't a surprise'
Now she's giving me a hard time about my bachelorette.
Umm also she's not a bridesmaid!

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That is so insane I have to laugh! What does she care?? My shower isn't a surprise either... that would be way too anxiety producing for me! Don't let her rain on your parade, I'm sure your shower was beautiful and if you are happy that's all that matters!

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OMG seriously?! It is your shower/bachelorette...you should have the choice if you want to know or not

Some people are very traditional and can't see things any other way.

As long as YOU loved your shower and everything to come THAT is what is important

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Posted by Shanti12

I have a friend who was 'annoyed' that my shower wasn't a surprise. I mean who cares?? I didn't plan any of it, my mom asked where I would like it and I picked some places and actually it ended up being somewhere I've never been that she picked. It was fabulous! Nobody else cared that I knew.
Let me add that was the first thing she said to me when I arrived - not like a 'Hi, congratulations' but 'I can't believe this isn't a surprise'
Now she's giving me a hard time about my bachelorette.
Umm also she's not a bridesmaid!

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that's ridiculous! it has nothing to do with her! who cares what she thinks she's obviously not happy if she's trying to make your wedding a negative thing. maybe she's jealous or something.

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I feel everyone is right... I have the same problem with a friend who is very opinionated. But I remind myself that I'm lucky to meet this wonderful guy. I'm lucky to have family who trust and support me through everything. Through situations like weddings you see who your real friends are.