So.... my mom brought this up once before FH and i got engaged and brought it up bout a month ago again and FH didn't wanna talk about it. I don't either but realize it's a realistic conversation to have.
umm..... burial plots
yeaaah... morbid subject i know.
My mom will be placed with my dad at his family's plot in queens. So i'm on my own and realize it might be custom to go with FH's family. I'm not sure how it works for them though cuz FH's parents are divorced and his father passed away years ago but was cremated (sp). I know that esp. now since were engaged we need to buy a plot if anything but... it's just a strange topic to talk about lol.
FH has two plots with his family. one for himself & one for me.
my parents don't have any yet so when FH's dad passed we had to let FH's aunts know how many spaces we needed.
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um....im just thinking about this for the first time right now...my parents want to be creamated...so this actually will be simple for me i think...FHs father passed away 8 years ago, and i remember FMIL telling me that they got, along with his plot, hers, and one for all four of their children plus a spouse. So that includes me i guess....EW I really don't like thinking about where im going to be buried for eternity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ugh..yucky topic...especially thinking im gonna be w/my inlaws forever, not my parents....
but thats just body not soul.....whatever
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Wow, never even thought to think of this yet...I dont think my parents have any plots yet so when the time comes for them to purchase the space I will ask them to add in two spaces for Shawn and I...I would prefer to be buried with my family rather than his, but if he has a different idea in mind then he can get his own plot somewhere.
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There's no room for me to be with my family. My aunt actually gave the last spot to my mom when my parents got married because she figured she would be with her husband (bf at time but never got married and aren't together now, he's an ***). Maybe i'll SOMEHOW bring it up to her about getting one together.
My mom's actually said, 'Adriana.. i dont want to be in the ground with the bugs and worms, pull me and daddy up and put us in a moseleum(sp?).' I didn't respond...
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had this talk with fh
i dont want to be buried he hasnt decided what he wants to do
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i dont even knwo where my dad is burried. its a tough topic for me. i refuse to visit him ...cuz i would end up crying.. liek im diong now typing this lol
my mom almost got kicked out of the cemetary. she called me pi$$ed off saying how they told her to leave lol. im liek uhm WHY? 'oh i was planting some stuff around the plot'
ma,, what exactly were u planting?
she brought in those ever green trees that spiral.. and thought she was guna get away with planting them! shes nuts lmaoo
fh says he wants to get cremated to save $.. i told him im burrying him.
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wow i havent even thought of this yet. i am in the same position. fh's parents are divorced so i dont know how that works. its something you definitely need to talk about though
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me and FH haven't talked about it, but when my Father died he was cremated and we spread his ashes all over the place here and places in Florida that he would go. My mom wants to be cremated also. Not sure what FH wants to do yet
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had this talk with fh
i dont want to be buried he hasnt decided what he wants to do
Same for me.
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I have thought about this actually but havn't talked to FH about it. His mom passed away and is buried in NJ near her immediate family. I haev no idea what will happen to his Dad I guess be buried with her?? I don't know if there are other plots included in hers. I know my parents won't be buried, my mom wants her body to go to science ( ???? but good I guess) and my father and step-mom I believe will be cremated. So I think FH and I will just have our own.
Interesting question, I am going to talk to FH about this later....
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I didn't even think about this..... It makes me sad but it is a reality of life so maybe one day I willo bring it up - but not today.
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I have thought about this actually but havn't talked to FH about it. His mom passed away and is buried in NJ near her immediate family. I haev no idea what will happen to his Dad I guess be buried with her?? I don't know if there are other plots included in hers. I know my parents won't be buried, my mom wants her body to go to science ( ???? but good I guess) and my father and step-mom I believe will be cremated. So I think FH and I will just have our own.
Interesting question, I am going to talk to FH about this later....
I mentioned to my mom once that i would donate mine to science too and she almost passed out. FH refuses to talk about this but i gotta find a way.
I feel like it's like life/health insurance... if u have it chances are nothings gonna happen. If you don't have it that's when something will happen. stupid i know but who really knows...
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I know FH and I will be together, probably separate from the rest of the family but many of our relatives are actually in the same cemetery so we'll probably end up there. I would rather be cremated but FH wants burial so I will do that too.
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I mentioned to my mom once that i would donate mine to science too and she almost passed out. FH refuses to talk about this but i gotta find a way.
I feel like it's like life/health insurance... if u have it chances are nothings gonna happen. If you don't have it that's when something will happen. stupid i know but who really knows...
I think thats is great of you.... I don't know if I could do it. I majored in science and had to take anatomy and physiology and I saw what people did to things being disected.... I really don't want to be mutilated by some college kid.
now that was morbid, and gross...
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I mentioned to my mom once that i would donate mine to science too and she almost passed out. FH refuses to talk about this but i gotta find a way.
I feel like it's like life/health insurance... if u have it chances are nothings gonna happen. If you don't have it that's when something will happen. stupid i know but who really knows...
I think thats is great of you.... I don't know if I could do it. I majored in science and had to take anatomy and physiology and I saw what people did to things being disected.... I really don't want to be mutilated by some college kid.
now that was morbid, and gross...
lol yeah. I think i'm just gonna be a organ donor instead. We shall see....
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I didn't even think about this..... It makes me sad but it is a reality of life so maybe one day I willo bring it up - but not today.
this is my feelings exactly....i know we will have to deal with it down the road but i don't want to think about this now
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I mentioned to my mom once that i would donate mine to science too and she almost passed out. FH refuses to talk about this but i gotta find a way.
I feel like it's like life/health insurance... if u have it chances are nothings gonna happen. If you don't have it that's when something will happen. stupid i know but who really knows...
I think thats is great of you.... I don't know if I could do it. I majored in science and had to take anatomy and physiology and I saw what people did to things being disected.... I really don't want to be mutilated by some college kid.
now that was morbid, and gross...
lol yeah. I think i'm just gonna be a organ donor instead. We shall see....
Yea trust a doctor not a hungover frat boy
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My parent bought two mosoleums for themselves in the same place that my grandfather and grandma will be, so there is no room really
I want to be cremated...the thought of decaying turns my stomach...FH can carry me around if I'm ashes!!
