Who MUST you invite to a rehearsal dinner? FH and I have to pay for this, so I really would be happy with just my parents, the bridal party and my grandma. His family really doesn’t care about the wedding…like REALLY doesn’t care (didn’t acknowledge our engagement; didn’t rsvp or attend engagement party etc). So do we invite them? And his sister doesn’t invite us to anything she does…so do we have to invite her?
I know I should be the better person and do the “right” thing…but I really don’t care at this point…and just want to do what is absolutely necessary.
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hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
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Well, i can see why you would be fed up and not care. they seem some what rude. BUT you will now be part of this family for the rest of your life. Your children will be part of t his family as well. I would extend this last invitation to be part of your wedding plans. If they decline, you tried!!!
It is hard to rationalize it that way when you have been treated as you have - i understand!!
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hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
He lets me make the decisions. He knows how much they have hurt me.
It’s such a tough situation. I’ve never had people hate me like this…so I am reacting to it by being a bridezilla. I am doing only what’s best for me. I cut his parents albums from the photo package and people thought I was horrible. But I cant justify for the cost when they don’t care about the wedding…or aren’t happy about it. I didn’t ask his sister to be in the wedding party…again people think I am awful…but she doesn’t like me so I don’t see why I would include her! I wish I had it in me to be the better person…but I have tried for 3 years…and now I’m all about me. Is that terrible? I’m not even a selfish person, but they are turning me into one.
FH fam is the same way. I would say invite them and if they dont come then so be it but at least you tried. At the very minimum I'd invite heis parents...
hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
He lets me make the decisions. He knows how much they have hurt me.
It’s such a tough situation. I’ve never had people hate me like this…so I am reacting to it by being a bridezilla. I am doing only what’s best for me. I cut his parents albums from the photo package and people thought I was horrible. But I cant justify for the cost when they don’t care about the wedding…or aren’t happy about it. I didn’t ask his sister to be in the wedding party…again people think I am awful…but she doesn’t like me so I don’t see why I would include her! I wish I had it in me to be the better person…but I have tried for 3 years…and now I’m all about me. Is that terrible? I’m not even a selfish person, but they are turning me into one.
I agree with you. MY FH family are assholes too. I don't think you are horrible at all...
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i would be the bigger person and invite them anyway. if they respond no then its on them..they can never come back and say you were a biatch and didnt invite them.
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hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
He lets me make the decisions. He knows how much they have hurt me.
It’s such a tough situation. I’ve never had people hate me like this…so I am reacting to it by being a bridezilla. I am doing only what’s best for me. I cut his parents albums from the photo package and people thought I was horrible. But I cant justify for the cost when they don’t care about the wedding…or aren’t happy about it. I didn’t ask his sister to be in the wedding party…again people think I am awful…but she doesn’t like me so I don’t see why I would include her! I wish I had it in me to be the better person…but I have tried for 3 years…and now I’m all about me. Is that terrible? I’m not even a selfish person, but they are turning me into one.
I agree with you. MY FH family are assholes too. I don't think you are horrible at all...
Doesn’t it suck? I just went to a wedding last weekend and both families were getting along so well…everyone was so happy etc. And then I think of my wedding…and FH’s family will either not show up…or wish a natural disaster prevented the wedding. I get so jealous b/c I always envisioned marrying into this great new family…an extension of my own. It’s sooo the opposite!!
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I'm with Jackie... don't give them ANY reason to fuel the fire. Invite them. Grin and bear it and smile and LOVE it. (Even if you don't!) Kill them with kindness. That way, they'll just look like schmucks in the end that won't be involved in their son's and ultimately their grandchildren's lives. You don't want their poisonous attitude spilling over to your children some day... (or to his current children) life's too short.
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the only people I am inviting are the people who have to rehearse with us BP, and parent
hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
He lets me make the decisions. He knows how much they have hurt me.
It’s such a tough situation. I’ve never had people hate me like this…so I am reacting to it by being a bridezilla. I am doing only what’s best for me. I cut his parents albums from the photo package and people thought I was horrible. But I cant justify for the cost when they don’t care about the wedding…or aren’t happy about it. I didn’t ask his sister to be in the wedding party…again people think I am awful…but she doesn’t like me so I don’t see why I would include her! I wish I had it in me to be the better person…but I have tried for 3 years…and now I’m all about me. Is that terrible? I’m not even a selfish person, but they are turning me into one.
I agree with you. MY FH family are assholes too. I don't think you are horrible at all...
Doesn’t it suck? I just went to a wedding last weekend and both families were getting along so well…everyone was so happy etc. And then I think of my wedding…and FH’s family will either not show up…or wish a natural disaster prevented the wedding. I get so jealous b/c I always envisioned marrying into this great new family…an extension of my own. It’s sooo the opposite!!
Yeah it def *****. Last week FH sister just threatened she isn't coming to our wedding and I was crying. I know that half his family wont come. They are all jealous cause he is the only one with a head on his shoulders. I just try to think of the people who do support us and that makes me feel better...
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hmm thats tricky...what does FH say about it? You prob should invite them. Even though they are acting the way they are.
He lets me make the decisions. He knows how much they have hurt me.
It’s such a tough situation. I’ve never had people hate me like this…so I am reacting to it by being a bridezilla. I am doing only what’s best for me. I cut his parents albums from the photo package and people thought I was horrible. But I cant justify for the cost when they don’t care about the wedding…or aren’t happy about it. I didn’t ask his sister to be in the wedding party…again people think I am awful…but she doesn’t like me so I don’t see why I would include her! I wish I had it in me to be the better person…but I have tried for 3 years…and now I’m all about me. Is that terrible? I’m not even a selfish person, but they are turning me into one.
I agree with you. MY FH family are ******** too. I don't think you are horrible at all...
Doesn’t it suck? I just went to a wedding last weekend and both families were getting along so well…everyone was so happy etc. And then I think of my wedding…and FH’s family will either not show up…or wish a natural disaster prevented the wedding. I get so jealous b/c I always envisioned marrying into this great new family…an extension of my own. It’s sooo the opposite!!
Yeah it def *****. Last week FH sister just threatened she isn't coming to our wedding and I was crying. I know that half his family wont come. They are all jealous cause he is the only one with a head on his shoulders. I just try to think of the people who do support us and that makes me feel better...
Thank goodness my family and friends are so great...so when none of them come...i'll still have a good crowd that is actually happy to be there.
Why did his sister threaten not to come??! That’s so terrible.
basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
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basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
I totally feel for you! Our situations sound very similar. I sometimes wonder how FH turned out normal! LOL.
Ha Ha, I know! He has 1 other sister who is the only other one who is nice and normal. Theres also another brother who has 2 kids and is going to back to jail this month. I just feel bad for all the babies here. I can't believe I am going to have 9 nieces and nephews who I wont have a relationship with anyway so it won't matter. Its very sad...
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I'm with Jackie... don't give them ANY reason to fuel the fire. Invite them. Grin and bear it and smile and LOVE it. (Even if you don't!) Kill them with kindness. That way, they'll just look like schmucks in the end that won't be involved in their son's and ultimately their grandchildren's lives. You don't want their poisonous attitude spilling over to your children some day... (or to his current children) life's too short.
ITA!!! Alot of us have issues with the 'inlaws' already and why add more fuel to the fire than you have to...Kill them with kindness and you end up looking like the better person in the end!!! Dont drop down to their level!!!!
basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
I totally feel for you! Our situations sound very similar. I sometimes wonder how FH turned out normal! LOL.
Ha Ha, I know! He has 1 other sister who is the only other one who is nice and normal. Theres also another brother who has 2 kids and is going to back to jail this month. I just feel bad for all the babies here. I can't believe I am going to have 9 nieces and nephews who I wont have a relationship with anyway so it won't matter. Its very sad...
OMG! What a crew. You would think they would all LOVE your FH for being normal. But I guess to them…he’s not normal. LOL
FH’s family thinks I expect to much and make FH live beyond his means. Meanwhile, I am raising and supporting two kids that aren’t mine…just as equally as FH…and more than their mother. You’d think they would be thankful that I stepped in and helped give them a better life.
basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
I totally feel for you! Our situations sound very similar. I sometimes wonder how FH turned out normal! LOL.
Ha Ha, I know! He has 1 other sister who is the only other one who is nice and normal. Theres also another brother who has 2 kids and is going to back to jail this month. I just feel bad for all the babies here. I can't believe I am going to have 9 nieces and nephews who I wont have a relationship with anyway so it won't matter. Its very sad...
OMG! What a crew. You would think they would all LOVE your FH for being normal. But I guess to them…he’s not normal. LOL
FH’s family thinks I expect to much and make FH live beyond his means. Meanwhile, I am raising and supporting two kids that aren’t mine…just as equally as FH…and more than their mother. You’d think they would be thankful that I stepped in and helped give them a better life. But they are so “worried” about FH that they only call when they need something!
Same as your FH...there is one sibling that is normal and nice and doesnt judge!
I say we both cut them all from our wedding. LOL. I so wish I could b/c it’s so much to have these people there!
at this point I don't even care who comes and who doesnt. I just don't want them deciding they're coming and then deciding to cause some kind of scene b/c they want to be center of attention. Or showing up in jeans and a sweatshirt and give us a 25 dollar check that bounces. Cause they would do that.
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basically his sister is a drama queen. She is in the military, lives in Maryland and has 2 kids - not married or anything. She came up on Christmas Eve and came to this Christmas party unannounced, and then got mad at FH because we had plans with my family Christmas Day (She was leavin Friday) Next thing we know he gets a text from her saying 'thanks for not caring about your familly - I'm not coming to your wedding - save the invitation for someone else - have a nice life' Meanwhile he bends over backward for his family all the time. He has a brother hes not talking to because the brother owes him 2 grand (btw that brother lives with the parents, his gf and 2 kids no job and has never paid a bill in his life) Last time his sis was here he took the kids out to chuck e cheese by himself WITHOUT her. He invited her to come to our house christmas night but she didn't wanna make her boyfriend drive 'all over the island' She wants to be the center of attention and I can't stand it...
I totally feel for you! Our situations sound very similar. I sometimes wonder how FH turned out normal! LOL.
Ha Ha, I know! He has 1 other sister who is the only other one who is nice and normal. Theres also another brother who has 2 kids and is going to back to jail this month. I just feel bad for all the babies here. I can't believe I am going to have 9 nieces and nephews who I wont have a relationship with anyway so it won't matter. Its very sad...
OMG! What a crew. You would think they would all LOVE your FH for being normal. But I guess to them…he’s not normal. LOL
FH’s family thinks I expect to much and make FH live beyond his means. Meanwhile, I am raising and supporting two kids that aren’t mine…just as equally as FH…and more than their mother. You’d think they would be thankful that I stepped in and helped give them a better life. But they are so “worried” about FH that they only call when they need something!
Same as your FH...there is one sibling that is normal and nice and doesnt judge!
I say we both cut them all from our wedding. LOL. I so wish I could b/c it’s so much to have these people there!
at this point I don't even care who comes and who doesnt. I just don't want them deciding they're coming and then deciding to cause some kind of scene b/c they want to be center of attention. Or showing up in jeans and a sweatshirt and give us a 25 dollar check that bounces. Cause they would do that.
