Rehearsal Dinner Drama

njordan414 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 06:59 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Drama

Sooo, my fmil has been planning out the RD and plans on inviting all of the bridal party with a guest, meaning their bf or gf (none of which are in the bridal party). Now my mom thinks its wierd to invite them with a guest, because she believes that they have no importance in the wedding and that it can be a time where the BM's and ushers can get to know each other since theyll be walking together and stuff.

Now I have no clue what everyone is doing these days. Are you inviting your bridal party with a guest to the RD, or is it just for the BP? Ahh help!!

DrWho Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:00 PM

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Apparently, everyone and their brother is invited to these things nowadays.

Marchbride07 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:01 PM

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We invited the BP and if they are in a serious relationship...not some fly by night, we invited their significant other...but we also did just word of mouth, we didn't send out invites...LOL that's how us people do!

anitsirk46 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:05 PM

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Yes, everyone is the BP and guest. What about if their married? It would be tacky to invite them without their spouse. JMO

tricia3381 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:13 PM

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Posted by anitsirk46

Yes, everyone is the BP and guest. What about if their married? It would be tacky to invite them without their spouse. JMO

agreed

Summer07Bride Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:23 PM

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I was just planning on inviting the BP. All of the GM do not have gfs and while my friends are in serious relationships, none of them are engaged let alone married.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:28 PM

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It looks like I'm having a 70 person rehearsal dinner, so I'm no help here!

I think the BP should be invited with guests ... especially if you have some that are married or some who are OOT, you shouldn't invite some with guests and some without ....

portjeffbride Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:31 PM

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Posted by DrWho

Apparently, everyone and their brother is invited to these things nowadays.

yep it's true... my cousin's rehearsal dinner had upwards of 60 people!

ours, not so much.... our WEDDING has under 70 coming... and the rehearsal dinner is restricted to those who will be rehearsing!

oh, and it will be at our apartment.... and we're cooking

Christys0925 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:37 PM

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We invited BP their bf/gf their kids if any , our parents and grandparents

SeptBride70 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 07:53 PM

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Posted by Marchbride07

We invited the BP and if they are in a serious relationship...not some fly by night, we invited their significant other...but we also did just word of mouth, we didn't send out invites...LOL that's how us people do!

We are doing the same-- in terms of WHO is invited-- however, we are sending out actual invitations-- but as for guests: it's everyone in the BP, the readers, people involved in the Mass and their SO's if they are in a SR.

PegaLega Posted: Apr 27, 2007 08:37 PM

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We are inviting the BP with their significant others if they were serious and we knew them. We DID NOT want to invite everyone and their mom

PapayaChic Posted: Apr 27, 2007 08:39 PM

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Posted by MrsDaniRella

We are doing the same-- in terms of WHO is invited-- however, we are sending out actual invitations-- but as for guests: it's everyone in the BP, the readers, people involved in the Mass and their SO's if they are in a SR.

ditto

Becks526 Posted: Apr 27, 2007 08:39 PM

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In the weddings I've been in, the RDs including the BP and our guests.

KRISTYRUSSELL Posted: Apr 27, 2007 09:10 PM

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Yes, Everyone in the bridal party and there guest, its very hard if you omit someones guest, most of ours is married I have three that are married with there partner in the wedding, one of which is just single and we know he is coming alone and two on with her boyfriend and one with his wife, oh yeah and one which is my brother with his fiancee......

CrisiDrue Posted: Apr 28, 2007 01:19 AM

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We're inviting everything with a guest (I would never invite the married ones w/ their spouse & the others w/o their significant other or a guest). But I know the single pp in the BP wouldn't bring a random guest to the RD.

njordan414 Posted: Apr 28, 2007 10:28 AM

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Thanks for everyones input,,, one GM in my bridal party is married, and the rest are pretty much all in a serious relationship. I know them all,,, but they dont all know each other! Either way, I dont mind inviting them with a guest at all,,,but I had my Fmil saying one thing and my mom saying another,,and I just was unsure of the whole etiquette part of it. My FMIL is throwing it,,so I was totally fine with doing whatever she wanted!!! My mom will just have to suck it up if she feels that strongly about it!!! Thanks for all your help!!!!

August12 Posted: Apr 28, 2007 10:33 AM

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bridal party and significant others are all invited!

AMJA Posted: Apr 28, 2007 10:34 AM

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We invited BP and their SO if they are married or engaged. If it's someone they've been dating for like 2 months, they weren't invited.
We have 20 people in our BP, that would have been 40 if they were all invited w/ a guest. Let alone family members etc.