Rehearsal Dinner Ques

Toucan311 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:09 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Ques

Are you having the ppl doing the church readings coming to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner??

MrsHtobe Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:10 PM

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yes

ant n tilde Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:10 PM

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you SHOULD
but i am not

FH's dad has two brothers, both are doing our readings.

FH's mom has siblings too SO if we invite the two uncles and then NO ONE from FMIL's family that will look funny and we can't afford to invite ALL the aunts and uncles SO we decided to leave them out and give them their gifts another day

Toucan311 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:25 PM

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Hm ok. I have to think about it. Its likely that they will NOT be family members doing the readings, so I wont have the 'if I invite him I have to invite her' sort of situation.

Dee0522 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:31 PM

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I am inviting my readers. I would think most people understand that the rehearsal dinner is for the people who are rehearsing... at least that's what I believe it should be! I know a lot of people invite OOT guests too, but personally I don't think it's necessary. It can turn into a much bigger event than it should be... almost as big as the wedding! I am a bigger fan of doing a morning-after breakfast for OOT guests to have a chance to talk/visit before they head home.

Also, since the rehearsal dinner is normally a day or two before the wedding, it might force some OOT guests to come into town earlier than they might've planned to. Extra nights = extra costs for them.

KK Holiday Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:40 PM

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i guess i have to invite mine. i'd rather not cause im trying to keep everything small.

oi!!!!

Are you inviting BP's parents to rehersal dinner?

My cousin is going to be 14 i should invite her parents right?

Dee0522 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:52 PM

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One of my cousins is a BM but we're not inviting her parents (my aunt & uncle) to the rehearsal dinner b/c a) they are not participating in the ceremony and b) then I would have to invite all aunts & uncles. I'd rather keep it smaller... just the people who have a role in the ceremony will be invited. And our parents & siblings, of course.

jsta76 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 12:56 PM

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I really wanted to invite the readers to the RD but decided it would be more trouble than it was worth.

Even though I wouldn't have to invite SO's I'm sure I'd hear it to HELL and back. I really don't want to deal with it so they're not being invited.

Plus we figured if we invited them, we'd have to tack on an extra 10+ people we weren't planning on. We already are inviting too many people.

Dee0522 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:00 PM

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Won't your readers be attending the actual rehearsal though? I know if I were doing a reading at someone's wedding, I would expect to be included for dinner. I know it can create more hassle, but I think all of the ceremony participants should be invited to the dinner. With spouses/SO's. JMHO!

yelley77 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:03 PM

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if I decide to do readers (which I am sure I will), they will be invited to the RD.

Toucan311 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:03 PM

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I've actually never seen the readers attend the rehearsal, but at pre-cana last week they told us that we should have the readers there! So, now I just dont know what to do. I'd definitely invite them w/spouses. I'm prob going to end up inviting them.

jsta76 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:04 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

I've actually never seen the readers attend the rehearsal, but at pre-cana last week they told us that we should have the readers there! So, now I just dont know what to do. I'd definitely invite them w/spouses. I'm prob going to end up inviting them.

How many are you having?

Mizzdimple Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:07 PM

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You dont have to., but you can so they know what to do.

Toucan311 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:16 PM

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It would be 3 readers.

ant n tilde Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:44 PM

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Posted by Dee0522

Won't your readers be attending the actual rehearsal though? I know if I were doing a reading at someone's wedding, I would expect to be included for dinner. I know it can create more hassle, but I think all of the ceremony participants should be invited to the dinner. With spouses/SO's. JMHO!

i did a reading at my cousin's wedding and i never went to a rehearsal

i guess everyone does this differently

i also didnt receive a gift for it

actually come to think of it i have been in 6 weddings and i have never seen the readings 'rehearsed' and the readers were never at the dinner. . .

minibride08 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 01:58 PM

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We are having 3 reader too- and yes they will be at the RD. I have been a reader in the past (and so has FH) and we were not invited to the RD...

jsta76 Posted: Oct 23, 2007 02:08 PM

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Posted by ant n tilde

Posted by Dee0522

Won't your readers be attending the actual rehearsal though? I know if I were doing a reading at someone's wedding, I would expect to be included for dinner. I know it can create more hassle, but I think all of the ceremony participants should be invited to the dinner. With spouses/SO's. JMHO!

i did a reading at my cousin's wedding and i never went to a rehearsal

i guess everyone does this differently

i also didnt receive a gift for it

actually come to think of it i have been in 6 weddings and i have never seen the readings 'rehearsed' and the readers were never at the dinner. . .

Damn thanks for making me think...we weren't plannning on giving them a gift just our undying love

Also, kinda like you said, i've never been to a RD where they actually REHEARSE which is why I wasn't planning on inviting them.

DeeluvsVinny Posted: Oct 23, 2007 02:18 PM

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I did a reading at my cousin's wedding last year, and I was invited to the RD. I'm inviting mine, I think they should be at the rehearsal so they know when to go up and so they can see the reading ahead of time and get a feel for the microphone..