Remember when we.. had those stressors! Happy thread!

You go Miss Jones!!

Honestly, Kimbalina's first post wasn't necessarily THAT bad, but some of the other posts were just downright unnecessary and RUDE. I'm sure at one point or another all of us have been in the boat where we were EXCITED about something and of course, our wedding day is one of the most important days of our lives. SO WHAT if people want to start booking/looking/fretting or WHATEVER. If it really makes a dent in your day what other people are concerning themselves with then I have one piece of advice--GET A LIFE!

Best of luck to everyone and hope you all have great weddings!!!

thank youuu!!!!!!!!! everyone stresses whether its big or small. Shouldnt you guys be planning your wedding then talking about us and our problems. Sorry for wanting to get things done, not really sure how that effects you.

j/k-

09er here. And not stressed, but really enjoying my wedding planning and glad to be nearly finished because I'm planning from far away and running my own law firm in VA at the same time. There is plenty of time for the little details because the big stuff is done, and I didn't have to book my second choice for any vendors, booking early.

I think most of the time when girls say they're 'stressed' about something for their wedding, they're really not . . . . it's just the topic on their mind that day, or maybe they're having a hard time making a decision, or just want opinions.

As you can all see, the 'dramatic' posts are the ones that get attention, so if you want an opinion on something, the best thing to say is 'Help!' or 'Stressed about . . . .' and you can bet everyone's reading that post. I honestly do not believe that anyone is actually losing sleep about their shoes or flowers, and if you take that literally, it's silly.

I think planning ahead reduces stress, but that's me. What if I change my mind? Well, I have time to change my mind, and that's half the point. But, if you are the type of person who likes to do it all in a short time, that is fine too! It's your wedding and no one should care whether you plan it 5 years or 5 days in advance, and should understand when you say 'stressed about flowers' you really aren't serious, just chatting.

okay i just wanna throw my 0.02 here...i think a lot of the girls from 09, 10, 11 or whatever are not understanding what the original topic was about.

for the most part----i don't think people were saying that its wrong to have your wedding planned out early.....i think most everyone on this board or on this site has had pretty long engagements. heck i had a 2 yr engagement myself.

what the original topic and most people were saying --- was how brides who have PLENTY of time are freaking out over issues that are uncontrollable at this point.

if you are getting married in 2010 and posting about how you are just 'soooo stressed' over the weather for your big day---its a little much.

the bride getting married in 2011 and actually worried that someone might get pregnant right down to the EXACT HOURS before her wedding.....how is it possible o stress over something that you are just speculating about---and proably won't happen??

reseraching things like DOJ or florists a year in advance---totally understandable....but the OP and others were just saying the amount of brides who are 'stressing' over things they can't control right now or ever will be able to control.....seems like a lost cause.

and i'll say it for the 10000th time---this whole issues has come up 2039483493290 times since i've been on this site in 2005. it rears its ugly head alllllll the time.

and don't worry--the 09ers, 2010ers, etc. who are offended on here....will be the offendees to other 2010ers and 2011ers....guaranteed. its like a cirlce of life on LIW!


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Posted by MJDoc12

okay i just wanna throw my 0.02 here...i think a lot of the girls from 09, 10, 11 or whatever are not understanding what the original topic was about.

for the most part----i don't think people were saying that its wrong to have your wedding planned out early.....i think most everyone on this board or on this site has had pretty long engagements. heck i had a 2 yr engagement myself.

what the original topic and most people were saying --- was how brides who have PLENTY of time are freaking out over issues that are uncontrollable at this point.

if you are getting married in 2010 and posting about how you are just 'soooo stressed' over the weather for your big day---its a little much.

the bride getting married in 2011 and actually worried that someone might get pregnant right down to the EXACT HOURS before her wedding.....how is it possible o stress over something that you are just speculating about---and proably won't happen??

reseraching things like DOJ or florists a year in advance---totally understandable....but the OP and others were just saying the amount of brides who are 'stressing' over things they can't control right now or ever will be able to control.....seems like a lost cause.

and i'll say it for the 10000th time---this whole issues has come up 2039483493290 times since i've been on this site in 2005. it rears its ugly head alllllll the time.

and don't worry--the 09ers, 2010ers, etc. who are offended on here....will be the offendees to other 2010ers and 2011ers....guaranteed. its like a cirlce of life on LIW!


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And while we can somewhat understand that, i cant seem to understand why that would warrant a person to be made fun of? Im not offended at all since honestly i couldnt care less about what others think of me or what im doing for my wedding. I come on here for great advice & to maybe once in awhile (hopeffuly more) even help out someone else. I just think trying to justify some of the other girls comments on this board by saying we will be doing the same thing im going to say you can only speak fo ryourself because no-body can say what i will be doing a year from now. HOPEFULLY i will be to busy with my own life & family to be on here posting about this nonsense...in fact my life is to busy and full now for this c r a p! Im done with this thread. Have wonderful days girls!

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Posted by Kimbalina

Have you looked at the stresses and delemia of the brides of the next 3 years?

I think it is probablly what we were thinking about when we started planning... but there are so many stressing threads on the BHB page,, it makes me laugh that they are concerned about their weddings that seem so far off! I know that this was us back in the 06/07 years!





Edt..because there is a good point made lower on this page


Edt- because I am not trying to hurt feelings!


Ps... I am leaving work at 2 and wont be on till tomorrow! Sorry dont want to post and run!

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Ok I hate drama but, I have to say if you werent trying to hurt and 09, 10, 11 brides then maybe you should have watched the way you worded things.
I remember when we were bla bla bla........ But my advice to all you girls is dont stress over everything. Now that I look back on it, I laugh to myself and say what was I thinking.
Maybe that is something you should have said.
Us 09 brides and others look to you girls for advice just like you guys did in the past and my still be doing. So dont make a post about things we are doing, find something better to do like helping fellow brides out.
I have to say this there are alot of 08 brides that have really helped me out, along with my 09 girls, and I am glad they helped me and didnt make fun of me for posting an issue I needed advice on.

Wow! Seems like ages since we've had some real drama on the '08 board