Repost: Bridesmaid .. will u?

Two things: Is it to far in advance to ask people to be in the wedding paryt? I mean i did ask my bestfriend dave to be my man or honor and fh has his best man but i mean groomsmen and bridesmaids.

I wanted to know what people did that was special for asking their bridesmaid.

This is my idea and my mom thinks i am stupid and nuts for doing this but i think its sweet.

I have a man or honor so his gift will be a picture of the both of us at the renn fair with a engraved pic frame saying best friend and my best friend love jenn/

I am asking two girls who i know wont say no for bridesmaid... getting them a personalized small jewlery box with thir names on it and inside a small note saying 'Will you be my bridesmaid?' then for the wedding and a thank u present they get emerald necklaces to wear that day What u think?

Should i do this for the flower girl but my problem with that is she has a twin brother who is my ring bearer and he might get upset tha he didn't get anything. My fh isn't getting anything for his man of honor or groomsmen as a 'will u be my... ' because he says that is gay and will get him a present for the thank u gift.

Thoughts please.. as u see i have too much time on my hands thanks to being sick with teh flu for four days.

I like the bridesmaids will you, but i'm not too sure about the one for the man of honor.

I think you could little cute stuff for the kids, if you give one a gift you should give all of them one.
except for the best man, because that would be gay

I totally forgot that i got the kids a book each about being a flowergirl and ring beaerer. I am going to include a 'fake' pillow and a 'fake' basket wrapped up with some candies and a personalized card. $25 per kid also given on xmass.

My bestman is going to love the frame otherwise i would never do that for a man. He likes silly stuff like that and gets emotional over stuff so it would work ... giggling about him crying over it now IoI

The boxes would be only two then at $25 each and that would be apart their xmass present so i figured it wouldn't be so bad price wise. The necklace would be around $125.00 but that would be given at teh time of the wedding...

is that too much for a bridesmaid gift? I am really clueless. I got a pearl necklace from my sister in law for her wedding and that was much more then the small emerald necklace i was thinking.

About the fh's bp maybe we will give them beer with a sticker on it 'best man' 'groomsmen' this way its not so 'gay'.

Any thoughts on this now? THANKS for the opions its helping.