RP: Dolies for Jewish Weddings

qtdimps23 Posted: May 25, 2007 08:04 AM

RP: Dolies for Jewish Weddings

I was just at an orthodox wedding last weekend and I noticed they weren't handing them out. I'm having a reform ceremony, do I still need to buy them or do people not use them anymore?

If you haven't noticed I haven't been to temple in YEARS!

bonch20 Posted: May 25, 2007 10:39 AM

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i haven't been in awhile, but the last few jewish weddings did not have the dolies.

SoontobeMrsH Posted: May 25, 2007 10:48 AM

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what are dolies? I'm in process of converting

bonch20 Posted: May 25, 2007 10:58 AM

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the lace round cicles that woman use to cover their heads. my SIL converted. lots of work!

jsta76 Posted: May 25, 2007 01:19 PM

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Posted by qtdimps23

I was just at an orthodox wedding last weekend and I noticed they weren't handing them out. I'm having a reform ceremony, do I still need to buy them or do people not use them anymore?

If you haven't noticed I haven't been to temple in YEARS!

I'm surprised, I went to an orthodox wedding last year and they had them by the door on the way in in a little bin. This wedding wasn't at a temple so that might be why.

I don't think its necessary for reform though. We're not doing that. I think i'm going to have to figure out the yarmulka (sp) however. We're not having the ceremony at the temple so I'm not sure where you'd get them from.

bonch20 Posted: May 25, 2007 03:25 PM

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i'm not sure where to get them either, but we the kutuba (sp) and everything else, i'm sure we'll come across them. we're interfaith and i'm still choosing what we take from both religons!

SoontobeMrsH Posted: May 25, 2007 04:03 PM

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Posted by bonch20

the lace round cicles that woman use to cover their heads. my SIL converted. lots of work!

Thanks! There is so much to learn.... Is it a female yamukah (sp) then?

Can you ask your SIL for some info for me, the classes my Rabbi suggested are on the Upper East Side,

nycgirl79 Posted: May 25, 2007 04:36 PM

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I don't think you need to have them....Granted I haven't been to Synagogue in a looong time either, but not one of the wedding's I've been to (or in) have offered them. I'd just go with the regular kippot...My conservadox Rabbi told us that we don't need to have them, so we're definitely not getting them. We're just ordering ivory kippot, and we figure both men and women can wear them if they like.

Goldi1021 Posted: May 25, 2007 05:01 PM

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I got married in a reform synagogue. We did not have them. They are used in worship to distinguish married women from unmarried women. Since a wedding is not a service of worship, I think you are safe.

I think they are used more for the Conservative movement similarly to the way that the Orthodox community uses wigs or hats to demonstrate modesty. Once an Orthodox woman becomes married, she is not to show her hair in public so she uses a wig. Hair is considered a sign of sexuality, and a woman is not to be sexual toward anyone but her husband.