RSVP RANT

I just started receiving RSVP's in the mail last week. Everything has been perfect until today when a relative decided to add 5 more additional guests!!! I almost threw up when I saw the number 7!!! I've always heard about this sort of thing happening but I never figured it would happen to me!!! Some people are so rude. This is the same relative who didn't even attend, respond, or even send a gift for my bridal shower!!! I am so stressed out about everything else and I don't know how to deal with this... With only 73 days until the wedding...I feel that I will have a breakdown soon. Is it normal to be this stressed out so close to the wedding?!

That sucks to hear, but you have to be upfront with them and tell them that you cant have that many guests and the invitation was intended for that particular relative only. I'm pretty sure that relative will act like you've done the worst thing in the world but who cares? It's your wedding and you should have it your way. It gets stressful because a lot of things are going on as it gets closer but take time to breathe and enjoy

It's a long story. She has four kids plus some of their dates. These are relatives that I don't speak to and dates I don't know. For every other family event (all other weddings) they (kids) are never invited so I never imagined she would pull this. On top of that there is a family rift and I wasn't even expecting her to respond to my invite anyway. I am also worried that she may not even show up after we pay for them .

It's my mom's sister and shes angry at my mom and all her other sister's. Therefore having my mom speak to her is not an option. I will have to handle this one on my own.

thats just ridiculous. you just have to tell her the invitation had only her name on it and therefore was only meant for her.

that is just unheard of!! geeze!!

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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Posted by amandasmom

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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THIS! I agree.

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Posted by amandasmom

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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I couldn't have said it better myself!

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Posted by FutureMrsK2012

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Posted by amandasmom

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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I couldn't have said it better myself!

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I completely agree!!!! Good luck with this.

There is a family member that I am nervous about doing this as well.
It's unacceptable, and I think you should tell her you do not have the space for the extras, and unfortunately you wanted to invite them, but there is not room. Blame it on reception hall maximums and tell her you are already over their max #. If she doesn't end up coming at the end of the day, well, that is less stress you have to deal with.

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Posted by pjt212301

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Posted by FutureMrsK2012

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Posted by amandasmom

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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I couldn't have said it better myself!

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I completely agree!!!! Good luck with this.

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THIS!!!

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Posted by pjt212301

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Posted by FutureMrsK2012

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Posted by amandasmom

My advice is to tell her how excited you are that she is attending but unfortunately you can only accommodate the number of guests you included in the invite and that you are counting on her understanding as it means so much to you that she is attending. Etc. If she chooses not to come, well oh well.

This is unfortunate but take a deep breath.

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I couldn't have said it better myself!

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I completely agree!!!! Good luck with this.

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Agreed! Definitely need to address it soon. I wonder if people have never been to a wedding before when they pull something like that! Adding 5 people?! Hoping she isn't doing it on purpose just to get you stressed out.

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Posted by XCW331

It's a long story. She has four kids plus some of their dates. These are relatives that I don't speak to and dates I don't know. For every other family event (all other weddings) they (kids) are never invited so I never imagined she would pull this. On top of that there is a family rift and I wasn't even expecting her to respond to my invite anyway. I am also worried that she may not even show up after we pay for them .

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After you pay for them? I hope you are not referring to all 7 of those people!

Sorry to hear that but I honestly would call the pwrson and ask who exactly are they bringing and tell them you weren't expecting all those people. Good luck