I really need your help. We are adding finishing touches to our invitations and FH does not want to leave any leg room for our guests to bring other guests that are not invited. Long story short when FH brother got married someone had brought children when on the invitation it stated it was an adult event and a family member broke up with her boyfriend and brought someone else to their wedding. Really trying to avoid uninvited guests from attending and FH getting upset as he is already upset with the guests lists because of FMIL :(
Alimm729
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In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
Kimberley2015
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Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
Thanks! It's nice to hear its not just me. I just don't understand how people can do that. Smh! I'll say extra prayers :)
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Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
I agree, people will do what they want regardless. I didn't word my RSVP any different. If people say they're bringing more people than I planned I would just address it with them. I only have one person without a plus one and that's because I'm hoping she wont come so I'm happy to tell her she can't bring anyone lol.
Kimberley2015
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Re: RSVP wording
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Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
I agree, people will do what they want regardless. I didn't word my RSVP any different. If people say they're bringing more people than I planned I would just address it with them. I only have one person without a plus one and that's because I'm hoping she wont come so I'm happy to tell her she can't bring anyone lol.
I must say you ladies are making me laugh with your comments. The thing is all of our guests are married or in a relationship but FH family may not bring their significant other and may bring someone else and I am so hoping that is not the case. So I am trying to figure out how to state it on the RSVP card.
I had an e RSVP and an actual wedding invite that I sent out..I had an inner and outer envelope..we addres the inner envelope to the people who are invited one line per person so for 3 people 3 lines so that it would be clear..thsn if they bring extra people that's unavoidable but at least they know they were not invited based on the way it was addressed..guests have started to ask me about the kids and I said no kids invited but didn't write that no kuds were invited on invitation cuz that's not my style
Alimm729
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Re: RSVP wording
Posted by Kimberley2015
Posted by JaimeLin
Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
I agree, people will do what they want regardless. I didn't word my RSVP any different. If people say they're bringing more people than I planned I would just address it with them. I only have one person without a plus one and that's because I'm hoping she wont come so I'm happy to tell her she can't bring anyone lol.
I must say you ladies are making me laugh with your comments. The thing is all of our guests are married or in a relationship but FH family may not bring their significant other and may bring someone else and I am so hoping that is not the case. So I am trying to figure out how to state it on the RSVP card.
In that case, what I would suggest is not writing 'and Guest' but getting the actual name of the significant other. That way, John Smith and Mary Jones are invited, not John Smith and Guest. After that, it's in God's hands, lol.
Kimberley2015
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Re: RSVP wording
Posted by Alimm729
Posted by Kimberley2015
Posted by JaimeLin
Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
I agree, people will do what they want regardless. I didn't word my RSVP any different. If people say they're bringing more people than I planned I would just address it with them. I only have one person without a plus one and that's because I'm hoping she wont come so I'm happy to tell her she can't bring anyone lol.
I must say you ladies are making me laugh with your comments. The thing is all of our guests are married or in a relationship but FH family may not bring their significant other and may bring someone else and I am so hoping that is not the case. So I am trying to figure out how to state it on the RSVP card.
In that case, what I would suggest is not writing 'and Guest' but getting the actual name of the significant other. That way, John Smith and Mary Jones are invited, not John Smith and Guest. After that, it's in God's hands, lol.
Exactly!!!
rcotter90
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Re: RSVP wording
Posted by Alimm729
Posted by Kimberley2015
Posted by JaimeLin
Posted by Alimm729
In all honesty, if someone is the type of person to bring someone that wasn't invited, they're going to do it regardless of what you write on the invitation/RSVP. I know people have put a line, We've reserved ___ seats in your honor, and filled in the number for each invitation. But like I said, it's not going to stop those people who will do it anyway. Your best bet is not to get frazzled over it, and just let whatever will be, be. Hope that helps. I'm feeling the same way, and I'm just praying not everyone in FH's family is an a-hole about it (though I'm still bracing myself for it!)
I agree, people will do what they want regardless. I didn't word my RSVP any different. If people say they're bringing more people than I planned I would just address it with them. I only have one person without a plus one and that's because I'm hoping she wont come so I'm happy to tell her she can't bring anyone lol.
I must say you ladies are making me laugh with your comments. The thing is all of our guests are married or in a relationship but FH family may not bring their significant other and may bring someone else and I am so hoping that is not the case. So I am trying to figure out how to state it on the RSVP card.
In that case, what I would suggest is not writing 'and Guest' but getting the actual name of the significant other. That way, John Smith and Mary Jones are invited, not John Smith and Guest. After that, it's in God's hands, lol.
This exactly. Fh and I have gotten several invites to weddings that say both his and my name instead of his & guest. That's a great way to make sure there's no randos lol
brookie6978
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My friends response cards said # of guests attending: 0, 1 or 2 with lines next to each #
Chels
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I did ' _______ seat(s) have been reserved in your honour'
If they changed it I spoke to them. I only had one person change it.
Find out the name of the guest if they are bringing a guest
Do not write and guest. Personally I didnt write 'and family' or 'family' either but i know some people do.
the only way to prevent it is make people know whether you or like you parents drop the hint
FH set it straight with his family esp no kids. we wrote 'adult reception' and we still had people asking as if it didnt apply to them or the didnt see or understand :eye roll:
