Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I got engaged to my lovely fiancé in June and we are getting married in September of 2016. Lately whenever someone asks when we are getting married and I tell them two years, I get the side eyes from them and then 'why so long?' in a nasty tone. What gives?! I hate being sooooo excited and then people try to make me feel bad for having a long engagement. We are trying to save for a house which is why we made the mutual decision to wait.

Even before I got engaged I would NEVER ask someone why they are waiting so long to get married. It is no ones business and it's rude!

My questions to you girls who have or had a long engagement, did you also have people questioning why you are waiting so long?

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

PREACH!! We got engaged in November and are getting married august 2016.. Almost 3 years. I just smile politely and explain that FH is still in grad school and were trying to save as much as possible. As if it's any of their damn business anyway. People are so rude. I've learned to let it roll off my back. It's gone so fast already and were excited. Don't let anyone rain on your parade!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

When someone says that answer back 'what's the rush?' After all you will be together forever anyway!

I dont have a long engagement but that's outta place for someone to say that!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

Lets just say I've been engaged since 2010. I got engaged at 21 wanted time to reflect and develop my career. Now I'm more wiser and able to financially afford the wedding of my dreams. Everyone always says 'it's about time' and it really pisses me off.

Everyone is different and I prefer a long engagement then a short marriage. Being that we were really young I'm so glad we did it this way. Everyone has an opinion on what your relationship should be however it's YOUR life not theirs. No worries enjoy your fiancé u will have plenty of time to save and not rush and overlook something for your wedding.

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I always get that! One lady at work was like oh why so far away and I'm like we want to save money my fiancé is going to air traffic control academy so we wanted time to save and plan. And then she gave me the rudest 'oh.'

However, a lot of people after they ask and I tell them they are very understanding and then say oh yeah that's really smart. I don't want to rush into anything and not be able to afford the cost of living! lol

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Posted by kellynicole91

I always get that! One lady at work was like oh why so far away and I'm like we want to save money my fiancé is going to air traffic control academy so we wanted time to save and plan. And then she gave me the rudest 'oh.'

However, a lot of people after they ask and I tell them they are very understanding and then say oh yeah that's really smart. I don't want to rush into anything and not be able to afford the cost of living! lol

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Exactly! Like yeah I could get married in six months, but we'd be living in a box on the street!

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Posted by kellynicole91

I always get that! One lady at work was like oh why so far away and I'm like we want to save money my fiancé is going to air traffic control academy so we wanted time to save and plan. And then she gave me the rudest 'oh.'

However, a lot of people after they ask and I tell them they are very understanding and then say oh yeah that's really smart. I don't want to rush into anything and not be able to afford the cost of living! lol

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Exactly! Like yeah I could get married in six months, but we'd be living in a box on the street!

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YES! Once I tell people we are trying to save for a house they realize I'm right. It's not cheap to live on Long Island and obviously they're aware of that.

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I get this allll the time. Even from my own family. We got engaged in June & we'll be getting married May 2016. I just say we're doing what's best for us. I think it's smart to save money & do things the right way. If I was rich I would love to get married next year lol but weddings & the cost of living are expensive in New York! In 2 years we'll have more than enough money saved for the wedding & to move out to our first place. that's what matters to me

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I get this often too. We got engaged in March and are waiting until 2016. I never really planned on getting married, so being engaged is a huge adjustment for me! I'm not going to rush for anyone!! Besides, it's so much fun being engaged. People notice all the time and want to talk about it. I never noticed engaged people before, so I think it is so sweet when people ask me questions about it.

Oddly enough, my doctor told me that the heavens smile down on an engaged couple, and I feel like this is really true. Enjoy your engagement, and don't let anyone's negative attitude make you feel badly!!!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

Yes! It's so annoying! This June was our two year mark and we still have a couple months to go. FHs cousin got engaged over the summer and her friend asked when she's getting married. She said this year because it's ridiculous when people wait almost two years blah blah blah. I just turned to her and said 'I'm waiting over two years' and walked away. So many other people have asked me too. Why do you care when I get married?!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

We got a lot of that, our engagement is a little shy of 2 years. We were both still in grad school, I'll be finished in December and FH just finished in May. We're hoping to get jobs and hopefully save up a bit of money before the wedding. FH's parents were the worst. They basically ignored any wedding planning because it was 'too far away to start planning.' Even now they think we're still far out and that we have 'everything' done. We've just learned to ignore the talk and try to be happy for ourselves.

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

We got engaged December of 2011 and are getting married March 2016 so we got the question a lot. Some people were just excited and wanted the party now and others just have no concept of how much a wedding costs. Eventually I stopped caring what others thought. People will still be just as excited when they get the invite so disregard the 'finally!' comments and embrace it and enjoy the process. Once your married you will start getting the 'when are you going to have kids?' question so there will always be something. If the person is being extra rude just ask them if they want to foot the bill and you'll gladly move the date. :)

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

Omg I get the exact same thing all the time. People don't seem to understand that we're paying for the entire wedding ourselves and we don't have the greatest jobs! Ugh I wanted a long engagement but regardless that question is annoying.

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I'm dealing with the opposite. We are planning a wedding with about a 9-month total engagement and people ask why we are rushing--I get 'are you pregnant?' a lot. People say things no matter what.

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Posted by gonnabefrank

I'm dealing with the opposite. We are planning a wedding with about a 9-month total engagement and people ask why we are rushing--I get 'are you pregnant?' a lot. People say things no matter what.

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OMG!!! How rude!!!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

We got that alot too we got engaged in July 2013 and we are getting married May 2015 so just under 2 years. I was finishing up school and needed to be able to work for about a year to save up money before the wedding. People are so nosey and ask why but it's really nobody's business

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

We had a 2 yr engagement. We paid for the entire wedding ourselves. Whenever people asked why so long, my reply was, feel free to donate some funds and we can speed this process along!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I'm constantly getting this! It's so frustrating but whatever this is what we wanted and since we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves we have to have a longer engagement so that it can be the wedding we want

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

i hear ya! FH and i are having a three year engagement. he is in law school and we both decided it would be best to wait until he finished school. law school is stressful enough and to get married while in it would be too much. we both want to enjoy our day! i have had so many people ask why i am waiting. they just dont understand. im so glad to hear that you girls are having the same thing!

Rude comments and questions about long engagement.

I get this often, we got engaged last December and are getting married next October, I wanted a fall wedding but didn't want to rush the planning. Usually I tell people that I'm a perfectionist and need to plan, they can either attend a crap wedding within 9 months of my engagement or a blowout event in a little under two years. Close friends and family should be happy for you no matter when you decide to get married.