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AugustBridein09 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 12:03 PM

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Sorry for your loss. I say keep the photo in the montage and like someone else posted maybe do a general 'for those we wish could have been with us today' that way no one gets too sad.

IrishBrideASmiling Posted: Jun 01, 2009 12:06 PM

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Honestly from my past experiences, you have to do whatever YOU and your FH feel comfortable with, and not worry about what others will think on this issue.

If you start asking your other cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., you are going to get half yes' and half no's and you will be even more confused.

Its your day and you should choose who you wish to remember in the way you want to remember them.

You can add a few pics in your montage or you can even just have a pic of her on your memory table, or just even have the priest mention her name during the mass.

JamieAnt06202009 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 12:08 PM

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Posted by GRod2Be

I am so sorry for your loss. You should definitely do the montage and maybe in your programs you can add a little something like 'In loving memory to so and so who made us laugh and love' or whatever you feel about her.

I already added her in the program where we are remember our deceased loved ones. Thanks for the suggestion!!!!

JamieAnt06202009 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 12:11 PM

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Posted by AugustBridein09

Sorry for your loss. I say keep the photo in the montage and like someone else posted maybe do a general 'for those we wish could have been with us today' that way no one gets too sad.

I think thats def what I am going to do.

mlcvln129 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 01:00 PM

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I am beyond sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family during this time.

I think I would give the family all of the options you came up with, then figure out which would be the most appropriate. Obviously, there are going to be mountains of tears whenever it happens, but I think her immediate family should help you figure out which way would be the least. . .I don't want to say awkward, but it's the best way I could think of putting it.

MrsCM Posted: Jun 01, 2009 01:13 PM

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I'd ask your family for input. I know as much as I'd like certain people mentioned during my ceremony, my mom would start balling.

gina409 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 02:51 PM

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im so sorry for your loss...my thoughts and prayers are with you.

i think having the priest say something would be a really nice thing to do

coldasice217 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 02:54 PM

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I'm sorry for your loss. I wish I had an answer, but really only you know how your family would react to either of the situations. Good luck with your decision

las1 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 03:26 PM

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I am sorry for your loss.

FutureMrsG Posted: Jun 01, 2009 05:33 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I would add the pictures to the montage but I would not have the priest or DJ mention anything. I know you want to remember her but it may be really hard for the immediate family.

tinadansr Posted: Jun 01, 2009 05:35 PM

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so sorry to hear this 's for you and your family

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 06:18 PM

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I think different people would react differently to the picture so I'm not really sure the direction you should go in with that.

fonz616 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 06:22 PM

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I think I would include her in the photo montage as a way of remembering her and how special she was to you. I am so sorry for your loss

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 07:08 PM

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Im sorry to hear about your loss

NikkiR515 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 07:12 PM

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Posted by alli3131

you can have the priest mention her name at the point when they say 'we pray for.....'

I am so sorry for your loss.

My stepfather passed away 4 months before our wedding from cancer also and we did this. It went by fairly quick and honestly I think the only person who got emotional was me but I just felt in my heart he needed to be acknowledged in some sot of way.

Again I am really sorry you are going through this. If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to fm me!

mosh424 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 07:28 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I would def. have the preist mention your cousin and would keep her in your montage. She was someone that was very important to you and FH and I find it only fitting that she be included.

My prayers are with you and your family

dazies1011 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 07:30 PM

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I would do a picture of her and have the priest say something.

JamieAnt06202009 Posted: Jun 01, 2009 09:58 PM

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Thanks everyone. I just got back from the DJ and I used 2 pictures with me and her in it for the montage. It's important to me and i def know she will be there in spirit that day and I really wanted to remember her. Thanks again for all of the advice.