My Mom, FH and myself went to Pinelawn yesterday. Here is the back story... My Grandparents purchased a Garden Mausoleum in the 80's. Grandma sadly is resting there since February 14, 2008. My parents are divorced. My Mom is engaged to a wonderful man and this marriage would be their second. My Mom's FH plans to be buried with his 1st wife, leaving my Mom alone. I didn't want this to happen so My FH and I decided that we would get a Garden Mausoleum next to my Mom.
Well..... Yesterday was the weirdest day of my life. I cant even describe the emotions I was going through.
We stopped at My Grandmothers grave ( My Grandpa was with us as well) then we drove a little to the back where my Mom said was available. I was hysterical crying. All these thoughts were going through my head. I was thinking that I never want to see this again and then I was thinking that the next time I have to see this one of us will be gone. I could not stop crying. I was literally hyperventaling it was so bad. I'm not sure if it was the combo of stopping by Grandma's plot (but I do this at least 2 times a month) and My/FH & Moms, but I was an emotional wreck all day.
Its sooo weird ....our 1st major purchase together is a grave. FH is the best for understanding that I didn't want my Mom to be alone and doing this now with us.
Such a weird day.
NickandTara426
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littlepixie12
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oh dont worry ... you both did a sweet thing for not wanting to leave your mom alone ... your FH is sweet to have agreed to that .. I would have done the same thing
chicky724
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Aww I teared up while reading that. That's so sweet that you'll be near your mom but definitely freaky to be looking at your own grave!
JamieAnt06202009
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I think I would have done the same thing too. I think it's great that you did that for your mom.
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Aww yes weird but unfortunately is important & alos super nice to be next to your mother. Fh is very caring.
My grandmother passed a year ago & her bday was Saturday. So i was kindof doing the same thing. Only i didnt purchase anything yet. But visiting the grave is always so hard.
So your emotions were all over the place & totally understood!
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it was hard but it was the right thing to do.
i heart you Barbie!!!!
Jennmolloy
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I totally understand why you would want to do this!! I Don't want my maom to be alone. Your FH is a sweetie for understanding and supporting you and your mom.
I can't imagine how strange that must have been for you! I get the chills just thinking about it.
I'm sure it was very comforting for you as well as your mom that she wouldnt be alone. Very considerate of you.
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i think it's so great of your fh to be supportive to do something like that! You guys are just wonderful!
baba022
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its understandable for you to feel that way...u were at a cemetary #1 and visiting your gparents #2...i would be hysterical too jsut for that....but you guys did a great thing!! something not many really think about but in a way, i guess, is important.....
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That does seem super hard and how great of you to do that for your mom. I think crying is a perfectly natural reaction, esp as so much of your family was there. I hope none of you have to see that place again for a very LONG time.
BarbieGrl10
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Thanks for all the support girls!
LvnMrT
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That's very sweet! I would do the same for my mom. I could see how it could be emotional for anyone...so it's not weird at all!
maggie728
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I hope u dnt have to go back there for a long long time
aimerlena01
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You did such a great thing yesterday. It's understandable for you to be upset but look forward to spending your life with a guy who understands everything you need in your life and after.
