Save the Date

ready2wed Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:28 PM

Save the Date

So my mom is arguing with me that save the dates are a waste of money and I shouldn't send them out! Well, I want to send them. I feel that they are needed because most of FH family does not live in NY and the wedding is a Sunday evening which would require most people to take off work Monday. My entire family is against me on this topic.

Am I being unreasonable? Is there anyone else not doing save the dates?

VCanizalez Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:29 PM

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Sorry chica...

I think it is nice to send the a reminder about u wedding... specially since they are out of town...

I will b doing RSVP Maybe i wil see if I can DIY since i will only do like a card.. or any toher type of STD... regardless of wether my mom wants me or not... If u really want them u should do them....

WeezyGirl2354 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:30 PM

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We did them b/c 1) they were included with our photog package...2) our wedding is on a holiday weekend so we wanted to make sure our loved ones knew not to make plans

They arent needed but sometimes they are - in your case if you have a lot of OOT guests I think they are really important.

allornil Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:35 PM

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i like them. it gets people pumped up about your wedding.

pjc92980 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:54 PM

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i think they are great. it reminds people esp if they are out of town. You can get them for pretty cheap so imo its worth sending. I got magnets from vista print for 50 cents each and i believe normal postcards are even cheaper.

SoonToBeMrsFox Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:55 PM

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it's your wedding. if you want to send out save the dates, do it.

Moonmist09 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 02:58 PM

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my wedding isn't on a holiday weekend or anything special. it is on a sunday evening.
we are keeping the wedding local. my family lives in queens and most, if not all, of FH lives in Brooklyn where the wedding will take place. a handful will be traveling from Staten Island and New Jersey.
I didn't have to do the STD's but i thought they were fun and i made them myself (pics in album)
its not your mom's wedding, its yours. and you have a valid reason, if most of FH's family is from OOT, you should definately do them

ready2wed Posted: Sep 07, 2010 03:02 PM

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Posted by pjc92980

i think they are great. it reminds people esp if they are out of town. You can get them for pretty cheap so imo its worth sending. I got magnets from vista print for 50 cents each and i believe normal postcards are even cheaper.

Magnets for 50 cents each!! Wow that is great, I vistaprint.

ready2wed Posted: Sep 07, 2010 03:03 PM

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Posted by Moonmist09

my wedding isn't on a holiday weekend or anything special. it is on a sunday evening.
we are keeping the wedding local. my family lives in queens and most, if not all, of FH lives in Brooklyn where the wedding will take place. a handful will be traveling from Staten Island and New Jersey.
I didn't have to do the STD's but i thought they were fun and i made them myself (pics in album)
its not your mom's wedding, its yours. and you have a valid reason, if most of FH's family is from OOT, you should definately do them

They are sooo nice! How did you do them yourself? You are so talented...

ready2wed Posted: Sep 07, 2010 03:07 PM

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Did anyone see the movie 'Our Family Wedding' at least I think that is what it's called. I really feel like its 'her wedding and my marriage.' I'm really trying to be subtle with her because she is paying for the wedding but it's getting aggravating!!

I think I'm going to still do the save the dates, pay for it myself , and just send one to her via mail

Chanwich Posted: Sep 07, 2010 03:22 PM

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Posted by ready2wed

Did anyone see the movie 'Our Family Wedding' at least I think that is what it's called. I really feel like its 'her wedding and my marriage.' I'm really trying to be subtle with her because she is paying for the wedding but it's getting aggravating!!

I think I'm going to still do the save the dates, pay for it myself , and just send one to her via mail

DO IT!!! If you want them then go for it and F-off to everyone else

for the orignial question, we did them because FHs entire family lives way upstate and needed time to find hotel and make travel plans!

DCgirl82 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 03:51 PM

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I think STDs are important! People plans vacations, weekend trips.. some people apprecitae knowing way in advance so that they can plan around it.

Im getting Married Posted: Sep 07, 2010 06:30 PM

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I did them even though we do not have many OOTer's

Use Vista print you can get them for super cheap

mrsg2be11 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 06:35 PM

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I'd do it. My mom was down with it, but my grandma was like 'uh how come you can't just call everyone??!' Really grandma? Not so much. Esp. if you're doing a summer wedding, so the people you're inviting can plan their vacations too! In the world we live in now, sending an invite 3 months before is NOT enough notice for people. I ordered mine from vista print too, i got 100 magnets, matching envelopes, and matching return addresses for under 100$. You can get post cards there real cheap too, and keep your eye out for their specials!

xoabxo Posted: Sep 07, 2010 06:40 PM

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i did postcards from vista print it came out to like 13 dollars and some change including shipping and envelopes

JLWSJC Posted: Sep 07, 2010 09:00 PM

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

it's your wedding. if you want to send out save the dates, do it.

This. What's the big deal? You can get really cheap ones made, and if you go to VistaPrint at the right time, you can get them for almost free. Just do it if you want them.

evita2781 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 09:52 PM

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Posted by DCgirl82

I think STDs are important! People plans vacations, weekend trips.. some people apprecitae knowing way in advance so that they can plan around it.

ITA - plus we wanted to send them out b/c june is a popular month to get married and we're already getting STDs from other couples for next summer so I def need to make sure that ppl know not to have plans that day and to go to my wedding over another

Jennielee15 Posted: Sep 07, 2010 09:59 PM

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I had this same fight with FH! So I went on Vista Print and bought them for super cheap! You can get the postcards with your picture and save the date message on one side and then the rest on the other. And it's cheaper to send via mail!!!