Ok, I just recently took on a second job to help pay for the wedding and keep up with some of the bills. My fiance and I live with eachother and he is currently working a full time job and going to school part time.
Now I took on the second job because my fiance and I are paying for our own wedding and I wanted . My family found out that I am working a second job and they are upset with my fiance. They are assuming that the reason why I am taking a second job is to pay for my fiance's schooling.
Now my fiance is upset with how my family is viewing him. MY family thinks my fiance is a deadbeat because he is not the one taking the second job and I am bummed and upset because all i want is a beautiful wedding.
UGH!!!
sorry needed to vent
Michy
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I am sorry that you have to deal with this. I feel bad that you are stuck in the middle and all you want to do is have a beautiful wedding.All I can say is do what you feel is right and don't worry about what your family says.
betani
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ugh, sorry 'bout that babe. i had a similar situation (well, almost). fmil basically told fh she doesn't want me going to get my masters b/c SHE doesn't want to pay for it. well, why would she? i put myself through undergrad and i'll do the same for grad. and if not, i have MY OWN mother. =0\ oh well... now she's accepted that but wants me to go to school in tx (even though no schools have my program) so i don't MAKE fh leave and we're close (he hates it here too and we both want to be back in ny).
but yeah, on one hand i guess i can see how your family got confused, but on the other i can REALLY sympathize with your fh. it's never nice to be accused in that way. maybe try just explaining to your family why you took another job, that fh is paying for his schooling (which is eventually bring in more money to the household later on), and it's really hurtful to him that'd they'd accuse him of that. and anyway, even if you were paying for his schooling, it's your decision. you're a big girl and you and fh are fmaily now so...
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Posted by lilangel
Ok, I just recently took on a second job to help pay for the wedding and keep up with some of the bills. My fiance and I live with eachother and he is currently working a full time job and going to school part time.
Now I took on the second job because my fiance and I are paying for our own wedding and I wanted . My family found out that I am working a second job and they are upset with my fiance. They are assuming that the reason why I am taking a second job is to pay for my fiance's schooling.
Now my fiance is upset with how my family is viewing him. MY family thinks my fiance is a deadbeat because he is not the one taking the second job and I am bummed and upset because all i want is a beautiful wedding.
UGH!!!
sorry needed to vent
my schedule is pretty much the same as yours except I have no time for a second job even though I think about it all the time. You and Fh are starting a life together and you do what you guys think is best. Your family well they are always going to want an easier life style for you and same for FH's family. All that matters is you and FH. Good Luck!
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Stinks that they are viewing him like that-but maybe you need to be more specific and down right to the point about it. Explain that FH is doing school so that he can afford to support you later on in life, and he works now to support you NOW...Good Luck
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It breaks my heart to see girls that take second jobs to pay for the wedding Isnt there some things you could cut out and make it cheaper so that you and FH can have more time together?
causeimb
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Whatever!!!!! I work two jobs and FH works one. But that's my choice. FH isnt making me do anything. Some people just dont listen and you have to do what you have to do to have the wedding you want. Good Luck and ignore them
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I can defintely relate...I have FOUR jobs...I know I am crazy, but there is no other way I can pay for this wedding. And I am cutting expenses everywhere(in the end it should cost me about 20,000). I work full time as a psychotherapist and have three small part time jobs where I do consultant work. The part time jobs total approximately 10 hours per week, however are in different locations and on different days. Anyway, I completely can relate and sometimes I think I am totally nuts. But I do want a wedding and a house and feel that this is the only way. Don't let other people influence your decision. FH only has one job. The way I think, is that it is only for a little while and after the wedding I can relax and start a family. Then I can sit on my butt with the baby and let him bring home the money!!
Good luck!!!
mycrayon1
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I'm sorry that you have to deal with that. Did you try to explain to them why you took the second job?
leshellem
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Same here, I work a second job and FH doesn't. But I always worked a second job, living on Long Island is expensive. Try explaing to your family that the extra cash is for the wedding. That's where my second job money goes.
miss nee
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EXACTLY...IF I HAD THE TIME ENERGY AND STAMINA TO WORK 5 JOBS FOR MY DREAM WEDDING ..TRUST ..THATS HOW IT WOULD GO DOWN..START SAYING THINGS LIKE UNTIL YOU PAYING FOR MY WEDDING ...HUSH IT
