Seriously distraught...please advise

You are NOT irrational, you have EVERY right to be upset! Take it from me I've lived with FH's parents and that is a recipe for DISASTER!!!!!
Put your foot down and DO NOT go through with it!!!!! Good luck!
XOXOXO
Kitty

It's all been said I just wanted to offer you a couple of these!

Wow.........Don't even know what to say...it's a tough one..but i agree with you 100%....you work so hard you shouldn't have to kill yourself and sacrifice just to make her life easier.......but men and their mothers is tough.........they never leave the womb!

you're not out of line, they are.

I think she should consider a retirement community, like an over 55 condo. It is no way to start a marriage. good luck