So all this time I thought we had very similar views on the wedding, etc. We are not traditional by any means and figured that would carry over into the wedding as well. I thought it would be fun to walk down the aisle to a classic rock song I like with my father and he is dead set against it. Wants me to walk down to here comes the bride. Figure we could do something fun for our walk down the aisle but nope, he wants the wedding march. I've always dreamed about having a Willy Wonka themed wedding (one of my all time favorite movies). He doesn't want to hear about themes, he just wants simple and classic with only a color theme. Not saying our wedding isn't going to be fun, but I was hoping it would not be the traditional wedding. I'm hoping to work on him over the next 2 years, but not sure how much luck I will have.
Anyone else find this? I'm just a bit shocked to be honest. Really wanted our personalities to show in this wedding, but he seems to want to take the more traditional approach. It's his wedding too so I don't want to ignore his requests. Guess I have to figure out how to mesh both of our wants. Any suggestions?
SummerBride10
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Maybe you can compromise? Have a simple elegant wedding for the most part, then add in small touches of 'you'. Such as since he doesnt want you walk down the aisle to that certain song, maybe you can have it as your entrance song instead? Maybe if the 'different wedding ideas' are more subtle he'll be more open to it?
PROBM
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I am going through the same thing , my fh is extremley traditional and anytime i make a suggestion he says 'Did so and so do that at thier wedding' ..... dont stress men dont really care when it comes down to it ... just stop asking him what he thinks and do whatever the hell you want ...believe me i know its a lot more fun if he was on board but you are going to plan it ... these boys only have an opinion when asked so just dont ask him
Autumnbride03
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hmm... i don't like 'here comes the bride' either, but it may be nice to keep the ceremony traditional to respect his wants and then add the 'fun' into the reception? Compromising goes both ways...
i personally don't like here comes the bride either, maybe you could use another traditional song like canon in d or trumpet voluntary or something.
amandah75
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Maybe if I add things here and there it will not be so bad. I don't want to discount his feelings cause it is his wedding too and very important to him. I'm just really flabbergasted by it. Tried again last night with the sports theme but no go. I saw a centerpiece on here or maybe another site that was a trinket box that contained things the represented the couple. Maybe that would be a good compromise since its not one specific theme but something that represents each aspect of us. Gotta look into that more I guess. Just don't know how that would look in the center of a table.
