Should I be upset with FH??

My birthday was yesterday and my FH didn't come by to see me or make any plans with me. Granted, we live 1/2 hour apart and I saw him the day before my birthday but.......it still hurt that I didn't get to see him that day. Then today I find out that he went out for drinks on my birthday with his BIL

Am I being a baby or do I have a point here???!?

I would be very hurt if FH did that to me. 1/2 hour away is nothing...it's a matter of neighborhoods...

Happy Belated Birthday...

Hope you feel better...

I think thats extremely rude and selfish of him. I cant even imagine why he wouldnt drive to see you and take you out on your bday. Im sorry that he did that and you should definitly let him know how you feel

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Posted by milana

I think thats extremely rude and selfish of him. I cant even imagine why he wouldnt drive to see you and take you out on your bday. Im sorry that he did that and you should definitly let him know how you feel

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Well, he promised to take me out this weekend,etc......I dunno, it's not the same for me.....I would have really liked to see him that day......I got upset when I tried to talk about it to him earlier tonight and he told me to grow up.

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Posted by shopaholic07


Well, he promised to take me out this weekend,etc......I dunno, it's not the same for me.....I would have really liked to see him that day......I got upset when I tried to talk about it to him earlier tonight and he told me to grow up.

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why was he able to see you 2 days ago but not yesterday?
i would understand if he had to do something important but having drinks with someone else is not.
Did you know you were not going to see him beforehand?

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Posted by shopaholic07

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Posted by milana

I think thats extremely rude and selfish of him. I cant even imagine why he wouldnt drive to see you and take you out on your bday. Im sorry that he did that and you should definitly let him know how you feel

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Well, he promised to take me out this weekend,etc......I dunno, it's not the same for me.....I would have really liked to see him that day......I got upset when I tried to talk about it to him earlier tonight and he told me to grow up.

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He told you to grow up?!?! I'm sorry but that's really terrible... I'd be so pissed off... it's not just some random day it's YOUR BIRTHDAY... he should have been there for you... I'm sorry that happened

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Posted by drpepper318

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Posted by shopaholic07

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Posted by milana

I think thats extremely rude and selfish of him. I cant even imagine why he wouldnt drive to see you and take you out on your bday. Im sorry that he did that and you should definitly let him know how you feel

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Well, he promised to take me out this weekend,etc......I dunno, it's not the same for me.....I would have really liked to see him that day......I got upset when I tried to talk about it to him earlier tonight and he told me to grow up.

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He told you to grow up?!?! I'm sorry but that's really terrible... I'd be so pissed off... it's not just some random day it's YOUR BIRTHDAY... he should have been there for you... I'm sorry that happened

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I agree this wasnt just another random day in the week it was your bday and he couldve made it special. Him telling you to grow up is just uncalled for b/c i I dont think your being childish at all.

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Posted by Jess5790

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Posted by shopaholic07


Well, he promised to take me out this weekend,etc......I dunno, it's not the same for me.....I would have really liked to see him that day......I got upset when I tried to talk about it to him earlier tonight and he told me to grow up.

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why was he able to see you 2 days ago but not yesterday?
i would understand if he had to do something important but having drinks with someone else is not.
Did you know you were not going to see him beforehand?

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He saw me two days ago because I took the subway and LIRR from the city and commuted for almost two hours to see his family because they were leaving for vacation on my birthday. What a dumb*** I am........

And he didn't really say for yes or no about coming to see me....he kinda just left it up in the air....and I thought maybe he wasn't saying anything because he was going to suprise me or something but no such luck So I spent my birthday home like a loser.

First off Katerina I think you need a couple of these Secondly, 1/2 hour is not a commute & don't be convinced otherwise. Hell yeah I would be double pissed now seeing as not only did he miss your B-day but now he's talking nonsense...grow up...come on...I don't know how he expected to diffuse the situation with that comment. You obviously are not only upset (rightfully so IMO) but also seem let down. These are things he needs to hear. If he is not receptive with hearing you out perhaps write it out or leave it on his voicemail when you know he is not going to pick up. HTH ohh and by the way a very HAPPY HAPPY B-DAY to you

NOOOOOOOO your NOT being a baby

omg i make my birthday a huge deal
and you say he lives 1/2 away...30 minutes??? thats NOT bad at alll...he could have surprised you.... and came over at night?
so your saying you didnt see him at all today

No breakfast, lunch or romantic dinner?
perhaps any flowers sent to your house?

i would be FUMING mad if I were you...thats terrible.... it was your BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!


anyways.... Happy Birthday

grow up?

it was your birthday!!!

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Posted by luvabul

NOOOOOOOO your NOT being a baby

omg i make my birthday a huge deal
and you say he lives 1/2 away...30 minutes??? thats NOT bad at alll...he could have surprised you.... and came over at night?
so your saying you didnt see him at all today

No breakfast, lunch or romantic dinner?
perhaps any flowers sent to your house?

i would be FUMING mad if I were you...thats terrible.... it was your BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!


anyways.... Happy Birthday

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I didn't see him at all on my birthday. I didn't get a special breakfast, lunch or dinner....He said that he was going to treat me like a princess this weekend and reminded me about paying for the sandals that I ordered for our HM.....like I give a s*** about the sandals! I wanted to see him on my birthday!!! Tonight he picked me up because we spend the weekends together.......the subject is off-limits. I don't want to say anything because of what will erupt.....

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Posted by luvabul

grow up?

it was your birthday!!!

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He said I needed to grow up because I started to cry.......I just couldn't believe a) he didn't come to see me for my birthday and b) he went out drinking that night! We NEVER go out for drinks.

1/2 an hour is not a commute at all -- my FH and I lived 40 miles apart for the 5 years we've been together. The shortest time it took us to see eachother was 45 minutes. A 1/2 an hour is nothing!!

I would talk to your FH and let him know how much it upset you -- you don't want this incident to repeat itself in the future. He should have spent time with you on your birthday. No one wants to be alone on their birthday. HIm of all people should have been there to celebrate with you and enjoy your day. It only comes around once a year. I think you need some

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Posted by kbb1977

First off Katerina I think you need a couple of these Secondly, 1/2 hour is not a commute & don't be convinced otherwise. Hell yeah I would be double pissed now seeing as not only did he miss your B-day but now he's talking nonsense...grow up...come on...I don't know how he expected to diffuse the situation with that comment. You obviously are not only upset (rightfully so IMO) but also seem let down. These are things he needs to hear. If he is not receptive with hearing you out perhaps write it out or leave it on his voicemail when you know he is not going to pick up. HTH ohh and by the way a very HAPPY HAPPY B-DAY to you

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Thank you for the hugs and the birthday wishes.......I'm glad to see that I have you girls for support and that I'm not being totally unreasonable! He told me to grow up just to shut me up so I wouldn't go on and on about it......I talked with my BM about all this and she suggested I don't press the situation (she knows how fiesty I can get). She said that at least he admitted to me that he went out that night when he could have very well lied to me.

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Posted by fallinlove91407

1/2 an hour is not a commute at all -- my FH and I lived 40 miles apart for the 5 years we've been together. The shortest time it took us to see eachother was 45 minutes. A 1/2 an hour is nothing!!

I would talk to your FH and let him know how much it upset you -- you don't want this incident to repeat itself in the future. He should have spent time with you on your birthday. No one wants to be alone on their birthday. HIm of all people should have been there to celebrate with you and enjoy your day. It only comes around once a year. I think you need some

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I don't know if it'll get anywhere if I talk to him about it.....the topic is pretty much off-limits at this point. You wouldn't believe how alone I felt that day......I couldn't believe I was engaged and my own FH didn't come out to see me on my birthday!

This topic should NOT be off -limits...my first birthday since me and FH [ than bf] were going out he didnt see me...went out with his friends...omg can i tell you all hell broke lose... i didnt speak to him for DAYS...
i was SOOO upset...

who wants to stay home alone on their birthday ? when they have a FH 30 minz away...he really should have done something.. and you really should not hold this in..so this does not go on in the future... other occasions such as [ valentines day, birthdays, when your sick, anniversaries]

He's supposed to be your better half. I'm sorry... its okay guys are jerks sometimes and they dont realize...but definately do sit him down... cry and talk to him though!

hope it all works out

1/2 is not far at all.... I would be pretty upset if I were in ur shoes..

Not to add fuel to the fire, but I would be livid. As the other girls have stated, 1/2 an hour away is not far at all. That was incredibly selfish and wrong of him. I'm so sorry.


But a happy belated birthday to you!