should i have a full mass?

cateydee Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:07 PM

should i have a full mass?

i have no idea- i thought i did want the full mass, but i dont want it to be too long (im a terrible catholic).

thoughts?

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:09 PM

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I am not having a full mass, we are not religious. I don't mind them, however, IMO, it does tend to drag on...but thats just me.

christine2010 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:09 PM

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i am torn with this decision right know too. sorry i'm no help.

Soon2bShea Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:10 PM

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I asked a bunch of people a few weeks ago 'what are the most important things to you, as a guest, at a wedding'....SOO many people said they don't like long ceremonies. FH and I aren't religious and no one in our family is...I don't want to force anyone to sit there for an hour if we aren't even religious and the short ceremony would be fine. IMO.

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:10 PM

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haha
pur priest asked if we were going to have a full mass when we met with him.. we said we didnt know, with timing and everything what we would do.... and he kinda looked at us like 'are you serously saying that to me' . he said that the only difference between a full mass and one without is communion. so really how ever long the blessing and the receiving line take, is how much time it would add, which is prob 15 minutes. so we are probably doing it.

jcreilly Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:11 PM

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LOL I am the same way we where going to have one but now i think I just want the cermoney, My friend went to a wedding where the priest talked forever. My mother told its okay if i dont have a mass she told me to check with FML to make sure she will be okay with it!~

Lsorrent Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:12 PM

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We are not having a full mass for a couple of reasons:

1- FH is not Catholic (he's Episcopal) so his entire family wouldn't even be able to go up for communion

2- My mother isn't Catholic, my dad is divorced, and my other sister is divorced, so none of them would be able to receive communion

3- FH and I are 'good' if we go to church even twice a year

4- I have some Jewish friends that I'm inviting to the wedding and I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable if they don't want to sit in on a mass

5- FH's cousin had a full (Episcopal) mass for her wedding and it was 1 1/2 hours long! Me, FH, and FBIL were miserable sitting through it and couldn't wait to get out.

6- I don't believe in going to mass just for a wedding. If I want to go to a full mass, I'll go on my own. I don't need somebody's wedding to do it.

7- Although a lot of people (especially my FIL's) will tell you that getting married has a lot to do with God and religion, my feeling is that the wedding is supposed to be about FH and I and our love for one another. We will bring God into our marriage in our own ways.

MrsC2010 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:12 PM

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i think if it is important to you than you should do it.

as a non-catholic I tend to dislike full mass ceremonies bc its a long thing to sit through. However, i will gladly do it if to support the couple getting married if thats what they choose to do.

AngnShaun Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:15 PM

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I am the worst catholic imaginable... i have it down with the church that we are having a full mass but im 95% sure that we are changing it....

MayBride2010 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:15 PM

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I agree- you should do it if it is important to you.

FH and I are both Catholic, and both went to Catholic high school. Originally I was thinking about not doing a mass, but then it didn't sit right with me to not have a mass for my own wedding. Plus, my mother would have killed me if I didn't have a mass because she goes to church every week and you could say she put the fear of God in me to have a mass for our wedding LOL.

cateydee Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:15 PM

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Posted by Soon2bMrsH

haha
pur priest asked if we were going to have a full mass when we met with him.. we said we didnt know, with timing and everything what we would do.... and he kinda looked at us like 'are you serously saying that to me' . he said that the only difference between a full mass and one without is communion. so really how ever long the blessing and the receiving line take, is how much time it would add, which is prob 15 minutes. so we are probably doing it.

if thats true, its a good point that would make me lean towards the full mass... the only other issue is that my stepmom (and grandparents and aunt n uncle) are jewish...

stinenandy2010 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:17 PM

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Its important to me and my family to have a full mass. Fh is not religious and neither is his family, but this is something that I would not compromise on, so we are having a full mass.

My mom actually attended a wedding at the church we are getting married at last week, the couple has a full mass, she said the priest was excellent, he didn't drag it out, the mass was over in 45mins and everyone was out in their cars in an hour.

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:19 PM

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My mom is making us have a full mass because marriage is a sacrament and should be done the proper way in her mind. I kind of agree.
BUT my friend had a whole mass on Saturday for her wedding and I was falling asleep it was sooo long. I have been to other full mass weddings and they weren't that long and boring, I think it was the priest she had.

cavvento Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:20 PM

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We're not going to. THough in theory it only adds about 15 more minutes, I think that it tends to make non-Catholics uncomfortable; they don't know where to follow along with the kneeling, extra prayers, etc. Plus, we LOVE the Deacon (he was my religion teacher when I was a kid), and we don't know which priest we would get if we did a mass instead.

AngnShaun Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:22 PM

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Posted by cavvento

We're not going to. THough in theory it only adds about 15 more minutes, I think that it tends to make non-Catholics uncomfortable; they don't know where to follow along with the kneeling, extra prayers, etc. Plus, we LOVE the Deacon (he was my religion teacher when I was a kid), and we don't know which priest we would get if we did a mass instead.

thats my main reason for not doing the full mass... the deacon at the church were getting married in is awesome... he is hysterical, and i know he would make it go by quick...

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:22 PM

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On Saturday, the groom and his entire family weren't Catholic. Both he and the entire family received communion. My jaw dropped to the ground. It was beyond offensive. They were grabbing it out of the priest's hand with two fingers....
I was in shock....

Rosalind_75 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:25 PM

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if its something thats important to you and fh then you should do it.
if you guys are the type to go to chruch twice a year then maybe a full mass isnt for you.

in the end do whats best for you

i dont have one religous bone in my body and i just realized the wedding im going to this weekend is a full mass.
the only reason why im going to the chruch is because i really want to see them exchange vows and become husband and wife.

hth

JenBill61210 Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:30 PM

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we are just having a ceremony. we are catholic but not super religious and we need all the time we can get !

cateydee Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:33 PM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

On Saturday, the groom and his entire family weren't Catholic. Both he and the entire family received communion. My jaw dropped to the ground. It was beyond offensive. They were grabbing it out of the priest's hand with two fingers....
I was in shock....

whaaaatt????????

cavvento Posted: Jul 14, 2009 02:34 PM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

On Saturday, the groom and his entire family weren't Catholic. Both he and the entire family received communion. My jaw dropped to the ground. It was beyond offensive. They were grabbing it out of the priest's hand with two fingers....
I was in shock....

I think that's another reality to consider. In other demoninations of Christianity, Communion is welcomed to anyone. WHereas for Catholics, it's ONLY the Catholics who receive, due to the doctrine of the transfiguration. HOwever, non-Catholics may not know this, so you might have non-Catholics receiving even though they are not supposed to.