I, personally would feel a little uncomfortable, but maybe it might help to put a face with a name.
I just realized we're Wedding Date Twins!! :o) Mine will be at 3:30! You'll be married right before me!
Baxter1
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My Best Friend is fine with this concept - so I totally understand. she would be fine with meeting FH Ex and opende contact.
I on the otherhand think helz no, no to contact and no to meeting - sorry there is no room for ex's in my life.
Now female friends are 150% ok with me - maybe you even drunkenly kissed - or made out with that friend but decided to stay friends thats cool with me too - but someone you had a long term Sexual relationship with - uh uh, no way.
Sorry JMHO
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i let you guys know what have i chose do about it, i wanted to think about for a lil awhile.....i let post again on the board about what i did or did nt do
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What do you mean by still in contact? Are still incontact because of mutual friends or do they work together? I think it is a rarity for exes to be friends and not have one of them have some sort of feelings. Do they meet up for dinner or drinks or just run into eachother. If they make set plans as in they are friends I would want to meet her. I have met all Fh other friends so why would I not meet her? JMO but If he doesn't want to introduce you too then there is something to hide.
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why does he still keep in contact with her?? was he hiding it from u? my ex and i used to talk, and my fh didn't like it...so that was the end of that...that would drive me insane!!!
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IMO I wouldnt want to meet her. I just think its wierd that they still see eachother and talk but they dont work together? When do they see eachother?
RGV07
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i dont want to post too much on the board, because i feel that FH know this site.....please FM if you like!!!!!
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If they talk alot and see eachother then i would want to meet this chick myself
me too! If they keep in contact more then just random I would definitely have to meet her.
kateretak2
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how long did they date for and how long ago did they break up?
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Posted by MrsBartonToBe
I really dont know what to tell u. My gut instinct as soon as I read the question was 'NOOOOOOOO FCKIN WAAAAAAAY!'
And I still feel that way, BUT if hes still seeing her occasionally- I would want to meet her too. I would NOT feel comfortable with him still seeing her. If I made that known to him, he would cut her off immediately to make me, his FW, feel comfortable and confident. I dont think he would maintain the relationship if he knew I wasnt OK with it, and I certainly dont think he would want me to meet her.. that would stir up a whoooole bunch of sh!t in my wacko mind
I agree 100%. Personally, it seems shady to me that he's seeing her occasionally. If that were my man, i'd put a stop to that ASAP. theres no reason for it and it doesnt look good.
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I have met a few of my FH ex g/f...there is one girl he dated briefly YEARS AND YEARS ago, and they remained nothing but friends, I met her and now she and I are sooooo close! They will be at our wedding and we were at hers! It all depends on the relationship that they had.
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Eh I say not unless u have to, I say if u can leave the past in the past. If he is still friends with her and u happen to bump into her, sure.
cmrcmr0430
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I met my FH when I was 16 and he was 23....It has been 12 years for us and I think I would meet her now. Not then...
heatherandrichie
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If my FH was still in contact w/ his ex, I would want to meet her. I would be uncomfortable with my FH talking to anyone regularly, that I hadn't met. JMO
charisma
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as long as they arent best buddies who hang out and talk all the time.....who cares...once in a blue no big deal....and any invites betta include you...or u can call me
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I think if it will put your mind at ease, then meet with her. But if it has the possibility of causing friction, don't do it!!
I met my FH's ex quite a few times, she lives in Manhattan- but yet goes to the same bar my FH goes to in QUEENS when he's out with the boys In the 6 years FH & I have been dating she's been married and divorced already!!! I know they talk online occassionally and it doesn't really bother me b/c I talk to my ex online sometimes too and b/c I trust FH 100%!!!!
Remember the saying, keep your friends close and your enemies closer!!! Meet her!! show her how in love you and FH are, maybe it will make her uncomfortable and she'll stop hanging with your FH so much. good luck & keep us posted.
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Personally, I would want to meet her. If your FH still keeps in touch with her there has to be a reason. By a reason, I mean that perhaps this woman is NOT a bad person. Hence he doesn't mind remaining friends with her. You gotta remember we all had exes. Just because we didn't end up with those exes it doesn't mean that they are or that we are mean people. It just means that we were not meant for each other. The only thing that would bother me is if FH would not want us to meet. Then that would set a red flag.
My FH keeps in touch with his ex via phone calls because she calls him every now and again. It doesn't bother me one bit. I trust FH 100%. She is married now but she feels that she made a wrong decision by beaking up and cheating on my FH. She now has to live with that guilt, but I digress. Do what you feel is right.
Please FM me with any questions.
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I think if it will give you some closure in yourself...meaning the Wonder of her ..do it..However I personally would not want to know that part of my Fh's past. This is a tough one because he is still in contact.
