should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

aliwnec10 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:15 AM

should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

Okay ladies... i have another question for you all.

If you cannot attend a wedding shower, should you still send a gift?

I always have, but a few of my friends from college weren't aware of this 'rule.' They thought you only had to get a gift if you were going. Is this true?

werock0709 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:18 AM

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I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.

dianadrw Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:20 AM

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Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.

Ditto for me.

SPITSBRIDE Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:21 AM

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Yes, definitely.

pupidda122505 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:22 AM

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Posted by dianadrw

Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.

Ditto for me.

I agree. It's the same thing as sending a gift even if u can't make the wedding. It might be a smaller gift since you're not going but it's still appropriate to send something.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:23 AM

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Definitely yes.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:23 AM

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i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:26 AM

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Posted by dianadrw

Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.

Ditto for me.

Me too!

KimberlyBride Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:27 AM

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Yes definitely!

SuzBride Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:28 AM

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I dont think you HAVE to give a gift if you aren't attending, I always do though. Just because I can't make the shower, I still want the new couple to have something from me for their new home/life together!

aliwnec10 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:28 AM

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well someone put NO... so i'm curious to anyone's opinion who doesn't think it's necessary.

I mean quite a few of my friends (from Ma & Vt) didn't think it was necessary and it didn't even occur to them... so there must be quite a few people who don't send gifts.

Thumballina Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:30 AM

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I always send something if I can't attend...I would feel rude if I didn't...but thats just me

Mayflower Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:33 AM

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Posted by Katie&Chris2006

i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.

exactly.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:34 AM

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It depends on who the person is. Recently, I was invited to a shower that I didn't even know the bride. I was asked at another function, did not receive an actual invite and they didn't even have my name, I was 'FI's fiance'. I wasn't able to attend, and I did not send a gift.

If it's someone I know, then yes, I would send a gift.

hocus Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:09 AM

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You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.

Fairytale Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:12 AM

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I always do also.

nygirl77 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:14 AM

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Posted by hocus

You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.

I feel this way too. However, I do usually send a gift if I can't attend.

smara Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:16 AM

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You aren't required, but it is nice to send something..

thumper9878 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:17 AM

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I always do if I can't attend. My style too. I guess because they invited me, I thought it would still be nice to send something.

PrincessRose Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:18 AM

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I'm torn on this. I always do send a gift if I can't make the shower. However, I had a friend not come to my shower because she couldn't afford the train ticket and a gift. A week later, her gift arrives - it's something very useful, but I know that the cost of buying and shipping it was equal to the cost of the train ticket she couldn't have afforded. If it had been up to me, I would've told her to forego the gift and buy the train ticket instead. Her being at my shower would've meant more to me.