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Shower Guest List: POLL

siffleuse319 Posted:

Shower Guest List: POLL

There's a lot of different perspectives on this one.

Kimbalina Posted:

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I am the females bride is friendly with-
I am not inviting G/f's of guys that are invited to the wedding that I do not know.
siffleuse319 Posted:

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I am not inviting G/f's of guys that are invited to the wedding that I do not know.


That is very helpful....thanks for being so specific. FH doesn't think I should invite his friends wives that he or I barely know. But both my MOH and FMIL are deeply rooted in tradition. I am not getting involved really. I think I should just give the master address list and then the planners can pick and choose who gets an invite.
jteach711 Posted:

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I only did close family and friends. My list has like 40 women on it. FH has like no family, but we probably have like 100 women invited to the wedding. I did not want all of them at my shower.

jessica08bride Posted:

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we are doing only close family members and friends. they asked me for my guest list and i chose who i wanted to be there. for example, i did not invite most of my female coworkers or gf's of some of my FH's friends. i really invited people more on my side that i was fairly close to.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted:

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Posted by Kimbalina

I am the females bride is friendly with-
I am not inviting G/f's of guys that are invited to the wedding that I do not know.


thats what i would do too
Shelly9697 Posted:

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

Posted by Kimbalina

I am the females bride is friendly with-
I am not inviting G/f's of guys that are invited to the wedding that I do not know.


thats what i would do too


Same here!!
RadiantBride Posted:

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I am using females that I or groom has a familiarity with. For example if it is Mr X's wife that neither of us know, then I didnt put her on the shower list.

dannisayz Posted:

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All females that are close family on both bride and groom side are invited (even though I haven't met most of them on FH's side) and close female friends of mine.

MrsK2008 Posted:

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my FMIL and I go around and around on this one. In her day, every female invited to the wedding is supposed to be invited to shower.

oh well.

My family lives in the midwest, Iowa, Kansas and Oklahoma.........my shower will be in Kansas.

FMIL was furious it is going to be there, saying it is unreasonable to ask people to go there and not to expect her in attendance. ( so classy I know) What the bleep does this b.i.t.c.h. want from me? My mom is paying for the reception and my 1/6 of my family will be in attendance because they all have to travel here. I have 30 family members who cannot come to my wedding because it is too darn expensive. At least if I have my shower in Kansas they can celebrate with me. Right?

IMO, showers are for people who know you or you will have a lot of contact with via FH, and everyone else can s.u.c.k. it!
Annoulak Posted:

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Other:
I will invite the females on my side of the family who i'm close with, and on FH's side who he's close with, along with certain individuals that my mother and his mother tell me i MUST invite (they have their reasons). I will also invite my friends, but only a handful, not everyone i know.
SparkyandAng Posted:

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Posted by jteach711

I only did close family and friends. My list has like 40 women on it. FH has like no family, but we probably have like 100 women invited to the wedding. I did not want all of them at my shower.


Totally agree with you!
roan126 Posted:

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I just went through this. I wanted to only invite people who were local and OOT people who I thought would come. My mom fought me on it, and said that some OOT people would be insulted if they werent invited, even though we knew there was no chance they would come. In the end she won, and we invited obscure relatives that were probably like 'why the heck did I get invited to this shower?' when they got the invites.

Although, as it turns out, some OOT people that I never thought would come are flying in for it, which is really nice.

But in the end, I am a firm believer in only local people that are close to the bride.
DnellD809 Posted:

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I definitely think it should be women that the bride knows and is friendly with. I just feel like a shower is a more intimate part of the wedding process. Either way it works but I would only want my close friends and family at mine.

MayWeddingGrl Posted:

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Only invited females that are my friends or on my side of the family, with the exception of FMIL. Feel weird inviting FH's female cousins and aunts.

bella1028 Posted:

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for me, i would like only those who i feel i am somewhat close to...like obviously family and friends, but also friends of my parents or FH's poarents that I know and have met and also know are an important part of their lives...I am not having all the females who will be at the wedding there though

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted:

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I am pretty much inviting only those females I am friendly with. Exceptions: all close female family on both sides will be invited (FMIL has some family in FL being invited to the wedding, but they will not be invited to the shower) and friends of FMIL that she is close with but whom I have not met.
ETA: for me, I will be inviting to the shower 75% of the women invited to the wedding, since we are having only about 150 people and almost all are close family or friends.
del Rio Posted:

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I voted other.
I made the entire guest list based on our family, friends, and co-workers and FILs family and friends. The guest list was maxed out at 60 and that pretty much determined the entire list.
I know I extended invitations to the GMs significant others even if they weren't in my wedding party.

So far I only handed my MOH the list and the rest is up to her.

HTH
Espo22 Posted:

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we are NOT inviting all females invited to the wedding, it would be too much.

Here is who i put on my guest list. Both of our families, my bp, and other close female friends of mine. Then when it came to gf's, wives, fiancee's of fh's friends what i did was invite those that we see alot and i know well, i have been to their showers too. I did not invite gf's of fh's friends that i do not even know, or know well but only met a few times. If you look at the etiquette of showers it says invite close family and friends. I invited 70 women, if i invited all the women invited to the wedding it would've been over 150 PLUS every shower i went to its also those you are close to. Ive been to weddings where i wasnt invited to the shower and wouldnt have even expected to be invited and would've been surprised if i was.
Munchkn16 Posted:

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Posted by jessica08bride

we are doing only close family members and friends. they asked me for my guest list and i chose who i wanted to be there. for example, i did not invite most of my female coworkers or gf's of some of my FH's friends. i really invited people more on my side that i was fairly close to.


we did the exact same thing. my family, my close friends, fh's local relatives, and two of his childhood friends. my mother is hosting and paying for the whole thing, and couldn't invite the entire world.

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